I'm also in Fort Lauderdale, and I disagree with GQ about South Florida being a bad place to find a relationship. I'm in a monogamous relationship and am old, so I'm not hitting on you.
All that being said, I think Fort Lauderdale is a great place to find a relationship, but not necessarily in the bars. We actually have great organized sports and social activities. I've been acive in GLBT charities and some of the social functions/fund raisers have a lot of fun people. We do have a lot of transient visitors and the guys are so good looking it's hard to get past the looks/sex to find real people.
The other thing I sense from a lot of the writers on the forums who are looking for and haven't found the perfect person for a relationship, is just that...they are looking for the perfect person, and none of us are perfect. A relationship is about living together, submerging and compromising your likes and dislikes into those of another person and forging a new entity...a partnersip of the two of you.
Sometimes it's hard to find a circle of friends outside the bar scene, but once you do, you have or develop a support structure, and won't be so desperate to find a mate and will have help looking. I simply think you're looking in the wrong places.