Am I wrong in how I feel about this?

  • easterndude69

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    Jun 09, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    So I've been talking with this guy. We hung out once at the end of the school year. When I texted him later he wouldn't respond for a month. When I text him again saying I'm going to be coming by his area because of something, he tells me that I sketched he and his friends out because I was all up on him the entire time. We were high when that happened, but he didn't seem to mind it when it did happen. We didn't fuck that night. So I felt guilty about making him and his friends feel uncomfortable(maybe it took some time for him to reflect on his feelings about it- that he wasn't ready to come forward about how I made him feel that night or maybe he was initially ok with it at first, but then looked back it and was repulsed) and apologized for it.

    Later that day, he texts me looking to fuck me. He wondered if I wanted to do it Monday and I said sure we could. He texted me the next day saying he wanted to know the exact time of when we could do it. I told him that I didn't know when because I realized I have to go out and apply for jobs and Monday is a good day to do it. Then he said he wanted to know now. So I told him that I most likely couldn't because I have to continue my job search as that's my priority right now.

    Then he starts to get all hissy and throw a fit. He says he doesn't like being blown off and I shouldn't have told him I could. I said I was sorry but plans do change but at least I came forward about it to him instead of ignoring him and leaving him hanging. He's like "Yeah whatever". We talk more, but he continues to be b!tchy because I "blew him off" and he doesn't like it when ppl do that. I tried to ask him what was wrong and he just said that he didn't like being blown off. I tried to make things better with him but it didn't seem to work. He wasn't moved and he hasn't texted me back yet.

    What are your thoughts on this guys? I understand it hurts to be blown off and I hate it as much as he does, but don't you think he's being unreasonable? It's not like I didn't let him know what was going on. Plans do change, ppl get busy, and ppl have priorities. I have to continue in my job search and find a job to make some money which is my priority right now. I even said we could plan for another time, but that didn't move him. I understand he may still be upset about him making him feel uncomfortable the other night and now I tell him I can't do something that I said I could the day he wanted to, but that gives him no right to treat me this way. I'm not interested in putting up with another guy's bitchiness, and if they're just gonna keep bitching at me, why should I even deal with it? I'm trying to make things better with him, but if he doesn't try being more reasonable and accept that I may have more important things going on that I have to attend to sometimes, I don't think a bitchy guy like him is worth putting up with, and I don't need it. I figured I'd allow him some time to cool off, but so far, I'm thinking this guy isn't worth it at all. I'm not too worried about it, I'm just wondering am I being reasonable in how I feel about this or am I wrong?

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    Jun 09, 2013 11:12 PM GMT
    you aren't wrong in how YOU feel. it's YOUR life, you handle it how YOU want. not someone else.
  • easterndude69

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    Jun 09, 2013 11:31 PM GMT
    willular saidyou aren't wrong in how YOU feel. it's YOUR life, you handle it how YOU want. not someone else.


    Thank you. I just have no interest in dealing with bitchy guys. It seems he feels its ok to treat me this way because I made a couple mistakes. I don't feel like putting up with it nor do I have to, and I don't feel he has the right to treat me this way either way. Life's too short to have ppl that bring you down. I hate being blown off too, and it's happened alot to me, but we have to be realistic. People can't always follow through and in life, a bunch of sh!t happens and things turn up all the time. Plans can change. It is what it is.
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    Jun 10, 2013 12:14 AM GMT


    "he tells me that I sketched he and his friends out because I was all up on him the entire time. We were high when that happened, but he didn't seem to mind it when it did happen. We didn't fuck that night. So I felt guilty about making him and his friends feel uncomfortable(maybe it took some time for him to reflect on his feelings about it- that he wasn't ready to come forward about how I made him feel that night or maybe he was initially ok with it at first, but then looked back it and was repulsed) and apologized for it. "

    What does sketched him out mean?
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    Jun 10, 2013 12:19 AM GMT
    meninlove said

