Gay date turned into a murder, and precautions to take to avoid such incidences..

  • sonuus

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    Jun 08, 2013 12:51 PM GMT
    Indian men was murdered by his date in his house.

    http://gaysifamily.com/2013/06/06/gay-man-murdered-in-kolkata/

    Have you been through any incidences where your date turned out to be a thug.

    What precautions do you guys take while calling your date home while you are alone?
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    Jun 08, 2013 12:54 PM GMT
    one guy i sort of dated apparently stole a car and went to jail so i was like bye bitch
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    Jun 08, 2013 1:17 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    Masculism saidone guy i sort of dated apparently stole a car and went to jail so i was like bye bitch

    Good morning Anduru/McQueen. Is it cold up in Cananda today?

    Are you sure of that? Might explain his posts to me in another thread today. Though I thought Andrew & I were on friendlier terms the last few months.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 08, 2013 1:48 PM GMT
    It's a huge risk inviting someone you don't know to your home. You should always meet people you don't know in a public place.

    Edit:damn, he was cute.
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    Jun 08, 2013 2:05 PM GMT
    ART_DECO saidAre you sure of that? Might explain his posts to me in another thread today. Though I thought Andrew & I were on friendlier terms the last few months.
    is that why ur messaging people trying to find out who he is so u can report him icon_smile.gif
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 08, 2013 2:31 PM GMT
    Terrible. But it could be worse.. like that poor Chinese man killed in Canada by that serial killer on video. Ugh. That still gives me shivers.
  • sonuus

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    Jun 08, 2013 7:36 PM GMT
    Any suggestions welcome!
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    Jun 08, 2013 7:42 PM GMT
    sonuus saidAny suggestions welcome!
    Don't hookup with guys online when living in a country that hates gays.
  • sonuus

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    Jun 08, 2013 7:51 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    sonuus saidAny suggestions welcome!
    Don't hookup with guys online when living in a country that hates gays.


    FYI-Actually not sure if you know but India is much more tolerant when it comes to sexuality or gender expression, there are also gods in Indian mythology which are of mixed gender!
    Two men could walk hand in hand without even raising any eyebrows in most conservative part of India.
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    Jun 08, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    I think we can all agree gay dating is murder.
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    Jun 08, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    Matiz saidI think we can all agree gay dating is murder.
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  • sonuus

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    Jun 08, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    sonuus saidAny suggestions welcome!
    Don't hookup with guys online when living in a country that hates gays.


    This was not a hate crime and has nothing to do with the country, this was about a random date you try to hook up with and turns out to be a thug! it can happen any were in the world.
  • MarvelClimber

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    Jun 08, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    Whether you meet someone in person or online doesn't really matter. In person, someone could slip something in your drink or needle you in the bathroom or a dark corner. The best thing to do is to always have friends who know where you are and who you're with. Carry a blade when you go to someone's place and always have a blade, if not several, under the mattress and in strategic places around your place if you bring someone over.

    No one is ever so hot or charming to be above suspicion. If there's a red flag, slow down. End things without apology. People often continue on with something they feel uncomfortable with just not to be rude. Don't let anyone tie you up or push you into a dark place. If the windows have locks on them, NO. Basement apartments, NO.

    Bad things happen sometimes. You might never have been able to prevent it. But what you can do in that moment is to be ready. If you're not getting out unscathed or alive...they won't be either.

    Be ready!
  • sonuus

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    Jun 08, 2013 9:45 PM GMT
    HisAlterEgo saidWhether you meet someone in person or online doesn't really matter. In person, someone could slip something in your drink or needle you in the bathroom or a dark corner. The best thing to do is to always have friends who know where you are and who you're with. Carry a blade when you go to someone's place and always have a blade, if not several, under the mattress and in strategic places around your place if you bring someone over.

    No one is ever so hot or charming to be above suspicion. If there's a red flag, slow down. End things without apology. People often continue on with something they feel uncomfortable with just not to be rude. Don't let anyone tie you up or push you into a dark place. If the windows have locks on them, NO. Basement apartments, NO.

    Bad things happen sometimes. You might never have been able to prevent it. But what you can do in that moment is to be ready. If you're not getting out unscathed or alive...they won't be either.

