Feel guilty seeing an 18 year old

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    Jun 12, 2013 11:08 PM GMT
    I'm really picky with guys and haven't touched anyone for a few months now, hence more uninhibited than usual... so when I met a really hot guy at the club last weekend who was also into me, we made out shortly after, and began seeing each other almost every day since.

    Unfortunately we are 7 years apart... the guy has a nice personality, but I can barely relate to him, because there are so many things, even jokes, that he can't understand. He says the stupidest things, and thinks everything I say is funny or "so deep and stuff". He's making a huge effort to downplay the age gap for my own conscience, and claims that he can't relate to his own peers. I think it's because even his own peers are too mature for him. I've dated guys as much as 5 years younger who are very savvy for their age... this is the opposite. This guy is like a pretty kid in a super-hot body (he's a pro athlete). Maybe he spent most of his life training and being totally sheltered, but I can't touch him without feeling like a statutory rapist... argh
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    Jun 12, 2013 11:26 PM GMT
    i want his number, or yours. icon_redface.gif
  • slimnmuscly

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    Jun 12, 2013 11:35 PM GMT
    How far above the legal age of consent does someone have to be before touching him isn't "statutory rape"? If the guy's too immature for you, then don't date him, but he's old enough to make his own decisions, as are you.
  • JackDoyle

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    Jun 12, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    I think you should just go ahead and keep seeing him if you like him! icon_smile.gif He'll learn stuff from you and every relationship and fling however long or short usually teaches you something about yourself, and who cares it's only 7 years! icon_razz.gif
  • NeuralShock

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    Jun 12, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
    So you're just seeing him because you like his body at the expense of absolutely everything else.

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    Lower your standards and get an actual human being rather than a pet playtoy. Scratch that, adopting a child. Being 7 years older than him and taking advantage of him because he is attractive is ridiculous.
  • JackDoyle

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    Jun 12, 2013 11:42 PM GMT
    NeuralShock saidSo you're just seeing him because you like his body at the expensive of absolutely everything else.

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    Lower your standards and get an actual human being rather than a pet playtoy. Scratch that, adopting a child. Being 7 years older than him and taking advantage of him because he is attractive is ridiculous.


    the 18 year old could be taking just as much advantage of him! all young lads wanna do is fuck!
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    Jun 12, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    So..you're 18 and he's 11?
  • calibro

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    Jun 12, 2013 11:50 PM GMT
    so you're dating a puppy
  • Kel_

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    Jun 13, 2013 12:03 AM GMT
    #firstworldgayproblems
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Jun 13, 2013 12:08 AM GMT
    Atleast you have a damn man..
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    Jun 13, 2013 12:10 AM GMT
    Hahaha I love how you called it "statutory rapist" lol.
    Well look legally he's not a minor anymore since he is 18.

    Generally people wouldn't think much of a 7 year age gap, but the reason why it feels like such a big deal now is that his age still ends in "teen". That and coupled with how you've described how he acts, it seems like it just paints immaturity all over.

    I can't speak for everyone but I certainly was at a different stage in life at 18 as opposed to when I was 23-24 and I grew up a lot in the interim.

    To be 100% honest, if all you want is a hotbod then if you really want to I suppose you could just keep him.
    Generally I feel that if you, for whatever reason, can't see yourself committing to a person properly (if that's what you're after of course) then it's no point in stringing them along.

    Overall I'd say that while it's not always the case, a club is probably not the best place to search for a committed relationship (again, if that's what you're after).
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    Jun 13, 2013 12:11 AM GMT
    nothing to sweat over IMHO. Definitely not relationship material in my book but I have a few boys in the 18 - 22 range that are fun to fill in all the right ways. ;)
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    Jun 13, 2013 12:50 AM GMT
    18....21....30....40...really? Don't talk..... just let me enjoy the youth you are wasting with this noise......icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Suetonius

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    Jun 13, 2013 3:27 AM GMT
    A no profile troll?
  • GWriter

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    Jun 13, 2013 3:32 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidDid he graduate high school this year?

    Gee, I wonder who becomes a professional athlete at the tender age of eighteen.


