Are you offended by Lesbians?

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    Jun 08, 2013 8:30 AM GMT
    So at the suggestion of a friend, I went to 'Lesbian' night at 1 of the normally majority gay clubs. We see Lesbians all the time, but how do some of us really feel about them?

    Something about girls giving off this macho-male get-up annoys me after awhile I guess in the same way a straight guy would feel being around male cross-dressers maybe. I seen 1 girl with some sort of painted or stitched on chinstrap side-burn beard. It's like, you don't have to play mimicry to avoid detection like at a straight bar. Of course, there are people who go for drag, so I'm sure there's something in it for them too. There are ones who are super butch and masculine and all in your face. I also notice Lesbians couples are very into PDA (public display of affection). I was at Chipotle with a date the other week, and these 2 Lesbian chicks are tongue swapping from the time they walked in the door til the time they sat right behind us (all I could hear was exchange of saliva) to the time we walked out. And this was no where NEAR the gay area of town!

    I hung around at the club for a little over an hour or so, but some of the girls my friend knew were really friendly and I was getting hit on harder by chicks than by gay men on an average night LOL. So it's not anything against a single lesbian woman being who she is. But just Lesbian women in general, I don't really care to be around them like that. Like, I won't shriek back in horror or refuse to shake their hand or non of that bullshit...but on a personal level, It's not a relationship I've tried to pursue otherwise.
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    Jun 08, 2013 8:34 AM GMT
    do you have a problem with "feminine" guys too
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    Jun 08, 2013 8:38 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    I think what gets me is the fact some of them are trying so hard to be men. I seen a...gal? tonight who had a fake chinstrap goatee, the whole 9 like a beard. And majority just seemed like they wanted to dress like gay men or homothugs. Of course, this would make it seem like guys dressing in drag are deemed 'acceptable', but see that's why I can't say I'm against it.


    What you said there. . .

    Just let them be them. They're probably not comfortable around a bunch of gay guys either.

    Personally I'm not offended by them, nor am I intimidated (which I think you are).
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    Jun 08, 2013 8:40 AM GMT
    Neight saiddo you have a problem with "feminine" guys too

    As long as he's giving up that ass, I could give a fuck.

    No but seriously, even many feminine guys...as long as he's not borderline androgynous; still keep their male attributes. I don't think Fem guys are TRYING to be like women, they just have a little sugar in their tank. They can still have a beard, and wear guy clothes like a guy would. That's sort of a different topic anyway. That said, I don't particularly care to associate around many fem guys either.
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    Jun 08, 2013 8:49 AM GMT
    Slim2010 said
    Just let them be them. They're probably not comfortable around a bunch of gay guys either. Personally I'm not offended by them, nor am I intimidated (which I think you are).


    I am letting them be them. I didn't approach anybody and voice my opinion to them. Because I know that if I wanted to leave, I could do that. That's why the club designates it as 'Lesbian' night.

    Like I said, I'm not trying to come off as condescending, pretentious or haughty...but I'm trying to get some sort of understanding perhaps. See how other people feel about Lesbian interactions. The guy I was hanging out with tonight just happened to be a 'LESBRO' (new word today). He had tons and tons of Lesbian friends and I've never met a guy like that before. Even he said it himself that he's 'odd' like that.
  • Fable

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    Jun 08, 2013 11:11 AM GMT
    This is a flame war waiting to happen. Goody.
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    Jun 08, 2013 11:12 AM GMT
    No. My sister is one of them





  • Just_Tim

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    Jun 08, 2013 11:48 AM GMT
    Oh absolutely! Their existence insults my very lifestyle and their happiness directly takes away from my own icon_rolleyes.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 08, 2013 12:17 PM GMT
    I know some great lesbians, a couple of them, maybe not so much, but I certainly am not "offended" by them, thats a little harsh. You can be offended by anybody I suppose, but never to classify them that way!
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    Jun 08, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    Oh look. Another negative thinking thread by FuzzyPecs. As usual.
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    Jun 08, 2013 2:46 PM GMT
    They are really great when your car breaks down or you need some light carpentry. icon_wink.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 08, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    EdwardV1 saidNo. My sister is one of them







    Same here! My sister is a lesbian, and she's the smart, successful one in the family. I'm very proud of her!!!icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 08, 2013 2:51 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    EdwardV1 saidNo. My sister is one of them

    So is my daughter and her fiancee.


