Need advice on what to do with a super cute guy

  • IsrealiBoy

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    Jun 10, 2013 6:50 AM GMT
    So i met this cute guy on here and he's perfect.. he's so cute and so smart and funny and just all around an awesome guy but we're getting close kind of fast and i kind of lied to him about a few minor things that i thought would have scared him off at first, until he got to know me. I said i was a year older and attend college when i'm actually just starting this fall.
    Is was stupid but i wanted him to like me so i lied. Anyway, we exchanged fb's and i thought maybe now would be a good time to tell him the truth so i did but he's not replying and i don't even know what to say, i feel like a complete idiot.
    This guy is amazing and even though he hasn't really been in my life for long i dont want to lose him. I need advice on what to do.. Please help?
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    Jun 10, 2013 7:01 AM GMT
    It was over the moment you lied.
  • IsrealiBoy

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    Jun 10, 2013 7:06 AM GMT
    Matiz saidIt was over the moment you lied.

    How reassuring
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    Jun 10, 2013 7:07 AM GMT
    Do you want to be falsely reassured or do you want the truth of your situation.
  • IsrealiBoy

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    Jun 10, 2013 7:11 AM GMT
    Matiz saidDo you want to be falsely reassured or do you want the truth of your situation.

    I mean obviously I know now that it was stupid but I only did it because I wanted to give it a chance and what i need right now is advice not someone to look back and tell me I messed up. But I appreciate the honesty
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 10, 2013 7:11 AM GMT
    Matiz saidDo you want to be falsely reassured or do you want the truth of your situation.


    He's earnest, and he just wants this one perfect guy to love him.icon_sad.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 10, 2013 7:12 AM GMT
    MrScandalous said
    Matiz saidDo you want to be falsely reassured or do you want the truth of your situation.

    I mean obviously I know now that it was stupid but I only did it because I wanted to give it a chance and what i need right now is advice not someone to look back and tell me I messed up. But I appreciate the honesty


    There are other guys. Honestly.
  • IsrealiBoy

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    Jun 10, 2013 7:14 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Matiz saidDo you want to be falsely reassured or do you want the truth of your situation.


    He's earnest, and he just wants this one perfect guy to love him.icon_sad.gif

    Not the time for this shit. Take ur sarcastic attitude elsewhere please ( not looking for a little RJ fight right now either soo just don't bother replying unless u want to stop being a dick)
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 10, 2013 7:22 AM GMT
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    Matiz saidDo you want to be falsely reassured or do you want the truth of your situation.


    He's earnest, and he just wants this one perfect guy to love him.icon_sad.gif

    Not the time for this shit. Take ur sarcastic attitude eI
    lsewhere please ( not looking for a little RJ fight right now either soo just don't bother replying unless u want to stop being a dick)


    I'm sorry. I didn't mean to offend you. I can relate with what you're going through, and it sucks. It's a horrible feeling when the guy you like won't get back to you. I hope you feel better soon.
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    Jun 10, 2013 12:49 PM GMT
    It's not your decision it's completely up
    to him so your wasting your time worrying what you can do about it.
  • Hotgymguy22

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    Jun 10, 2013 1:01 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidIt's not your decision it's completely up
    to him so your wasting your time worrying what you can do about it.


    Pretty much this. Honesty is the biggest thing to me and perhaps it is with him also. I've always had the thought "If someone lies about something as insignificant as their age, they will lie about bigger things." If he wants to give you a chance then he will. But unfortunately I don't think there is a specific course of action that you can take. It's all up to him. It sounds like you already explained yourself to him. I'd recommend to not suffocate him with follow-up messages though. Back off a little and give him a little time to think and respond.
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    Jun 10, 2013 1:14 PM GMT
    Become a solid guy and you'll attract solid people.
    Be a flake and attract flakes.
    A trait of flaky people is that want to be liked so badly they misrepresent themselves.
    The choice is yours.
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    Jun 10, 2013 2:15 PM GMT
    MrScandalous saidSo i met this cute guy on here and he's perfect.. .... I need advice on what to do.. Please help?

    You're on the same site and you ask for advice about him in the forums???
    Is this your way of coming clean??
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  • blueandgold

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    Jun 10, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
    a lot of guys tell small lies online to protect their identity, and i think that's perfectly fair. presenting information that is a month off here, a year off there, a few Towns to the east, etc. makes it much harder to track you down and stalk you. the truth is, the electronic presence you've come to recognize as a friend could be anything but.

    present it that way. tell him you trust him and want to tell him everything. cyber crimes do happen.... if you were being completely honest in the first place lol I'd be careful.
  • BuggEyedSprit...