    "he tells me that I sketched he and his friends out because I was all up on him the entire time. We were high when that happened, but he didn't seem to mind it when it did happen. We didn't fuck that night. So I felt guilty about making him and his friends feel uncomfortable(maybe it took some time for him to reflect on his feelings about it- that he wasn't ready to come forward about how I made him feel that night or maybe he was initially ok with it at first, but then looked back it and was repulsed) and apologized for it. "

    What does sketched him out mean?



    freaked him out...
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    Jun 10, 2013 12:20 AM GMT
    NJDewd said
    meninlove said

    "he tells me that I sketched he and his friends out because I was all up on him the entire time. We were high when that happened, but he didn't seem to mind it when it did happen. We didn't fuck that night. So I felt guilty about making him and his friends feel uncomfortable(maybe it took some time for him to reflect on his feelings about it- that he wasn't ready to come forward about how I made him feel that night or maybe he was initially ok with it at first, but then looked back it and was repulsed) and apologized for it. "

    What does sketched him out mean?



    freaked him out...


    I'm old, because if that's it then I don't get it as there's not enough information.

    Freaked him out in what way?

    Humour the dense here, what does all up on him mean?
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    Jun 10, 2013 2:41 AM GMT
    Give him time, and let him make the next move.

    Honestly he sounds like a jerk to me. You'd probably be best moving on.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 10, 2013 3:22 AM GMT
    It is certain.
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    Jun 10, 2013 5:46 AM GMT
    Yep he is a dick and thinks the world owes him. Move on and don't look back.
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    Jun 10, 2013 6:26 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    NJDewd said
    meninlove said

    "he tells me that I sketched he and his friends out because I was all up on him the entire time. We were high when that happened, but he didn't seem to mind it when it did happen. We didn't fuck that night. So I felt guilty about making him and his friends feel uncomfortable(maybe it took some time for him to reflect on his feelings about it- that he wasn't ready to come forward about how I made him feel that night or maybe he was initially ok with it at first, but then looked back it and was repulsed) and apologized for it. "

    What does sketched him out mean?



    freaked him out...


    I'm old, because if that's it then I don't get it as there's not enough information.

    Freaked him out in what way?

    Humour the dense here, what does all up on him mean?


    Basically it means he was all touchy feely with the guy, without it necessarily being mutual...
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    Jun 10, 2013 6:31 AM GMT
    You owe him nothing....like you said, plans change. If in your position, any reasonable person would've done the same thing you did. Sounds like a selfish prick
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    Jun 10, 2013 6:34 AM GMT
    i don't even know why you even give a rats ass about what this prick thinks, or better yet, why you even wrote something as lengthy and descriptive of what this prick thinks of you. You just need to learn to just not give a shit.


  • easterndude69

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    Jun 10, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    Mesmer saidi don't even know why you even give a rats ass about what this prick thinks, or better yet, why you even wrote something as lengthy and descriptive of what this prick thinks of you. You just need to learn to just not give a shit.




    Well, myself being a victim of being blown off, I didn't want to be the one responsible for the opposite scenario, that is, me blowing someone off. I didn't do it intentionally though, and I feel I was reasonable about it.

    I'll give him some time, but if he continues to be this way, I will cut myself off from him. Honestly, I don't really care what he thinks of me right now.
  • easterndude69

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    Jun 10, 2013 6:46 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidThe guy is a total loser. Not worth 1/10th of the time you've spent thinking about this.
    Forget him fast and completely.


    Unless he texts me and doesn't come across with the same ugly attitude, I'm moving on. I wasn't all that into him and his bitchy attitude towards me was def a turn-off.
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    Jun 10, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
    Maybe it was not clear to him at first that Monday was only a tentative possibility. The lesson from this might be to always distinguish between definite plans and tentative plans so that the other person does not feel let down. After all you said, sure lets get together Monday, oh but I won't commit to a time. That said, he sounds like bad news -- someone who is either super insecure or who likes to play the feelings of other people like yo-yos. I think you know in your gut to avoid.
  • Fable

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    Jun 10, 2013 7:35 PM GMT
    Blow him off again. He deserves it.