Being single is pretty okay. Discuss.

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    Jun 13, 2013 9:44 AM GMT
    I can read books in bed at night in peace, for example.
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    Jun 13, 2013 10:13 AM GMT
    a book cant give you jelly legs
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    Jun 13, 2013 10:38 AM GMT
    haha, it really is, especially when you are comfortable with yourself and being alone
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    Jun 13, 2013 10:55 AM GMT
    m4rf_ saida book cant give you jelly legs


    I have ways and means of acquiring jelly legs that are not book dependent.
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    Jun 13, 2013 11:22 AM GMT
    I may not show it when I'm with people but I love my alone time where I do anything I want on my terms.

    I discovered being in a relationship that I wasn't exactly doing a lot of things I loved doing. After a while I felt as though my life completely changed. I guess my like keeping to my habits.

    But not being single is pretty okay too!
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    Jun 13, 2013 11:41 AM GMT
    You single kids dont have to deal with a man coming in the bathroom while youre getting ready and taking a shit right in front of you. Or snoring so hard it makes the bed vibrate. Or drinking right from the bottle of OJ. Or leaving one fucking plate in an otherwise empty sink. Or any number of other maddening quirks. icon_mad.gif

    But then again unless you have a regular FB you dont get sex day in and day out so its a bit of a tradeoff.
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    Jun 13, 2013 11:46 AM GMT
    Are you writing this to tell yourself its ok that you're not in one? If so, please know that it is totally ok to not be in one. It does not make you a loser. And compared to being in a bad relationship or even an "ok" relationship, most would easily opt for being single and fun. Being single is not necessarily an indicator that you need to change anything, although it could very well be a reflection of the options you give yourself. If you are ok with that then, yes, you are pretty ok and so is being single.
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    Jun 13, 2013 11:48 AM GMT
    kangourou said
    m4rf_ saida book cant give you jelly legs


    I have ways and means of acquiring jelly legs that are not book dependent.


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    Jun 13, 2013 11:54 AM GMT
    It depends..

    You can be single and have sex on a regular basis
    or
    you can be single and not have sex at all..
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    Jun 13, 2013 1:13 PM GMT
    leo23 saidI am not bothered about my blackberry if its beeps. I am not crazy! Hooo !!


    As long as you have a Blackberry you deserve no happiness in life.

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    Jun 13, 2013 1:48 PM GMT
    kangourou saidI can read books in bed at night in peace, for example.


    And you think this can't be done in a relationship? I read books on my iPad all the time while my bf sleeps. I don't bother him and he doesn't bother me. There's no turmoil going on there.
  • iHavok

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    Jun 13, 2013 2:01 PM GMT
    Being single means eating dinner when and where you want.
  • DanOmatic

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    Jun 13, 2013 2:12 PM GMT
    I think that singlehood is great when you're happy and comfortable in your own skin and have lots of friends to provide support when you need it. It doesn't mean that one is relegated to celibacy--I have sex on a solid, though sometimes irregular basis, and it's on my own terms. There are a sexless relationships out there, after all.

    Though I'm not advocating singlehood over being in a relationship, I think it's certainly much better to be happily single than being in an unhappy or stagnant relationship.
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    Jun 13, 2013 2:14 PM GMT
    m4rf_ said
    kangourou said
    m4rf_ saida book cant give you jelly legs


    I have ways and means of acquiring jelly legs that are not book dependent.


    share!

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    Jun 13, 2013 2:40 PM GMT
    I've been single for a little while now.

    The ups:
    -I can do whatever I please, whenever I please.
    -I don't have to worry about upsetting someone else (although that seems similar to the above item).
    -I have time to better devote myself to my friends, work on myself, etc.

    The downs:
    -Sometimes the single life is just really fucking lonely (a good percentage of my close friends are married, and/or in relationships). It sucks being 3rd/5th/7th wheel.
    -When your taken friends are like, "Aw, poor you! You'll find someone just wait!" It's like, STFU please.
    -Dating. Blows. Hard.
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    Jun 13, 2013 2:46 PM GMT
    I'm getting my Master's, working two jobs, and competing as a bodybuilder a couple times a year. Working on getting published, trying to finish my book by next year, looking to be twice the man next year that I am today.

    No way in hell could I pull that off if I was dating someone.
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    Jun 13, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidSix years after my last LTR ended, I am quite used to being single. It would be hard to adjust having someone underfoot again.


    Like this?

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    Jun 13, 2013 3:45 PM GMT
    Ammon saidIt depends..

    You can be single and have sex on a regular basis
    or
    you can be single and not have sex at all..



    --- or you can be married/partnered and not have sex at all... Glad that's over!
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    Jun 13, 2013 3:52 PM GMT
    duluthrunner said
    Ammon saidIt depends..

    You can be single and have sex on a regular basis
    or
    you can be single and not have sex at all..



    --- or you can be married/partnered and not have sex at all... Glad that's over!


    Sounds like Hell. I would think you would feel like an animal in zoo. Sex is important. If you're in a sexless, monogamous relationship, then it is like having a controlling and manipulative best friend/roommate with no benefits. Very toxic for the soul.
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    Jun 13, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    It's all I've ever known ... and I like it icon_smile.gif
    Plus side, I can focus my attention to other things I want to do like hobbies, talents etc.
    I can also be a complete lazy ass one time and it's fine haha.
  • BryUSC88

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    Jun 13, 2013 11:48 PM GMT
    I think a balance is the best option. I like my alone time, but I also miss having someone. So the perfect solution would be a great relationship where you allow each other to have alone time. And I read in bed every night with my Kindle. It's back-lit, so it never bothered my ex.
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    Jun 14, 2013 12:02 AM GMT
    it is ok until that awful day...Feb 14....
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    Jun 14, 2013 12:03 AM GMT
    I hate being single..it sucks lol

    I'd rather be in a relationship with someone I love/care about than be single.

    I spend wayyy too much time alone. Yes friends are awesome, but going home alone all the time is no fun. And just sleeping with random people isn't the best solution either.

    Here I am on vacation for over a month, and I just wish I could have spent this time with a partner.

    I digress...
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    Jun 14, 2013 12:06 AM GMT
    So far I had the first 20 single but that didn't count, being closeted in a str8 world. Since then a 2-year who dumped me and two 10-years who died. So 22 of 36 years in a relationship with most of that single life coming in at this end of it. I miss my buds. I very much liked having them in my life.

    Even though some of my closest friends betrayed me while I was mourning the last set of deaths, I still have very good & supportive friends who have remained loyal and loving and I've a very loving family who call to check on me, but they have their lives and that's not mine. And I'm not theirs. I know that.

    I miss having someone who I put first. For now there's no one to take the bullet.
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    Jun 14, 2013 12:20 AM GMT
    I hate being alone. Eating alone is depressing too. Life in general is more fun with people you love.

    Being single is okay and all, but having people around you (not necessarily a relationship) makes it more memorable/exciting.

    Just my thoughts though.