"Want to make me a baby?" Pussy talk from my male lover

  • ribprod

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    Jun 11, 2013 9:02 AM GMT
    Met a guy recently, we've had sex (or, in his own words, made love) four times. I got a bit hooked on him especially when he started using the expression "make love" and "I'm yours" and he became very intense, verbally, in bed. He likes cuddles too. However the rest of the time, he becomes aloof. Never replies a text message with a question back (ie ME: "Hey, how are your today?" HE: "Fine." ... err... me too mate, thanks :-/ ) and after the third encounter it became nigh impossible to pin him down for a next meet. So I decided better to move on, however, I didn't find it easy.

    And just as I thought I was over you, as the song goes, he texts me. If he texts first, it means he wants business. I replied very cool, and he didn't immediately come forward with his request. So I had to draw it out of him: "You want to make love tonight?" He replied, "You wanna make me a baby ;-)?" Which I found amusing. He has said things like that before but I've thought he was just being funny.

    So I went over, and we made love although he was a bit tired and so was I. Anyway, when it got to fucking he suddenly came alive again, and as I was inside and ready to start moving he came up with "Fuck my pussy!" and continued to say this throughout. And "Do you like my pussy?" and such. He is not camp, he's quite straight acting, but in bed I've now realised he turns into a woman as far as the sex talk goes. So the making him a baby thing is no joke, I begin to think. And all this puts him in a different light - maybe I have misunderstood his ways. I haven't been with someone quite like this before, and I want to see more of him (or her?) but don't know quite how to play it. Am I dealing with a head of two faces here?

    Any advice?
  • WApilot

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    Jun 11, 2013 10:20 AM GMT
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    This guy sounds like a conundrum of different personalities. He may be bat shit crazy or he has a dirty fetish... I've heard of this before, we as men have a primal need to want to spread our seed, so as gay men, we don't necessarily have sex with women, so that void manifest itself in different ways. I think that's probably why a lot of men like to bareback (aside from the good feelings). But this dude sounds a little sketchy.
  • helloandgoodb...

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    Jun 11, 2013 11:03 AM GMT
    could just be his way of dirty talk. i had a lover that was always talking about fucking my man-pussy, breeding me, etc. It was just his way. if you don't like it, tell him, but don't read into too much.
  • MadeinMich

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    Jun 11, 2013 1:50 PM GMT
    1) Thank you for making me erect this morning.

    2) You guys aren't making love, you're fucking.

    3) What he's doing is normal as long as it's done during sex and the time he becomes aroused. He's just projecting sexual fantacies onto your encounters. I bet he watches straight porn, imagines himself as the women and project the male/masculine role onto you. There's nothing to fear.
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    Jun 11, 2013 1:57 PM GMT

    I have wanted to ask a guy to make me a baby before, but i felt awkward about it.icon_redface.gif
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    Jun 11, 2013 1:58 PM GMT
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    This guy sounds like a conundrum of different personalities. He may be bat shit crazy or he has a dirty fetish... I've heard of this before, we as men have a primal need to want to spread our seed, so as gay men, we don't necessarily have sex with women, so that void manifest itself in different ways. I think that's probably why a lot of men like to bareback (aside from the good feelings). But this dude sounds a little sketchy.


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  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 11, 2013 2:06 PM GMT
    Funny.. I was recently involved with someone like your man. He never replied to any texts asking questions, or any texts not concerning sex. He would only come around when he was horny and needed 'to be bred', although he never quite used the same language your guy did.

    My guess is that's their fetish--they see themselves as women who want to be knocked up. Such language doesn't bother me much. What bothers me more is these guys inability to connect at a level other than sex. That's why I gave my guy his walking papers. Just got tired of the piss-poor communication.
  • rnch

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    Jun 11, 2013 2:16 PM GMT
    Some people are just uncomfortable using the "F-word" and substitute other "politically correct" euphemisms in place of what they really want to say out loud to you.

    Some of us were raised to believe that it is considered bad manners to ever use the "F-word".

    My man and I do this sometimes, using phrases like "F & F" (Food and Fuck"), "nap time" or "wanna try to get me pregnant"..

    BUT...when we are behind closed doors, both naked, hard and horny, when foreplay has been exchanged and enjoyed, one of us will emphatically say to the other "It's time to fuck!".
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    Jun 11, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
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    Jun 11, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
    My ex only wanted to be "bred "bareback. Wanted my seed inside of him. Amazing that you have not noticed that a big chunk of gay guys are Fem.
  • MadeinMich

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    Jun 11, 2013 2:42 PM GMT
    When I was 29 I would hook up with this 21 year old who always called me daddy (and at 29, thank you very much). When I was fucking him he'd be like "daddy wanna fuck this boi pussy? huh? daddy wanna fuck this boi pussy?" I thought it was funny as hell but it eventually did start to turn me on to assume the "official" male role of the fuck sessions.
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    Jun 11, 2013 3:10 PM GMT
    Any mention of female genetalia or baby making or any hetero sex talk is such a turnoff for me. It is as if we are ashamed of our bodies and what we are doing that we have to "normalize" it with heterosexual references.