    Maybe he's dating Bryce Harper? (That guy does have a great body!)
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    Jun 13, 2013 4:02 AM GMT
    Personalities are overrated. Continue dating him for his hot body. That all guys are worth anyway.
  • Diplo

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    Jun 13, 2013 4:26 AM GMT
    gooddaytoday saidI'm really picky with guys and haven't touched anyone for a few months now, hence more uninhibited than usual... so when I met a really hot guy at the club last weekend who was also into me, we made out shortly after, and began seeing each other almost every day since.

    Unfortunately we are 7 years apart... the guy has a nice personality, but I can barely relate to him, because there are so many things, even jokes, that he can't understand. He says the stupidest things, and thinks everything I say is funny or "so deep and stuff". He's making a huge effort to downplay the age gap for my own conscience, and claims that he can't relate to his own peers. I think it's because even his own peers are too mature for him. I've dated guys as much as 5 years younger who are very savvy for their age... this is the opposite. This guy is like a pretty kid in a super-hot body (he's a pro athlete). Maybe he spent most of his life training and being totally sheltered, but I can't touch him without feeling like a statutory rapist... argh


    18 year olds can go to the club in LAicon_question.gif
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    Jun 13, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    slimnmuscly saidHow far above the legal age of consent does someone have to be before touching him isn't "statutory rape"? If the guy's too immature for you, then don't date him, but he's old enough to make his own decisions, as are you.


    AT FIRST, I thought the thread should end here because this pretty much sums it up! BUT THEN, I saw this reply

    NeuralShock saidSo you're just seeing him because you like his body at the expensive of absolutely everything else.

    3qljkw.jpg

    Lower your standards and get an actual human being rather than a pet playtoy. Scratch that, adopting a child. Being 7 years older than him and taking advantage of him because he is attractive is ridiculous.


    and was happy people kept posting because this Jackie Chan meme is funny! But seriously, either fuck the hot guy or move on so someone else can fuck the hot guy... damn!

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  • LuckyPierre

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    Jun 13, 2013 5:12 AM GMT
    I'm 48. I was lucky enough to have a great relationship with a 23 yo. He left and went back to Mexico after his 6 month stint at Disney was over. We stayed in touch and I paid for him to come back over the holidays. We had a great time for four weeks while he was back. On the flight home he met a new Daddy. I missed it because I was on an Atlantis cruise. But hey... it was great while it lasted.

    My most recent regular date was 62 and after 4 weeks of seeing each other a couple times a week He broke it off because things were moving too fast.

    Life is full of challenges and opportunities. Embrace them all!

    Cheers!
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    Jun 13, 2013 7:08 AM GMT
    Nothing morally wrong with it so long as it is a mutually beneficial relationship.

    Don't let others tell you how you ought to feel about this guy, just go with how you feel about him. Is him being somewhat dense and immature a turn off, or is it inconsequential? If the later than I see no reason to end it.

    All I have to say is don't take advantage of him and give him lots of space to explore what it's like being in a relationship for the first time.

    I'm going to quote Dan Savage regarding the campsite rule: The relationship is fine, just leave him better off sexually and emotionally than when you met him.
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Jun 13, 2013 7:14 AM GMT
    I am 38 the guy I am dateing/long distance relationship with is 21. Age is nothing but a number
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    Jun 13, 2013 12:21 PM GMT
    NeuralShock saidSo you're just seeing him because you like his body at the expense of absolutely everything else.

    3qljkw.jpg

    Lower your standards and get an actual human being rather than a pet playtoy. Scratch that, adopting a child. Being 7 years older than him and taking advantage of him because he is attractive is ridiculous.


    I'm lol'ing so hard at Jackie.
    Oh God<3
  • helloandgoodb...

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    Jun 13, 2013 12:25 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidSo..you're 18 and he's 11?


    LMFAO


    age is not the problem here. compatibility is. stop seeing him. but u knew that
  • Karl

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    Jun 13, 2013 12:57 PM GMT
    are you kidding me ?
    c'mon , it's only 7 years !
    I thought you were 40-50 or something.
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    Jun 13, 2013 1:35 PM GMT
    safety43_mma170 saidI am 38 the guy I am dateing/long distance relationship with is 21. Age is nothing but a number


    The guy I am " sort of dating but not really" turns 21 next week. Yesterday I booked a weekend in Vegas with my three friends for my 50th. This thing we are doing I dont think is going anywhere. But for now its just fun. I think at some point one of us is going to meet someone else and we will just be friends.