Dating High Maintenance Guys

  • kevmoran

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    Jun 08, 2013 4:02 AM GMT
    So I want a second opinion on this. I have dated this guy off and on for the past year or so. One of the points he always brings up is that I'm "high maintenance". His main reason for saying this is that I dye my hair (along with a few other products and a sizable closet).

    So my question is, does a guys grooming practices really affect your attraction to him? I know I regularly turn off guys because of how I look, I'm just curious exactly what they're thinking. How does "high maintenance" affect you? I'm doing all the damn maintenance.
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:04 AM GMT
    lolno said

    So my question is, does a guys grooming practices really affect your attraction to him?


    Abso-fucking-lutely. I'm gay - I don't want to date a chick. Hello?
  • kevmoran

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    Jun 08, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    lolno said

    So my question is, does a guys grooming practices really affect your attraction to him?


    Abso-fucking-lutely. I'm gay - I don't want to date a chick. Hello?

    Does a chick have a dick like I do? Can she fuck you with said dick? Thought so.
  • kevmoran

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    Jun 08, 2013 4:07 AM GMT
    It's also worth mentioning I'm not really as feminine as I joke to be on here. I'm really a reserved kinda guy and I like to fix things and hike and stay at home. I just have some material interests.
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:07 AM GMT
    lolno said
    Scruffypup said
    lolno said

    So my question is, does a guys grooming practices really affect your attraction to him?


    Abso-fucking-lutely. I'm gay - I don't want to date a chick. Hello?

    Does a chick have a dick like I do? Can she fuck you with said dick? Thought so.



    Sexual attraction might be just about genitals to you but it's not for me (and apparently not for the guys you're dating either.)
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:11 AM GMT
    Grooming habits don't define a high maintenance person. High Maintenance people are the ones who are never really satisfied, nothing you do is really that good enough for them, nowhere you go is that special, you just give, give, give and do and they're kinda like meh. Taking a long while to do your hair doesn't make you high maintenance.
  • kevmoran

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    Jun 08, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidSexual attraction might be just about genitals to you but it's not for me (and apparently not for the guys you're dating either.)

    If I was 5'4" and had tits your argument would be pretty sound... But I am male in every way shape and form. Sorry I'm not the ideal 1950's butch man, but neither are you sweetie.

    My real question is why guys would be detracted by things that don't make me look more or less masculine, just plain better. Or with the hair, just something I like to play around with.
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    I personally don't care for stuff like that, and as long as it doesn't directly affect me, I wouldn't care.

    However, I'm thinking there's more to this than meets the eye.
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:18 AM GMT
    "I know I regularly turn off guys because of how I look, I'm just curious exactly what they're thinking."

    You created a thread asking for opinions and then get upset when you get answers. Sorry if you don't like my answers but I have a feeling your dates would probably agree with me. It's annoying as hell to date a guy that primps in the bathroom all the time.
  • kevmoran

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    Jun 08, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said"I know I regularly turn off guys because of how I look, I'm just curious exactly what they're thinking."

    You created a thread asking for opinions and then get upset when you get answers. Sorry if you don't like my answers but I have a feeling your dates would probably agree with me. It's annoying as hell to date a guy that primps in the bathroom all the time.

    The reason I wanted opinions was so I could discuss/argue them. Mostly for entertainment. And I should clarify, I'm not the primpy type, and I get ready in about 15 minutes. I just tend to look the part, and I'm curious what guys don't like about that. I guess I got your end of the thought process.
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:26 AM GMT
    Playing around with appearance doesn't make someone high maintenance...
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:26 AM GMT
    lolno saidI guess I got your end of the thought process.
    Most of his thought process is white noise.
  • kevmoran

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    Jun 08, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    Neight saidPlaying around with appearance doesn't make someone high maintenance...

    does that mean its my acrylic nails or my implants
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:28 AM GMT
    lifesux said
    Scruffypup said"I know I regularly turn off guys because of how I look, I'm just curious exactly what they're thinking."

    You created a thread asking for opinions and then get upset when you get answers. Sorry if you don't like my answers but I have a feeling your dates would probably agree with me. It's annoying as hell to date a guy that primps in the bathroom all the time.

    The reason I wanted opinions was so I could discuss/argue them. Mostly for entertainment. And I should clarify, I'm not the primpy type, and I get ready in about 15 minutes. I just tend to look the part, and I'm curious what guys don't like about that. I guess I got your end of the thought process.


    Then maybe I'm confused. So it's "looking the part" that's the issue for them?
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:31 AM GMT
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  • LoveAndPeace

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    Jun 08, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    Can I have your babies and go on maury to see if you da baby fovva?
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:34 AM GMT
    Your on-and-off boyf is confusing the term "high maintenance" for caring about your appearance.
    Matiz got it pretty spot-on.

    Also, this bullshit about "i don't want to date a chick" - Some men dye their hair sometimes . Some men wear cologne sometimes . Some men own a comb and use said comb to keep their hair tidy sometimes. Most men wear deodorant hopefully most of the time. This has nothing to do with gender.
  • kevmoran

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    Jun 08, 2013 4:39 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidThen maybe I'm confused. So it's "looking the part" that's the issue for them?

    At least that's my guess. I can't imagine the once a month I dye my hair or extra 30 seconds at night I spend using eye cream really affects their life. It's just the fact that I have different color hair every once in awhile and a vast wardrobe. Tbh I really just created this thread to get some real opinions then some playful arguing to pass the time.
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    IDK
    Dating a muscle/fitness freak can be just as high maintenance.
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    Don't get me started on the OCD freaks--haven't live till you've watched a guy melt down because the tooth brush was left on the sink.
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    lifesux saidSo my question is, does a guys grooming practices really affect your attraction to him?
    I'm attracted to guys who take showers and... and... brush their teeth!
    Shocking, I know.
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:54 AM GMT
    Of course. If you don't have 1001 reasons why you can't date someone, you don't have standards.
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    Jun 08, 2013 4:56 AM GMT
    Macaque saidOf course. If you don't have 1001 reasons why you can't date someone, you don't have standards.
    i only have 1000 :'(
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 08, 2013 5:09 AM GMT
    It sounds like you're not high maintenance enough. You should be demanding nice restaurants, sweetie.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 08, 2013 5:10 AM GMT
    Masculism said
    Macaque saidOf course. If you don't have 1001 reasons why you can't date someone, you don't have standards.
    i only have 1000 :'(

    judging you
  • kevmoran

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    Jun 08, 2013 5:15 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidIt sounds like you're not high maintenance enough. You should be demanding nice restaurants, sweetie.

    teach me your ways, grand gold digger <3