    So then, I guess Fuzzy is finding out how some of us really feel about lesbians, and it's not what he feels.

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    Lesbians are people like you and I Fuzzy, and as diverse and divergent in their lives as you and I.
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    Jun 08, 2013 2:52 PM GMT
    Offended? No, I'm thankful for their existence! In fact, the world needs more lesbians.

    More lesbians = less straight guys = win. icon_biggrin.gif
  • waynerd

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    Jun 08, 2013 2:55 PM GMT
    I'm not offended or intimidated by Lesbians. One of my best friends is a lesbian.

    However, I don't want to see (or hear) "saliva swapping) from anyone, gay, straight, or anywhere in between. I quick kiss or two is one thing, but not a full on make out session, especially while I'm trying to eat.

  • HottJoe

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    Jun 08, 2013 2:58 PM GMT
    waynerd saidI'm not offended or intimidated by Lesbians. I don't want to see (or hear) "saliva swapping) from anyone, gay, straight, or anywhere in between.


    That's odd! So, PDA grates on you?? I thought that only bothered religious people who thought kissing was a sin.icon_confused.gif
  • Asmodeus

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    Jun 08, 2013 3:01 PM GMT
    Offended? No, Annoyed? Yes, a lot of drama!
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 08, 2013 3:07 PM GMT
    Asmodeus saidOffended? No, Annoyed? Yes, a lot of drama!


    Why would lesbian "drama" annoy you? You're not a lesbian.icon_confused.gif
  • kevmoran

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    Jun 08, 2013 3:10 PM GMT
    Yea I'm offended, when will they learn that camo pants and a plaid shirt do NOT go together.
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    Jun 08, 2013 3:14 PM GMT
    I think Lesbians are the coolest! So much to learn from them and vice/versa. If we were to unite In our divided LGBT community we would be so much more better than we presently are. (At least in my opinion)

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    Jun 08, 2013 3:28 PM GMT
    Thank you for starting this thread. I hate to sound bigoted, but I've had a few rather unpleasant experiences with lesbians and often find them to be too aggressive and (strangely) duplicitous.
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    Jun 08, 2013 3:35 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 saidLike, I won't shriek back in horror or refuse to shake their hand or non of that bullshit...but on a personal level, It's not a relationship I've tried to pursue otherwise.

    We have a wide range of lesbian friends. Our opticians are a lesbian couple, and we've had them to our place for dinner (I created custom table place cards for everyone that featured Dame Edna wearing her signature bejeweled eyeglasses - they loved the humor in their honor).

    We visit a lesbian bar at least weekly, friends of the owners, and they now have a tapas bar location, too, that we promote heavily and take gay friends to. In fact, one lesbian owner tells us she wants more male customers, she says the lesbians are noisy, hog the tables all night, and are lousy tippers. icon_eek.gif

    We also participate in her annual charity golf tournament, Iron Ladies, to benefit women's causes. And it's from her I got my present golf bag.

    My partner and his best friend founded Florida's first gay & lesbian mixed chorus, with which I myself later performed. We'd all go out and party after rehearsals and shows, and we socialized with the lesbians at other times, too, at dinners, pool parties, etc.

    I only have real problems with lesbians when they cause problems with me, same as with anyone. Some will remember how I got beat up on RJ over what I thought was a comical encounter with a lesbian trying to poach a handicapped parking space from a gay bar's restricted lot, so she could actually go to the lesbian bar I mentioned above.

    I wouldn't accept that from a gay, and I won't accept that from a lesbian. And BTW, that lesbian bar will tow gay cars, too, that poach from their own restricted parking lot to attend a different bar.

    So can gay men get along with lesbians, and vice versa? Absolutely! Do I like avowed anti-male lesbians with a chip on their shoulders about men? Of course not. But in my experience most lesbians aren't that way, and I hope most gay men aren't toward lesbians, either.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 08, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidThank you for starting this thread. I hate to sound bigoted, but I've had a few rather unpleasant experiences with lesbians and often find them to be too aggressive and (strangely) duplicitous.


    You are in a fragile glass house, boy.
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    Jun 08, 2013 3:42 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    B2391 saidI think Lesbians are the coolest! So much to learn from them and vice/versa. If we were to unite In our divided LGBT community we would be so much more better than we presently are. (At least in my opinion)


    + 1 billion


    + 5 more trillion.