From one Top’s perspective, and then yours?

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    Oct 31, 2008 8:59 PM GMT
    It is easy for me to take the role of a top. It seems so natural and I love to look at and feel a guy’s backside. I have tried to bottom four times in my life but it did not work at all for me. I do not even like it when I get a physical prostate inspection from the doc. This is why I consider the bottoms that I have been with to be giving me a gift. This gift is very special to me and so I try to reciprocate by giving some real pleasure back.

    There are so many ways to give pleasure to a bottom and so that is what makes communication so important while having sex, before and after. The communication during sex does not have to be in so many words but can be expressed with just a moan or on the other hand, a rejecting backwards body motion or an expression on the face.

    I like to explore all the possible erogenous zones, the lips, the inside of the mouth, the area around the ear lobe, the back of the neck, the pits, the nipples, the stomach, the cock and balls, the area between the balls and the arse hole, the back, the feet and finally but not the least important the arse hole and prostate. I like to explore some of these areas with the palm of my hand, some with my fingers and some with my tongue.

    Look at it this way, in case you are a taker of pleasure instead of a giver. If you make your bottom feel wildly good, you will get back that pleasure ten fold when you are inside him.

    The reason why I have written this public service announcement is because after reading several posts in the forum I get the idea that there are several tops out there that are into Wham, Bam, thank you sir kinda sex. Now, do not get me wrong. I know that sometimes a bottom may want a hard pumping fuck without the preliminaries. That is why I wrote earlier about communication.

    So toppers, now that you have read my spiel, what is your perspective? Are you a back alley cat always wanting a quick satisfying dip or do you like to take your time and make some love or somewhere in between or all around?
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    Nov 03, 2008 5:07 AM GMT
    alexander7 said
    I like to explore all the possible erogenous zones, the lips, the inside of the mouth, the area around the ear lobe, the back of the neck, the pits, the nipples, the stomach, the cock and balls, the area between the balls and the arse hole, the back, the feet and finally but not the least important the arse hole and prostate. I like to explore some of these areas with the palm of my hand, some with my fingers and some with my tongue.




    Wow, to me, that kind of attention from a top would be awesome to experience.
    Although wham bam and thank you isn't all that bad either. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 03, 2008 11:44 AM GMT
    I like to explore all the possible erogenous zones, the lips, the inside of the mouth, the area around the ear lobe, the back of the neck, the pits, the nipples, the stomach, the cock and balls, the area between the balls and the arse hole, the back, the feet and finally but not the least important the arse hole and prostate. I like to explore some of these areas with the palm of my hand, some with my fingers and some with my tongue.


    Ah ..... The Sonnet of a Top as said to his Bottom from the complete works of William Shakespeare

    Among others as ... What piece of an ass is man

    and...
    There are more things in Heaven and Earth, Horatio than a well packed Codpiece

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    Nov 03, 2008 3:37 PM GMT
    GQjock said

    Ah ..... The Sonnet of a Top as said to his Bottom from the complete works of William Shakespeare

    Among others as ... What piece of an ass is man

    and...
    There are more things in Heaven and Earth, Horatio than a well packed Codpiece

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    Or, is in your imagination!!

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    Nov 03, 2008 4:27 PM GMT
    As a lover of both topping and bottoming, I love to service others. If that service means taking my time to find out exactly what is going to make my bottom squirm with pleasure for as long as they can take it before shooting their load, then I do what I have to do to make sure they have the hardest, strongest orgasm they've ever experienced. If that service means riding their cock until I can see them edging, holding them there for about an hour, then finally squeezing a hard load out of their cock into my ass or mouth, then dammit, I'm gonna make sure they have a really good time. icon_twisted.gif

