If a guy gives you his number on Grindr after a month chatting, what to do ?

  • EliReed

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    Jun 08, 2013 9:24 PM GMT
    I will get straight since I don't have enough experience with dating. I met a guy on Grindr and we seem really connected. We have been chatting more than a month but we never met. We exchanged our pictures and sometimes we even had sex talk. He even mentioned me the guy he wants to date with. First time I though we are like buddies, but I don't know do buddies do stuffs like this ? Today he just left a message giving his number and with text me sometime note.

    I know maybe this all doesn't make so much sense, maybe it is just another grindr hook up which I don't wanna fall into. Any advice would be appreciated.
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    Jun 08, 2013 9:36 PM GMT
    Its just a hook up matey, if he wanted to meet you he would have done by now sorry for your loss in advance lol
  • mybud

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    Jun 09, 2013 2:33 AM GMT
    It's a booty call.
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    Jun 09, 2013 3:13 AM GMT
    yiboz saidIts just a hook up matey, if he wanted to meet you he would have done by now sorry for your loss in advance lol

    LMFAO! hahahaha
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    Jun 09, 2013 3:15 AM GMT
    yiboz saidIts just a hook up matey, if he wanted to meet you he would have done by now sorry for your loss in advance lol


    Actually, it should be the other way around.
    Who waits for a whole month of conversation before a booty call lol?
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    Jun 09, 2013 3:18 AM GMT
    Why not call him?

    What do you have to lose?

    Go for it. It might turn into something or it might not. Life is Life.
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    Jun 09, 2013 4:04 AM GMT
    first
    and for most
    C2C
  • madsexy

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    Jun 09, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    A month on Grindr and no sex? That's some weird chat fetish or something!
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    Jun 09, 2013 4:16 AM GMT
    I'd call him and say, "Oh, this is so sudden! You've not even met my parents yet. I don't know what to say. You've got me blushing here. Perhaps with proper chaperoning, I'll let you take me out for a malted milk. Get me home by 9:00 PM and I'll allow you a peck on my cheek."
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    Jun 09, 2013 4:17 AM GMT
    What a horrible story of a lack of communications skills, and social nuance. You talked to someone via a mechanism slower than the telegraph for a month, and don't have NAMES and NUMBERS? Oh my deity. News flash: there's a 150 year old invention that's vastly better for communications. It's called THE TELEPHONE. Oh my deity. Get some social skills.

    What nut case chats on a hook up app for a month without picking up the phone? Sex, no sex, date, etc.? Have no idea how to evolve a social relationship?

    Give him your number. Ask him to call you. If he calls you ask, ask him out for coffee...or.....now...this is going to be too easy, just ask him if he'd call to call you and arrange a date! What a fucking novel concept, eh? It's called dating. It's never a sure thing. You might get lucky, or you might not. You might like him in The Real World, or you might not.

    Stop hiding behind your smart phone and STEP INTO THE REAL WORLD.

    Go on the date...IN THE REAL WORLD, and if it leads to a one nighter...fine.. If it leads to a life time romance...fine. GET OFF THE FUCKING APP AND INTO THE REAL WORLD. DOH!

    I know you're only 18, but, there's a thing that's been going on for thousands of years before smart phone apps. It's called courtship / dating. It's a social skill you need to embrace. GET OFF THE APP. GET IN THE CAR. GO ON THE DATE.
  • Suetonius

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    Jun 09, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    OP, Chuckystud is right on, although he said it a bit more stridently than I would have. Call him and chat - it might go some where - it might not - or maybe you meet and become bridge partners or skateboard mates, or whatever 18 year olds do in 2013. What was your point in messaging him for a month if you didn't want to meet him??
  • waccamatt

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    Jun 09, 2013 4:38 AM GMT
    I had someone message me on Grindr and he said he just wanted to be friends so I took him at his word. After several weeks of texting we met for a few beers and then the next time we went to a ball game. You just never know. Those apps are usually for hook ups, but that's not always the case.