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    Jun 10, 2013 9:49 PM GMT
    Originally this was supposed to been about gay pride, but it's turned into an all out war-zone. There's no way to ever turn this thread around.

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    I'm speaking generally, (not about gay individuals, but as a whole. I know there's some good people out there who it does not apply to, but I'm just saying from an overall standpoint) and more specifically about the pride being held in Denver (a place who's gay scene I love, love, love...to rave (rant) about But besides the fact that it's to celebrate freedom and be able to walk and be ourselves openly, I'm not at all proud of all the bullshit that goes along with it.

    I always start off with a positive attitude and outlook before I set off on the scene. But most of these people aren't even being reciprocal in their share of the interaction. They make tentative plans, then flake out when it comes time to do it. Can't even give you a reason why they can't do it. You see them out again, they pretend like it never happened (case of last night, guy ignored my texts for 3 days after making plans, and then wanted to fucking hold my hand and dance,). Or it always have to be about something racial. Like they feel the need to remind me I'm Black (which is genealogically incorrect, but to defend myself by correcting them would be to make myself look ashamed of my background which would be silly) and don't hesitate to imply they aren't really 'into' us that much like the rest of the majority scene in this town but they are into me for some odd reason. In your small world you believe that. Get out and travel more.

    And then alot of these people in so-called relationships in shady ones at that. There's been a guy who I've hooked up with and thought about doing it again...but found out last night he has 2 boyfriends, a main one and a 'mistress'. He's playing 2nd fiddle to someone else's relationship and calling it BF. Don't insult boyfriends with the bullshit, please! I have nothing against polygamy or open-relationships, but I do have an issue with people who creep and then act as if they don't know you when you see them otherwise. Because if I really gave a damn, I'd blow up the spot. But I don't give a damn so I won't show them the text messages even though I know he's going to be texting me in a few days like nothing happened.

    So what the hell is there to be proud of? I'm damn sure ain't proud of all the perpetual bullshit that goes on all the time. So many people act in ways towards others that are just fake, phony, superficial, artificial, plastic, pretend, unreliable, un-organized, undependable, unreal, untrustworthy, selfish...the list goes on. I don't think all of us were created that way, but for some odd pig-headed reason, some people are content to behave that way out of their own doing.
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    Jun 10, 2013 9:51 PM GMT
    You complain an awful lot.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 10, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
    I feel you, Fuzzypecs. You're very burned out. I always get that from your posts. Many of us have been burned too... but you gotta remain positive bro.. and keep putting yourself out there.

    I'm going to NYC pride in two weeks.. by myself if I have to. I'm not going to remain defeated by the dysfunctions of the gay scene.
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    Jun 10, 2013 9:58 PM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    I'm going to NYC pride in two weeks.. by myself if I have to. I'm not going to remain defeated by the dysfunctions of the gay scene.

    I have a friend who is inviting me on this float thing, so I'm almost obligated to go, especially since 2 other guys flaked out. I don't mind the event itself it was very fun last year, but whether it would just give me more opportunities to be around more character-less people is something I'm not so sure of.
    showme saidYou complain an awful lot.

    I have a right to complain about whatever the fuck I want to complain about. You don't live here, you don't see the bullshit I put up with all the time.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 10, 2013 10:00 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 saidI'm speaking generally, and more specifically about the one being held in Denver (a place who's gay scene I love, love, love...to rave (rant) about icon_rolleyes.gif But besides the fact that it's to celebrate freedom and be able to walk and be ourselves openly, I'm not at all proud of all the bullshit that goes along with it.

    I always start off with a positive attitude and outlook before I set off on the scene. But most of these people aren't even being reciprocal in their share of the interaction. They make tentative plans, then flake out when it comes time to do it. Can't even give you a reason why they can't do it. You see them out again, they pretend like it never happened. Or it always have to be about something racial. Like they feel the need to remind me I'm Black and don't hesitate to imply we aren't really 'into' that much like everybody else. In your small world you believe that. Get out and travel more.

    And then alot of these people in so-called relationships in shady ones at that. There's been a guy who I hooked up with once and he's still trying to get at me...found out last night he has 2 boyfriends, a main one and a 'mistress'. The 'mistress' happens to be some Black dude and the guy and his BF is Mexican. I'm like dude, get your self-esteem in check. You playing 2nd fiddle to someone else and you think you look half-decent.

    So what the hell is there to be proud of? I'm damn sure ain't proud of all the perpetual bullshit that goes on all the time. And you can't avoid it because the scene is so small. I'll go out in attempt to meet someone totally new who isn't in anyway connected to anyone I know...

    Sounds like you fit in pretty well
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 10, 2013 10:02 PM GMT
    This is what happens when you're mean to lesbians.
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    Jun 10, 2013 10:23 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidThis is what happens when you're mean to lesbians.

    LOL, you may be right. but now I was never mean to Lesbians to begin with. Nobody said anything about me being mean to Lesbians now so don't make up some bullshit for laughs.
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    Jun 10, 2013 10:35 PM GMT
    After being out of the closet for 21 years, and having come out in a rural town in the heart of the bible belt, I have a LOT to be proud of. Just surviving the experience is among the many.