    Sadly, most of the men I've been with do not feel the same way. Most tops seem to think of getting themselves off, and think it's going to be really hot for the bottom. If this is you, then I'm sorry to say that you're probably delusional, and most of your bottoms will probably think you suck in the sack. Take some time to make sure your bottom has a really strong orgasm. Trust me, they'll thank you for it in a way that you'll love just as much.
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    Nov 03, 2008 9:01 PM GMT
    pyrotech saidAs a lover of both topping and bottoming, I love to service others. If that service means taking my time to find out exactly what is going to make my bottom squirm with pleasure for as long as they can take it before shooting their load, then I do what I have to do to make sure they have the hardest, strongest orgasm they've ever experienced. If that service means riding their cock until I can see them edging, holding them there for about an hour, then finally squeezing a hard load out of their cock into my ass or mouth, then dammit, I'm gonna make sure they have a really good time. icon_twisted.gif

    Sadly, most of the men I've been with do not feel the same way. Most tops seem to think of getting themselves off, and think it's going to be really hot for the bottom. If this is you, then I'm sorry to say that you're probably delusional, and most of your bottoms will probably think you suck in the sack. Take some time to make sure your bottom has a really strong orgasm. Trust me, they'll thank you for it in a way that you'll love just as much.


    Yes, very well said, edging is something I forgot to mention in my original post. You want to bring him to the brink and then back off, even if it means changing what is making him want to shoot. This prolongs the pleasure and makes the eventual orgasm even stronger and more satisfying. Pure heaven!!
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    Nov 04, 2008 3:15 PM GMT


    Both of us are pretty agile (versatile) and are of the alexander7 type. That said we're pretty good at being passive, settling in to the edge-of-your-seat (bad pun, ok) merciless (heheh) prolonging of a protracted climax.
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    Nov 07, 2008 8:36 PM GMT
    I should point out that I have not always been a pleaser. After I started dating guys I was under the impression that bottoms just wanted me to shove it in and bang them hard. I guess at that time I probably was considered to be a lousy lover. I owe the bottoms that later took the time to communicate with me about what they wanted for everything I know about having great sex now.
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    Nov 08, 2008 1:52 PM GMT
    Before I rant Alexander7 I really like your profile especially the photos of you as a boy. Thank you for trying to educate your fellow tops. I just hate the top/bottom mind set though. I'm versatile. For most of my experience I wasn't turned on by a guy rimming me , it just seemed like the obligatory hetero male instinct the guy half heartedly did thinking he was just getting me ready to please himself, as if I had a clitoris. Until a guy was really into it and knew what he was doing did it. Then I became more willing to have that done.
    I'd like you to explain what "did not work at all" in 4 times means.
    I challenge any bottom to tell us their ass is wired like a vagina. We all use lube for a reason. It isn't all pleasure. There is pressure and friction. Look at the faces of any guy in porn and they are never smiling. But it does get pleasurable in the midst at some point so it's worth trying to give the other guy a chance at experiencing that with you.
    The fact that the majority of gay profiles disclose themselves as Tops, infuriates me to no end. They shouldn't even call themselves gay. More like male predators. I'm not a woman or woman substitute and if a guy only wants it in the ass all the time then let the tops and bottoms find each other and stay away from me.
    Pyrotech can we clone you, your ideal.
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    Nov 08, 2008 8:23 PM GMT
    Yourwarm....

    First of all, thanks for the complement on my profile and also thanks for your important input here.

    I have no desire to be a bottom. I am not sure why this is. It is one of those things that I have wondered about. What makes me the way I am? Is it genetic, psychological, or sociological? I just know that the few times I have allowed it to happen it was uncomfortable at the least and very painful at the most. The first time was the most unpleasant because I was drunk and my roommate at the time made my ass bleed. The other times were when I was with bottom versatile guys. One was a one night stand and the other two were with guys I had short term relationships with. I have always tried to be flexible and try new things out but, as I said above, these times did not work out, that is, I did not enjoy it.

