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How to Tell if a Guy is a.... Bottom or Top?

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    QUOTE Nov 01, 2008 2:46 AM GMT
    Stereotypes are annoying cause there are always people that break the mold. But is there any way to tell if a guy is a top or a bottom (or more of a top or more of a bottom if they are versitile)? What happens... if in a few months when i feel ready... I meet someone who I really like .. then find out he is a bottom .... like me? Sex wouldn't be much fun I wouldn't think. (I'm a virgin btw lol and 95% sure i'm a bottom)

    Is the only way to know for sure about my position through sex? Or can i tell from sex toys (which i've used lol plus I think I'd like being more submissive in bed.)

    Are buff guys always more dominant and skinny guys always more submissive? Can i tell be personality? Mannerisms? Or do i just get drunk and say "boi I want you to fuck me all night." Then again... if I ever said that i'd be drunk enough to die from alcohol poisoning lol.

    I guess i just need some adivce or tips
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    QUOTE Nov 01, 2008 4:48 AM GMT
    Tramp stamp usually means they like to bottom
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    QUOTE Nov 01, 2008 12:20 PM GMT
    K, from personal experience..

    Big buff boys who are all butch and tough like.... total fucking bottoms!

    Twinkies who are all fem.. like to think them self a top..

    the ones in the middle, tend to be more versatile.

    But, then again, its all different, I think I've just had an inordinate amount of buff guys ending up being a bottom or mostly a bottom and the twinkies being tops..
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    QUOTE Nov 01, 2008 2:20 PM GMT
    All I can say is:

    Man of Steel, Heels of Helium.
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    QUOTE Nov 01, 2008 5:24 PM GMT
    I've never seen a reliable pattern, either by body type or by outward behavior. I'm small and unimpressive in appearance myself, but have a very dominant personality (retired Army Colonel), and I'm a versatile.

    I know large guys who are tops, and tops who are small, large bottoms & small, dominant tops and dominant bottoms, etc, etc. I think internal structure may have more to do with it than external appearance, the fact of whether a man has a prostate that gives him pleasure during anal or not. A guy who gets little physical pleasure out of being a bottom is less likely to choose that over being a top. And if there's a correlation between prostate pleasure and a man's external appearance I'm not aware of it.

    And psychological issues may also be involved in a man's approach to anal. So there would seem to be too many variables to give men distinctive "markers" that provide you reliable clues to their anal type.
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    QUOTE Nov 03, 2008 8:50 PM GMT
    How about using old reliable,

    Ask

    Communication is the best aid for having fun.
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    QUOTE Nov 03, 2008 8:59 PM GMT
    Don't discuss the question with your guy. Wait until you guys are in bed together and go with the flow.

    I can't help but wonder why the "jokes" posted to this topic tend to make fun of a guy who chooses to bottom....and the generalizations about steroetyping bottoms are sad and hint of ridicule.....
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    QUOTE Nov 03, 2008 9:06 PM GMT
    Gaymedes saidTramp stamp usually means they like to bottom


    the assumption being that a top does not have a tramp stamp?
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    QUOTE Nov 03, 2008 9:08 PM GMT

    IDK .. it's hard to know .. beside of the stereotypes : masculine guy is a top and femmine is a bottom .. there are always the guys in the middle that you'll never guess about them ..

    I say see how is he communicating with you or looking at you .. and at some point you'll need to ask if you're not sure ..

    You don't want to be in bed with him and wondering who will put the condom .. just ask when it somes to talking about sex .. it's not wrong
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    QUOTE Nov 03, 2008 10:11 PM GMT
    I like doing both. Just because you bottomed last night doesn't mean you have to bottom tomorrow.
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    QUOTE Nov 03, 2008 11:29 PM GMT
    KissingPro said
    Gaymedes saidTramp stamp usually means they like to bottom


    the assumption being that a top does not have a tramp stamp?



    Valid point but as I said, they like to bottom not they are "bottoms." So yes a "top" can have a tramp stamp.
  • GQjock Posts: 11643
    QUOTE Nov 03, 2008 11:43 PM GMT
    I look for the Big Blinking Light in the bedroom
  • Delivis Posts: 2332
    QUOTE Nov 04, 2008 4:28 AM GMT
    I look for it on the resume. If i dont find it there i just ask.