Attraction vs Admiration.

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    Jun 11, 2013 9:10 AM GMT
    This is something I've been mulling over in my mind for a long, long time now, so forgive me if I leave out a step in the logic or anything -- I tend to imagine other people have the same thinking processes as me, which is seldom the case.

    Anyways, when it comes to homosexuality in general (even from a semantic viewpoint), it is to be attracted to the same. Granted, in society today, it solely means in terms of sex/gender (it depends, really). An effeminate gay man can be attracted to a masculine one, a masculine gay man can be attracted to another masculine gay man. There isn't much solidarity to the term in regards to traits aside from what is or is not hanging between your legs.
    This has always logically led me to another thought, though: as most~ people seek to emulate those with the same gender and similar traits, and many~ who admire another can become obsessed with their role model, how then would a homosexual person be able to distinguish between attraction and admiration? Especially in regards to physicality.
    I mean, if I see a man and think that he's good looking, then it could mean that I wish to emulate the way his body is (in becoming good looking myself) or that I would like to ravish him. Obviously both is a possibility as well, just a less fleshed out one, but this is more about one against the other, not coupled with.

    Please, understand that I do not mean to insinuate anything beyond what's being asked on the forefront here. I myself have struggled with distinguishing between the two, what I would want in a partner and what I want in myself. I concede that overlap is to be expected, as "those of a feather flock together", but at the same time, taken to the extreme the concept could be slightly narcissistic in nature.
    Additionally, are people here generally attracted to their own body type?

    ~ = unspecific word used for effect, not for legitimacy.
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    Jun 11, 2013 9:14 AM GMT
    I used to think this -- that I wasn't really gay, I just wanted to look/be like all those hot guys out there. after awhile, I realized it wasn't an envy thing, it was a sexual thing. getting a boner when you see something hot is attraction, not admiration.
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    Jun 11, 2013 9:25 AM GMT
    willular saidI used to think this -- that I wasn't really gay, I just wanted to look/be like all those hot guys out there. after awhile, I realized it wasn't an envy thing, it was a sexual thing. getting a boner when you see something hot is attraction, not admiration.


    Haha, yeah.. I've been there myself. It was also one of my first excuses for gay porn being found in the history of my dad's computer when I was younger -- "I just wanted to compare!"
    I can appreciate the simple distinction for what it is, but what I'm driving at here is more so the questionable situations. I don't get hard every time I see a good looking man, but there are times when I legitimately don't know whether I would want to look more like him or whether I'd like to just bend him over something. Especially for younger men, this is a very important distinction, as we're trying to determine what we would like to be as adults as well as what we should want in a prospective mate.