    I am not one of these guys that believe that tops are more masculine and bottoms more feminine. In fact, it has been my experience that just the opposite is true, so no, I do not think you or any other gay man is a woman substitute. I am gay because I prefer to have sex with men. I do not have to live by some straight stereotype of roll models.

    Both of my LTR’s have been with guys that were and are exclusively bottoms. My present partner told me almost 18 years ago in our first conversation that he had no desire to top and that pleased me just fine.

    I have not been out there on the net enough to know how many people list themselves as tops, however; I would agree with you that this is crazy. It seems to be reasonable to expect that the behavior of being a top, versatile or a bottom probably distributes along a bell curve as do so many other things in nature. If that were so, then you would expect there to be a large majority of versatile gay men and fewer exclusive tops or bottoms. This has also been my experience.

    Finally, I think that there is room for all of that diversity and I am happy that there are, most likely, more guys like pyrotech out there for you. I started this thread for the guys who top, not necessarily only for guys who are exclusive tops.
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    Nov 09, 2008 4:32 AM GMT
    Hi Alexander7 thank you for your insight. My first time being a bottom was with a guy whose cock was shaped like a space shuttle(little head and widening shaft) and even going slow, my bottom was torn and he had to take it out not even completely entering me. He was the 1st guy I topped too. But he was so loose from experience that he had to kiss me for some time so I'd cum faster. I've been with one top that was raped as a boy and he had psychological argument to defend his position to only top. The 1st time he let me top him he rushed me so it wasn't enjoyable. He let me do it a year later but it's no fun if the guy doesn't really want to do it. I was with a top once(we were only oral) who had such a tight butt that you couldn't even get a finger to the anus so physiological reasons are there too for some men.
    I had a 12 year gap of not being intimate with another and now in my 40's, I get a very rare hemmorhoid or bulging blood vessel in my anal opening that happens for no apparent reason. But I blame it on my 1st time bottoming and one time a Marine built like a WF wrestler banged me into the wall later I saw blood in the toilet. Now since I'm out of practice, I can't just let a guy top me any old way at first anymore. It just won't go in unless I sit on it and work it slowly in since there is a feeling of obstruction that is painful until a few minutes of getting him past that or loosening myself with stroking my penis, once I'm past that, I'm good to go any ole way. But I don't like long top sessions, never did. I'd moan and kiss and do whatever I could to get the guy to cum quicker if he was taking his sweet time when I was a younin. I'd be all Ouu baby baby for a while then start thinking I'm getting friction pressure overload so get the f... offa me b.... LOL. I'd like to top for a long time too or go in and out alot but I'm too nice to take advantage of a guy. Communication is the key though if I just asked or if guys just let each other know what they can tolerate and what they want at that time it would be the best it could be. So I'm glad you got the communication going Alexander7.
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    Nov 11, 2008 11:33 AM GMT
    Yourwarmnfuzzy saidMy first time being a bottom was with a guy whose cock was shaped like a space shuttle(little head and widening shaft) and even going slow, my bottom was torn and he had to take it out not even completely entering me........

    I was with a top once(we were only oral) who had such a tight butt that you couldn't even get a finger to the anus so physiological reasons are there too for some men.........


    Your comment about that space shuttle cock made my bum pucker. LOL, but seriously, I think I am more like that guy with the tight bum cause, as I said above, I do not even like a prostate exam. For a while, a year ago I was having difficulty doing number 2 and developed an anal fistula and because of the blood in my stool the doc decided to do a colonoscopy. I have never experienced such horrendous pain since I had a root canal in Mexico without anasthetic.

    I have gotten a couple of emails in response to this thread and I would like to include, without using a name, what one guy wrote so here it is.

    "Anything that makes for more understanding in a relationship is always important and it will help to make a bridge from lust to love.
    Lust is a parsing fancy,affection and love last as am sure that you have found. We all get trapped when we are young in that restless search for the perfect partner,and it is only when we try to find what pleases the other and forgetting our own desires do we have a chance."

    These are wise words I think.