    However, I've never been to a single Pride event. Not that I don't want to...the opportunity has just never been there (I mainly work weekends, which is the time Pride events are held).
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    Jun 10, 2013 10:37 PM GMT
    Is there ever a bright side with you?
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    Jun 10, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    MisfitToy saidIs there ever a bright side with you?
    Only if you're into fuzzy man tits and have lots of toothpicks after you suck them.
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    Jun 10, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    MisfitToy saidIs there ever a bright side with you?
    Only if you're into fuzzy man tits and have lots of toothpicks after you suck them.


    Lmao.

    I do like his fuzzy man tits though.

    They've got character.

    I've seen some guys with damn near muttonchops on they chest. His are subdued and classy.
  • Fable

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    Jun 10, 2013 11:07 PM GMT
    I just took a dump.





    I had Mexican for lunch




    Ouch.
  • NeuralShock

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    Jun 11, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    I came into this thread and was all like
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  • MadeinMich

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    Jun 11, 2013 12:46 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 saidI'm speaking generally, and more specifically about the one being held in Denver (a place who's gay scene I love, love, love...to rave (rant) about icon_rolleyes.gif But besides the fact that it's to celebrate freedom and be able to walk and be ourselves openly, I'm not at all proud of all the bullshit that goes along with it.

    I always start off with a positive attitude and outlook before I set off on the scene. But most of these people aren't even being reciprocal in their share of the interaction. They make tentative plans, then flake out when it comes time to do it. Can't even give you a reason why they can't do it. You see them out again, they pretend like it never happened (case of last night, guy ignored my texts for 3 days after making plans, and then wanted to fucking hold my hand and dance,). Or it always have to be about something racial. Like they feel the need to remind me I'm Black (which is genealogically incorrect, but they want to fucking assume some shit without even knowing me) and don't hesitate to imply they aren't really 'into' us that much like the rest of the majority scene in this town but they are into me for some odd reason. In your small world you believe that. Get out and travel more.

    And then alot of these people in so-called relationships in shady ones at that. There's been a guy who I hooked up with once and he's still trying to get at me...found out last night he has 2 boyfriends, a main one and a 'mistress'. The 'mistress' happens to be some Black dude and the guy and his BF is Mexican. I'm like dude, get your self-esteem in check. You playing 2nd fiddle to someone else and you think you look half-decent because you fucking with someone who looks half-decent.

    So what the hell is there to be proud of? I'm damn sure ain't proud of all the perpetual bullshit that goes on all the time. So many people act in ways towards others that are just fake, phony, superficial, artificial, plastic, pretend, unreliable, un-organized, undependable, unreal, untrustworthy, selfish...the list goes on. I don't think all of us were created that way, but for some odd pig-headed reason, some people are content to behave that way out of their own doing.


    I hear you man. This is the story of my life. Everything from the fucked up gay relationships, whites not being into blacks but are into me, motherfuckers ignoring my texts for 3 months but wanna act all chummy with me in the bars.

    There's this one dude who wants to constantly hook up with me then hang out with him and his "partner". No wonder there are so many closeted, black,married, DL brothers here in Detroit. If it wasn't for my distain of pussy I'd probably join them.
  • MadeinMich

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    Jun 11, 2013 12:47 AM GMT
    NeuralShock saidI came into this thread and was all like
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    haha. Me too, but then I began to feel him on some of the things he was saying.
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    Jun 11, 2013 12:53 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 saidI'm speaking generally, and more specifically about the one being held in Denver (a place who's gay scene I love, love, love...to rave (rant) about icon_rolleyes.gif But besides the fact that it's to celebrate freedom and be able to walk and be ourselves openly, I'm not at all proud of all the bullshit that goes along with it.
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    Short answer- Try to find more upscale people to hang out with. The riffraff is the same in gay or straight circles. Arguably it's worse in gay circles because most men are dogs. The prince's are the one's that come from good families and have good character. People you won't find in bars or club majority of the time.
  • MadeinMich

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    Jun 11, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    green_eyed_stud said
    FuzzyPecs25 saidI'm speaking generally, and more specifically about the one being held in Denver (a place who's gay scene I love, love, love...to rave (rant) about icon_rolleyes.gif But besides the fact that it's to celebrate freedom and be able to walk and be ourselves openly, I'm not at all proud of all the bullshit that goes along with it.
    .


    Short answer- Try to find more upscale people to hang out with. The riffraff is the same in gay or straight circles. Arguably it's worse in gay circles because most men are dogs. The prince's are the one's that come from good families and have good character. People you won't find in bars or club majority of the time.


    Yeah. Based on your earlier posts you need to find some better people to hang around.
  • calibro

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    Jun 11, 2013 1:16 AM GMT
    pride is not about being proud; it's about attractive shirtless men drinking bud light lime-a-ritas and reminding the rest of you unfabulous people of your place in the world
  • NeuralShock

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    Jun 11, 2013 1:17 AM GMT
    calibro saidpride is not about being proud; it's about attractive shirtless men drink bud light lime-a-ritas and reminding the rest of you unfabulous people of your place in the world

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    Jun 11, 2013 1:23 AM GMT
    there is nothing prideful about the way gay men often treat each other.

    you gotta have a thick skin to be queer.
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Jun 11, 2013 1:23 AM GMT
    I'm not proud of being gay. It's not like I chose my sexuality.