    It's an ass and we are going to fuck some ass - not man pussy, or boy pussy, or man cunt, but hot, sweaty man sex in a fucking man's asshole.

    Damn, now I need to find someone to meet me in the stairwell.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 11, 2013 3:18 PM GMT
    I don't think it means much. Fantasies go all over the place in lovemaking (fucking) and sometimes it goes to a male/female role-play. I personally don't like it because I like my guy to be male but sometimes you just go with the flow to please your partner (fuckmate). If it doesn't offend you, no problem but if it does, talk to him about it and see how important it is to him, though it also sounds like he's just using you for sex. If that's all it is to you, then you have the option of finding some guy who fucks (makes love) more the way that turns you on.
  • MadeinMich

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    Jun 11, 2013 3:20 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidAny mention of female genetalia or baby making or any hetero sex talk is such a turnoff for me. It is as if we are ashamed of our bodies and what we are doing that we have to "normalize" it with heterosexual references.

    It's an ass and we are going to fuck some ass - not man pussy, or boy pussy, or man cunt, but hot, sweaty man sex in a fucking man's asshole.
    Damn, now I need to find someone to meet me in the stairwell.


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    Jun 11, 2013 3:23 PM GMT
    When i wanted to say make me a baby i think i was looking for a connection more than just fu..ing which i haven't done in almost 6 yrs.
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    Jun 11, 2013 3:32 PM GMT
    Tell him straight up you don't like that. I'm bi and even I find that really really weird.
  • madsexy

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    Jun 11, 2013 3:36 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidAny mention of female genetalia or baby making or any hetero sex talk is such a turnoff for me. It is as if we are ashamed of our bodies and what we are doing that we have to "normalize" it with heterosexual references.

    It's an ass and we are going to fuck some ass - not man pussy, or boy pussy, or man cunt, but hot, sweaty man sex in a fucking man's asshole.

    Damn, now I need to find someone to meet me in the stairwell.


    Not even "mancunt"? I've never found that offensive.
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    Jun 11, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    Hahahahahahah !!!!!!!!!!!!
  • ribprod

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    Jun 11, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    Thanks for feedback guys. So clearly two issues:

    - Talk is just talk, could make him fall into a category but ultimately this is how he expresses his sexual desire. I don't really have a problem with this, in fact I like it. I just wondered if this was in any way connected to his out-of-sex aloofness. Looks like not.

    - Probably only interested in sex - more of an issue as I tend to get involved when things get a bit gooey (verbally...) in bed. And especially when it involves cuddles and stuff afterwards. We discussed the subject of serious relationships at some point and he's not averse to it, but he has this platonic love bla bla bla... So faced with the choice of letting him go, or patiently persisting until I win him over. Something tells me the first option is the right one. But hard to break a bad habit!

    Any stories of persistence yielding good results?

  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 11, 2013 4:41 PM GMT
    ribprod saidThanks for feedback guys. So clearly two issues:


    - Probably only interested in sex - more of an issue as I tend to get involved when things get a bit gooey (verbally...) in bed. And especially when it involves cuddles and stuff afterwards. We discussed the subject of serious relationships at some point and he's not averse to it, but he has this platonic love bla bla bla... So faced with the choice of letting him go, or patiently persisting until I win him over. Something tells me the first option is the right one. But hard to break a bad habit!

    Any stories of persistence yielding good results?



    Major red sign right there! Be very careful. I would stop fucking him immediately. When they have this convoluted ideal of platonic love, they will never, ever see you as a boyfriend. I speak from experience, as I fell for a guy back in December who exhibited the same behavior--he only falls for guys he dates without having sex for months at a time, while anyone he fucks right away becomes a fuckbuddy. We ended becoming friends and I found out a couple of weeks back that he dated someone, without sex, for 3 months and he was totally in love with the dude, but the man had no physical interest in him.. so my friend was very, very 'heartbroken' about this. There are some headcases out there in the gay scene. You need to proceed with caution.
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Jun 11, 2013 5:14 PM GMT
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    Jun 11, 2013 5:19 PM GMT
    Well.. That's new haha. Try and tell that to him?
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    Jun 11, 2013 5:20 PM GMT
    PR_GMR saidThere are some headcases out there in the gay scene.

    some? some??!! more like 'plenty'! icon_razz.gif
  • ribprod

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    Jun 11, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    I've been warned lol

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    Jun 11, 2013 6:19 PM GMT
    so am i a head case because i wanted to say make me baby? lol