    Be ready!


    Thanks!
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    Jun 08, 2013 9:48 PM GMT
    Back in the day when I could be bothered getting some horny bastard over, for what always ultimately is a bad fuck, i would always text a friend and let them know what I was up to.
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    Jun 08, 2013 9:49 PM GMT
    Masculism saidone guy i sort of dated apparently stole a car and went to jail so i was like bye bitch
    and mashoga wouldve said yes please
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    Jun 08, 2013 9:51 PM GMT
    Neight said
    Masculism saidone guy i sort of dated apparently stole a car and went to jail so i was like bye bitch
    and mashoga wouldve said yes please
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  • chadwick1985

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    Jun 08, 2013 10:16 PM GMT
    I try not to go to a guys house that I just met. Honestly I am always armed so its not as dangerous for me as it could be for those of you who aren't armed..

    My recommendations: don't go to a guys house you don't know, meet them in public and talk for a while. Trust your gut, if it is telling you something isn't right, go with it. Your gut is usually right. When going to a guys house maybe text a friend the address and apt number once you get there so they know where you are. I would also recommend you carry some sort of weapon on you. Tether it be a can of pepper spray (keychain cans work too), a folding knife or gun depending on your comfort level. If the guy gets weird get out, don't wait.
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    Jun 08, 2013 11:02 PM GMT
    chadwick1985 saidI try not to go to a guys house that I just met. Honestly I am always armed so its not as dangerous for me as it could be for those of you who aren't armed..
    You bring a gun on a date?
    You must be the crazy bitch everyone in this thread is trying to avoid.
  • chadwick1985

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    Jun 08, 2013 11:08 PM GMT
    Masculism said
    chadwick1985 saidI try not to go to a guys house that I just met. Honestly I am always armed so its not as dangerous for me as it could be for those of you who aren't armed..
    You bring a gun on a date?
    You must be the crazy bitch everyone in this thread is trying to avoid.



    Not crazy. Carry one for work, don't take it off outside of work either. I carry to make sure I am safe, my date is safe and the people around are safe. If something happens, I have it there to protect all of the people around other than the bad guy. If you worked in my job you would kind of understand.
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    Jun 08, 2013 11:14 PM GMT
    sonuus said
    paulflexes said
    sonuus saidAny suggestions welcome!
    Don't hookup with guys online when living in a country that hates gays.


    FYI-Actually not sure if you know but India is much more tolerant when it comes to sexuality or gender expression, there are also gods in Indian mythology which are of mixed gender!
    Two men could walk hand in hand without even raising any eyebrows in most conservative part of India.


    The only discrimination act I've received was from an Indian guy, who screamed at me "STAY AWAY FROM ME!!! YOU'RE DISGUSTING" in the middle of a party at my freaking place.

    I have friends who have friends in India who are gay and they've told me horrible stories about what they have gone through.

    On another note, like AMoonHawk said, you should always meet people first in public places.
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    Jun 08, 2013 11:25 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    sonuus saidAny suggestions welcome!
    Don't hookup with guys online when living in a country that hates gays.


    Well, what do you know about India? Know the facts and then comment, my friend...India never was against guys being gay. I agree some friction is there in the society but certainly that's not an extreme hatred like mid-eastern countries.
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    Jun 08, 2013 11:26 PM GMT
    mpyear2010 saidKnow the facts and then comment


    You must be new here to ask that of a fellow poster.
  • Tombo

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    Jun 08, 2013 11:30 PM GMT
    What a horrid story! R.I.P.! It just goes to show that you shouldn't take "meeting in a public place" for granted.
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    Jun 09, 2013 12:21 AM GMT
    chadwick1985 said
    Masculism said
    chadwick1985 saidI try not to go to a guys house that I just met. Honestly I am always armed so its not as dangerous for me as it could be for those of you who aren't armed..
    You bring a gun on a date?
    You must be the crazy bitch everyone in this thread is trying to avoid.
    Not crazy. Carry one for work, don't take it off outside of work either. I carry to make sure I am safe, my date is safe and the people around are safe. If something happens, I have it there to protect all of the people around other than the bad guy. If you worked in my job you would kind of understand.
    If you lived in any country other than the United States of Crazy you would understand.