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    Jun 10, 2013 2:27 PM GMT
    my suggestion involves hips and his brains...out.
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    Jun 10, 2013 2:38 PM GMT
    blueandgold saida lot of guys tell small lies online to protect their identity, and i think that's perfectly fair. presenting information that is a month off here, a year off there, a few Towns to the east, etc. makes it much harder to track you down and stalk you. the truth is, the electronic presence you've come to recognize as a friend could be anything but.

    present it that way. tell him you trust him and want to tell him everything. cyber crimes do happen.... if you were being completely honest in the first place lol I'd be careful.


    THIS!!

    I hoping the man the OP is talking about is also smart enough to realize this.

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    Jun 10, 2013 3:04 PM GMT
    My husband still sometimes calls me by a different last name than what it is. icon_lol.gif

    That's because I told it to him when we first met. After being stalked by some looney tunes, I was very cautious about the information I gave until I got to know someone better.

    We celebrate 14 years this Fall.

    It can work out well.icon_wink.gif
  • JackDoyle

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    Jun 10, 2013 3:09 PM GMT
    TerraFirma said
    MrScandalous saidSo i met this cute guy on here and he's perfect.. .... I need advice on what to do.. Please help?

    You're on the same site and you ask for advice about him in the forums???
    Is this your way of coming clean??
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    this lol

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  • Suetonius

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    Jun 10, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    MrScandalous saidSo i met this cute guy on here and he's perfect..

    but we're getting close kind of fast

    i feel like a complete idiot.

    Met ? ? You haven't met anyone until you meet them in person, and in this case it seems you just chatted online with some guy.

    He's perfect? No way you could tell if you haven't actually met him. (BTW, no one is.)

    You're getting close? ? Not if you haven't even met him yet. If you had actually met him, he could guess your age, and what would matter is the age you looked like and acted like to him.

    Like TerraFirma said, it is stupid to be discussing here someone who is on this site.

    You lied to him about your situation? Well there are lots of fish in the sea. Prepare to cast your line in again, only come up with a better line.

    Feel like a complete idiot? You certainly acted like one. Learn from experience.
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    Jun 10, 2013 4:25 PM GMT
    TerraFirma said
    MrScandalous saidSo i met this cute guy on here and he's perfect.. .... I need advice on what to do.. Please help?

    You're on the same site and you ask for advice about him in the forums???
    Is this your way of coming clean??
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    AHA AHAHAHAHAHAHA icon_lol.gif

    It doesn't matter what you lied about and the degree of its significance; at the end of the day, you are just as guilty of lying as someone who uses fake photos for their profiles. The only way this can work out fairly is 1) he ditches you for a more honest guy or 2) it turns out he lied as well so you two just decide to forgive each other.
  • IsrealiBoy

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    Jun 10, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    Kay guys, calm down. I only lashed out at joe cause well he wasn't being nice he was saying it sarcastically soo unless u know what ur saying please shut up.
    Obviously I don't really know him yet but I'm getting to know him and so far yeaa he's pretty perfect.
    The forum wasn't an attempt for me to reveal my situation because as I said earlier, I already messaged him. However, he does see my posts sometimes so if he did happen to come across it I'm sure he would be glad to know that I actually care enough to post about it and ask for advice even though gays can be cruel as fuck.
    Oh and just cause I don't leave you curious with only half the story, he replied and he understands. I guess sometimes it does work out. I mean, I'm just happy I get a chance to move forward with this 'relationship' and actually get to know him.
    Some of you were really helpful and supportive and that's what I really needed and I appreciate that very much so thanks icon_smile.gif
  • rrrespect

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    Jun 10, 2013 4:35 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidIt's not your decision it's completely up
    to him so your wasting your time worrying what you can do about it.


    This.

    And drop the lies. Keep your mouth shut and say nothing instead of lying. Once it's out there, you lose all cred.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 10, 2013 4:57 PM GMT
    About all you can do is write a full apology and explain truthfully why you were afraid to post accurate information. Then tell him you do like him a lot and hope he'll give you the chance to reestablish yourself with him. Some young guys haven't learned to be forgiving and tolerate that people mostly do things like you did because they were unsure the real person would be attractive so they modify certain things. It's not like you had HIV and lied about it, for god's sake. It was a small lie. Just be straight forward and not overly elaborate in your note. Then wait. If he responds positively, you're back in. If not, well, he has some growing up to do. As do many of the people commenting here. I tell you, there are some real smug and mostly hypocritical jerks here. Be gentle on yourself. We all make mistakes. But then be gentle on others, too.
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    Jun 10, 2013 6:02 PM GMT
    MrScandalous said, "Oh and just cause I don't leave you curious with only half the story, he replied and he understands. I guess sometimes it does work out. I mean, I'm just happy I get a chance to move forward with this 'relationship' and actually get to know him. "

    Good stuff! icon_wink.gif
  • calibro

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    Jun 10, 2013 7:46 PM GMT
    you sound like you're 19, which isn't a good thing