    I AM proud of having the courage to come out, having made dozens of people think a bit harder about homosexuality (and convert some phobes to people who are at least okay with it), and coming to be completely secure in my sexuality.

    And I am totally nonplussed as to why so many people on these forums think that flakiness is largely a gay thing. I have straight friends whose dates / relations have flaked out on them before. I have some flaky-as-hell straight friends who are almost impossible to plan anything with. But I'm willing to look past that because my life does not revolve around every little engagement going exactly according to plan.

    I've said it before and I'll say it again: the amount of cynicism on these forums breaks my heart. People are so unwilling to see the best in others. Have hope, man. Be unflappably kind - that will change people, complaining will not.
  • thatirishbast...

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    Jun 11, 2013 1:26 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    PR_GMR said
    showme saidYou complain an awful lot.

    I have a right to complain about whatever the fuck I want to complain about. You don't live here, you don't see the bullshit I put up with all the time.


    When I was growing up, my homeland was torn apart by religious warfare. The bullshite I had to put up with was fearing for the lives of friends and family who were more outspoken and wondering if I would get blown up just for walking through the market. It was not knowing how to comfort my grandfather when he mourned his murdered brother and sister-in-law. So don't talk to me about putting up with bullshite.

    And you know what? I'm still pretty damn proud of my country, as most people here can attest.

    As for being gay in Ireland, you can't imagine how difficult it is sometimes in a nation where the Catholic Church is still grasping at its long atrophied political power.

    But you know what? I'm still proud. Of my home, my people, the good and the bad, because it makes us who we are. A community and a family, the good and the bad.

    So for you to claim that another community of individuals, who have struggled and persevered through the most humiliating and degrading of circumstances, has nothing to be proud of because you surround yourself with bad company, because you expect happiness and satisfaction to be handed to you without having to work for it, because you complain about people being superficial and shallow as you slight a community of millions of incredible people, is the height of arrogance, ignorance, and utter stupidity.

    Long story short, shut up.
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    Jun 11, 2013 1:28 AM GMT
    thatirishbastard said
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    PR_GMR said
    showme saidYou complain an awful lot.

    I have a right to complain about whatever the fuck I want to complain about. You don't live here, you don't see the bullshit I put up with all the time.


    When I was growing up, my homeland was torn about by religious warfare. The bullshite I had to put up with was fearing for the lives of friends and family who were more outspoken and wondering if I would get blown up just for walking through the market. It was not knowing how comfort my grandfather when he mourned his murdered brother and sister-in-law. So don't talk to me about putting up with bullshite.

    And you know what? I'm still pretty damn proud of my country, as most people here can attest.

    As for being gay in Ireland, you can't imagine how difficult it is sometimes in a nation where the Catholic Church is still grasping at its long atrophied political power.

    But you know what? I'm still proud. Of my home, my people, the good and the bad, because it makes us who we are. A community and a family, the good and the bad. icon_biggrin.gif well put

    So for you to claim that another community of individuals, who have struggled and persevered through the most humiliating and degrading of circumstances, has nothing to be proud of because you surround yourself with bad company, because you expect happiness and satisfaction to be handed to you without having to work for it, because you complain about people being superficial and shallow as you slight a community of millions of incredible people, is the height of arrogance, ignorance, and utter stupidity.

    Long story short, shut up.
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    Jun 11, 2013 1:28 AM GMT
    NeuralShock said
    calibro saidpride is not about being proud; it's about attractive shirtless men drink bud light lime-a-ritas and reminding the rest of you unfabulous people of your place in the world

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    +1
  • CityofDreams

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    Jun 11, 2013 1:29 AM GMT
    thatirishbastard said
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    PR_GMR said
    showme saidYou complain an awful lot.

    I have a right to complain about whatever the fuck I want to complain about. You don't live here, you don't see the bullshit I put up with all the time.


    When I was growing up, my homeland was torn about by religious warfare. The bullshite I had to put up with was fearing for the lives of friends and family who were more outspoken and wondering if I would get blown up just for walking through the market. It was not knowing how comfort my grandfather when he mourned his murdered brother and sister-in-law. So don't talk to me about putting up with bullshite.

    And you know what? I'm still pretty damn proud of my country, as most people here can attest.

    As for being gay in Ireland, you can't imagine how difficult it is sometimes in a nation where the Catholic Church is still grasping at its long atrophied political power.

    But you know what? I'm still proud. Of my home, my people, the good and the bad, because it makes us who we are. A community and a family, the good and the bad.

    So for you to claim that another community of individuals, who have struggled and persevered through the most humiliating and degrading of circumstances, has nothing to be proud of because you surround yourself with bad company, because you expect happiness and satisfaction to be handed to you without having to work for it, because you complain about people being superficial and shallow as you slight a community of millions of incredible people, is the height of arrogance, ignorance, and utter stupidity.

    Long story short, shut up.


    Love. It. End. Of. Thread.