dating someone who does drag?


  • Jun 09, 2013 6:53 AM GMT
    so mini confession here to the fact a lot of my close friends are drag queens and i myself have a performed before just a few times but have never committed to it fully..

    but i do sometimes think i hold back as to what someone -- i.e. a "prospect" would think if he found out i have done/ do drag on the side..

    i myself , am a gay man who have a "character" that i perform as.. this is not an everyday i am woman - T Girl - kai kai - panty fetish any kinda thing-- not that there is anything wrong with that but annywayyy

    what do you guys think and state why? lol can i get some logical and mature answers please? lol
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    Jun 09, 2013 11:39 AM GMT
    A good friend of mine dated another guy who did drag. They were together for 3 years and not once in conversation did he mention about his former partner doing drag. To my friend, what mattered was the guy's heart and not what he was wearing for the next show.
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    Jun 09, 2013 11:41 AM GMT
    No problem as long as he's hot.
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    Jun 09, 2013 11:48 AM GMT
    If you don't have a problem with it, your potentials won't either. Never ever present it as something you have to confess to, but as something you have a blast doing.
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    Jun 09, 2013 3:29 PM GMT
    I honestly don't know. I think you deserve to be with someone who is fully comfortable with who you are. You just might have to educate them and be patient while they absorb it. I see it as a gender identification thing more than I see it as a gay thing. Be yourself and you never know... You might meet your partner through drag.
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    Jun 09, 2013 3:36 PM GMT
    No one cares.
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    Jun 09, 2013 4:05 PM GMT
    I don't think I could date a guy who does drag. I understand all that is said by the very wide spectrum of guys who are into it but to me, it still suggests a kind of yearning for femininity/dislike of masculinity that just doesn't appeal to me. It is just a turn-off, not a character flaw. Kind of like guys that like to call other men "Girl." A bit of sexual confusion as opposed to orientation.

  • Jun 09, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidI don't think I could date a guy who does drag. I understand all that is said by the very wide spectrum of guys who are into it but to me, it still suggests a kind of yearning for femininity/dislike of masculinity that just doesn't appeal to me. It is just a turn-off, not a character flaw. Kind of like guys that like to call other men "Girl." A bit of sexual confusion as opposed to orientation.


    well it would be different if i was oh i need you to call me by my drag name and telling people i identify as a woman - which --- uhhh i dont lol....

    however i still have friends who do drag that instead of mean consider themselves women - just performers..

    lol like if i wanted to be a woman this shit would have already been done lol
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    Jun 09, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    I dated a Drag Artist once.

    He was COMPLETELY different when not working.

    It was a character. Nothing more...

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    Jun 09, 2013 4:41 PM GMT
    If i were single, as long as its just a character.
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    Jun 09, 2013 4:46 PM GMT
    It is a character that he uses to perform on stage , out of stage he is just a regular man , mot much different than a TV or movie actor ...So yes i would .
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    Jun 09, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    I am wearing moar make-up in My current main Pic than most Drag Queens.

    What's the difference???
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    Jun 09, 2013 9:32 PM GMT
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    Destinharbor saidI don't think I could date a guy who does drag. I understand all that is said by the very wide spectrum of guys who are into it but to me, it still suggests a kind of yearning for femininity/dislike of masculinity that just doesn't appeal to me. It is just a turn-off, not a character flaw. Kind of like guys that like to call other men "Girl." A bit of sexual confusion as opposed to orientation.


    well it would be different if i was oh i need you to call me by my drag name and telling people i identify as a woman - which --- uhhh i dont lol....

    however i still have friends who do drag that instead of mean consider themselves women - just performers..

    lol like if i wanted to be a woman this shit would have already been done lol

    Sorry. Didn't mean to offend. You asked. I think you have some sexual identification issues or you wouldn't be jumping so hard on my mild answer. "The lady doth protest too much, methinks." Shakespeare.
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    Jun 09, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    I think the only people who have a problem with drag are those who are not very confident of their sexual identity.

    Life is a series of experiments, so I don't see why a guy would have a problem with a partner having done drag in the past.

    Some may have a problem with a man being equally torn between drag and their normal personality(or whatever you'd call it). I think the biggest problem is that some people may feel excluded when they can't get to know a person completely or when they learn too much about a person too quickly.

    Having a drag life is definitely something you'd have to bring up at the right time, though I don't see why anyone would have a problem with it, unless they had their own issues.

    However, in your case, only doing it once in a while, I fail to see how anyone would have a problem with it. I think it would be a very interesting way to get to know each other more.
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    Jun 09, 2013 11:48 PM GMT
    Myol saidI honestly don't know. I think you deserve to be with someone who is fully comfortable with who you are. You just might have to educate them and be patient while they absorb it. I see it as a gender identification thing more than I see it as a gay thing. Be yourself and you never know... You might meet your partner through drag.


    There are plenty of guys who don't need to be educated. A lot of gay, and especially a lot of masc bi men, would rather be with someone more fem, and as Cash said drag queens are performers. He could be a totally different person when he's not at work (workin it).
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    Jun 09, 2013 11:57 PM GMT
    I'm depressed that you would ever cover that handsome face - but it's an emotional repsonse.
    I've always wondered whether cross dresses where men who
    1 - like to wear makeup and dresses
    or
    2 - like to dress like the opposite sex.
    What I mean is, different cultures wear different clothing.
    What would a cross dresser do in a country were the men wear dresses?
    Get me?
    Who's the cross-dresser below?
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    Jun 09, 2013 11:57 PM GMT
    huhwhat saidNo one cares.


    Ditto
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    Jun 10, 2013 12:00 AM GMT
    I went out with a man that did drag for AIDS benefits with his friends. They also (being rather well known) would show up dressed in full regalia on the odd drag night at bars.There was never a problem, and at one gay pride dance he decked me out in male drag, which meant blackening my eyebrows and mustache and beard, wearing a Rod Stewart style spiky wig that was black shot with metal tinsel highlights and an amazingly tailored formal black suit.
    No one recognized me, lol.

    The only time I felt uncomfortable was getting it on with him while the bi-fold closet doors were open. All those styrofoam heads wearing wigs seemed to be staring at us. icon_lol.gif

    -Doug

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    Jun 10, 2013 12:05 AM GMT
    JohnSpotter saidI'm depressed that you would ever cover that handsome face - but it's an emotional repsonse.
    I've always wondered whether cross dresses where men who
    1 - like to wear makeup and dresses
    or
    2 - like to dress like the opposite sex.
    What I mean is, different cultures wear different clothing.
    What would a cross dresser do in a country were the men wear dresses?
    Get me?
    Who's the cross-dresser below?
    F200708031426282538129573.jpg


    A drag queen is gay boy who's alter ego is Catwoman. He's only playing a part when the costume is on. It might mean a lot to him, but he's not trying to become a woman. A transsexual actually changes to opposite sex.
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    Jun 10, 2013 12:08 AM GMT
    you want to do drag , do it
    you want tons of muscle, build it
    be who you want to be
    be who you are
    drag is a job, a performance, its art
    it can be a living
    just dont lose who you are

    somebody wants to date you , make sure they date you and not the queen,
    the performer

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    Jun 10, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    I personally don't see why you feel the need to hide it. If you enjoy it so much, then why be ashamed of something that makes you happy? Actually, disclosing information like this can give you a really good grasp on whether you are compatible with whoever you are dating; you wouldn't want to date someone who would prevent you from doing something that you enjoy, would you?