What makes a top or a bottom?

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    Oct 31, 2008 2:48 PM GMT
    So I was cleaning today, and it may have been the fumes, but I got to thinking. How is it determined if you're a top, bottom or versatile? Is it simply a pleasure principle? A genetic marker? Psychological disposition? Personality trait? Has there been any research on it?
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    Oct 31, 2008 2:56 PM GMT
    Top

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    Oct 31, 2008 4:35 PM GMT
    Tyler, it seems to me that a part of you is regurgitating stereotypes, but stereotypes seem to be somewhat based in fact. So while I would be inclined to agree with you, there's still no explanation as for why to any of it.

    I agree, I'm not going to function any differently knowing the how's and why's of my sexual nature, I'm just an analyzer. I like to know the why's of everything.
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    Oct 31, 2008 4:57 PM GMT


    top: inserter of sexual appendage.
    bottom: recipient of above

    ...just a little levity!
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    Nov 01, 2008 1:34 AM GMT
    personality
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    Nov 01, 2008 2:19 AM GMT
    I guess dominance. . . . Me and my BF are pretty versatile. He always jokes around about it. When we're at a restaurant and we know the waiter/waitress is kind of homophobic. . . He says,"I'll get the check honey, you're the bottom". Always embarassing.

    I guess there is this stigma of the macho one being the top. Who knows?
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    Nov 01, 2008 12:22 PM GMT
    HotToddy saidSo I was cleaning today, and it may have been the fumes, but I got to thinking. How is it determined if you're a top, bottom or versatile? Is it simply a pleasure principle? A genetic marker? Psychological disposition? Personality trait? Has there been any research on it?


    I hesitate to ask... what on earth were you cleaning??
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    Nov 02, 2008 2:59 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    HotToddy saidSo I was cleaning today, and it may have been the fumes, but I got to thinking. How is it determined if you're a top, bottom or versatile? Is it simply a pleasure principle? A genetic marker? Psychological disposition? Personality trait? Has there been any research on it?


    I hesitate to ask... what on earth were you cleaning??

    At the time I thought about it, my bathroom. But over the course of yesterday...my bedroom, the living room, dining room, kitchen, and bathroom. I was on a spree.
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    Nov 02, 2008 4:19 AM GMT
    relative vertical orientation within the space time continuum.
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    Nov 02, 2008 7:23 AM GMT
    Delivis saidrelative vertical orientation within the space time continuum.


    Watch out for those "worm holes."


    ba da BOOOM, chiiih!

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  • GQjock

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    Nov 02, 2008 11:05 AM GMT
    Tops are bred on farms in Kentucky and fed on grains shipped in from Saskatchewan
    and Bottoms are found under oak trees planted in and around the 1940's

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    ..... The difference between tops and bottoms and everything in-between is WHAT FEELS GOOD!
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    Nov 03, 2008 8:26 PM GMT
    GQjock said

    ..... The difference between tops and bottoms and everything in-between is WHAT FEELS GOOD!

    So how is it determined what feels good to each individual?
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    Nov 04, 2008 11:19 AM GMT
    I agree with those that have said that it is what a guy finds pleasureable, physically or psychologically. Being butch or fem is not related at all.
    To me anal sex at 1st is like the 1st time one tries to smoke cigarettes, it might not feel good the 1st time so maybe the guy doesn't do it again. But if he likes to watch another guy do the deed to him then he learns to accept whatever pleasure he can ie watching the guy, masterbating, getting in the best position for prostate pleasure, or doing whatever helps distract him from the discomfort of anal sex, like playing with nipples or kissing.

    I'm versatile and I'm just beyond pissed about guys that are total tops or total bottoms. I'm kinda shy about topping and being watched but I'll get over it easier if the guy will reciprocate. To me a top that won't let you do him is unfair and unbalanced. No amount of oral sex from the top will compensate for the fact that he won't let you do what he has done. I haven't known it if I was with a total bottom or not. But if a guy won't thrust his hips toward my mouth or my bottom then that is unbalanced too. As well as probably psychologically incompatible.
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    Nov 04, 2008 6:55 PM GMT
    I believe it's determined by what you enjoy and don't. I first started as only a top and I am still a top but versatile with my partner. I have to say its just because its painfulicon_neutral.gif

    HotToddy, Keep cleaning, it obviously brings some good thoughts icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 07, 2008 3:48 PM GMT
    It's something inborn, I really believe.

    Being a topman, it is more about pleasing the bottom dude, before, during and after.
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    Nov 07, 2008 10:46 PM GMT

    I think it's completely psychological .. as I see from different societies ..

    and as a proove it can change as the mental view change .. for example .. most young guys 16-10 tend to be more bottom than older guys mostly .. or themselves when they grow up ..


    as for me .. now I prefer to be a top .. but when I was younger (15 -17) I was prefering to be a bottom (I was still a virgin that time) ..
    But things change and my view of life , society , people changed a bit .. and so my postition ..
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    Nov 07, 2008 11:34 PM GMT
    I have no idea what would make anyone think they are exclusively a top or a bottom. The lord gave each of us a cock and a prostate. Please, use both.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Nov 08, 2008 12:04 AM GMT
    answer:

    same reason some want a mounds and others an almond joy. fin.
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    Nov 08, 2008 1:24 AM GMT
    kalakaua43 saidlemme borrow that top


    LMAO

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    Nov 09, 2008 12:20 AM GMT
    If I feel like he's the macho-boy - I let him top me.
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    Nov 09, 2008 12:35 AM GMT
    pyrotech said
    kalakaua43 saidlemme borrow that top


    LMAO



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