My Freshman Year in Review

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    Jun 13, 2013 1:21 PM GMT
    So I just finished my freshman year of college and I figured I should take this time to reflect on the big year. Even though I have only completed one year of college, I feel that I have learned a lot about whom I am and what I want to do with my life.

    Being in a university in a major urban city opened me up to diverse and stimulating activities. I participated in extracurricular and met some amazing people. Being in college also gave me the opportunity to meet other gay individuals and I have met some potentially lifelong friends. I have learned that there a gay, professionally minded individuals and just seeing how down to earth they are gave me a new sense of confidence in my sexuality and myself.

    Yea I’m going to be honest, I did have some protected, safe sex this year, but it really did help me come to terms with my sexuality. I still implore new freshman (and guys in general) to be safe with sex and don’t be a douchebag even if it is a one-night stand. Treat every guy courteously.

    Luckily, I already knew my major before I entered university. However, I wanted to decide a career path. After researching and interacting with numerous recent graduates and alumni, I have came to the epiphany that I can succeed in working in the business of entertainment or the consulting industry. My biggest challenge after graduation will probably which city to move to!

    All in all, freshman year was an exuberant year filled with countless opportunities. I strongly advise new freshman to connect with your university and explore all the opportunities and resources your university can provide you with. Also, be smart and when it comes to intimacy and try to find your right group of friends. Be true to yourself and don't try to change your personality to please others. I wish all of you incoming freshmen the best and enjoy yourself!
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    Jun 13, 2013 7:41 PM GMT
    sonicpower19 saidI have came to the epiphany that I can succeed in working in the business of entertainment or the consulting industry.


    I feel that when you have a career doing what you enjoy doing that you're much more likely to be successful. And unless you're always poor, you'll be much happier.

    I worked in the computer field which pays well and you could really see this; the natural geeks were the stars and the ones you could count on and the 9-5 ones were just going through the motions.
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    Jun 14, 2013 5:18 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidI saw in your profile that you have been writing for your college paper.

    Forty years after graduating, my best friends still are the men and women I worked with and later, as an editor, hired on my college paper. Some are pretty well-known now. As a film critic, you may know one of them, he's the film critic for Entertainment Weekly, Owen Gleiberman. I hired him when he was a freshman to be one of our film critics (I was the Arts Editor then).

    So you're right. The friendships you're building now may well last a lifetime.


    Oh wow that's awesome! I recognize his name. I have read a few of his reviews.
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    Jun 14, 2013 5:36 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    So you're right. The friendships you're building now may well last a lifetime.


    In my case all the friends I made in college disappeared forever 15 minutes after graduation. It's my high school friends that have endured, oddly.
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    Jun 14, 2013 6:51 PM GMT
    My oldest friends are my Uni friends nowadays. I am going to stay with two of them next week in Brussels - for free!

    Note to OP: consider making friends with people who come from places you would like to visit in the future icon_razz.gif

    On a more serious note, I should have joined the LGB group. Two of my friends met there and they had a civil partnership last year icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 14, 2013 6:53 PM GMT
    I was friends with someone who cut me off for no reason. It made me say things I regret.... Sort of.... One thing about men is that they will snap if they are provoked enough, even towards someone they care about.icon_cry.gif
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    Jun 15, 2013 6:16 AM GMT
    I've made some good friends in college, some that will prob last me a while, if not sticking around for my life. One of them is in my field of study, and it's good to have a friend like that who actually can relate to what I'm talking about.icon_wink.gif I'm studying computer science.

    As for friends, they come and go. Try not to grow too attached to your friends unless you're sure you can trust them to stick around. It seems like each semester though that I'm surrounded by a new group of people who I spend my time with. Be open and you'll have alot of good experiences. Do what you love regardless of what anyone else thinks or does. Some ppl thought I was too small to play rugby, but that didn't stop me from joining the school's rugby team, and now I've proven most of them wrong. Remember to be yourself as well.
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    Jun 15, 2013 6:22 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    That is very odd. I have two good friends from high school, but that's misleading. We were friends back then, and for 35 years nothing, no contact---then reconnect two years ago on Facebook, and now we talk at least weekly, sometimes more.

    odd


    I love my High School friends that still endure, but I'm really quite bitter that every single last friend I made in college dumped me the second I graduated. I sometimes wonder if college ever happened since I have nothing tangible to remind me of that time.
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    Jun 15, 2013 6:40 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    easterndude69 saidI've made some good friends in college, some that will prob last me a while, if not sticking around for my life. One of them is in my field of study, and it's good to have a friend like that who actually can relate to what I'm talking about.icon_wink.gif I'm studying computer science.

    As for friends, they come and go. Try not to grow too attached to your friends unless you're sure you can trust them to stick around. It seems like each semester though that I'm surrounded by a new group of people who I spend my time with. Be open and you'll have alot of good experiences. Do what you love regardless of what anyone else thinks or does. Some ppl thought I was too small to play rugby, but that didn't stop me from joining the school's rugby team, and now I've proven most of them wrong. Remember to be yourself as well.

    After a while all that coming and going settles down and you build a group of permanent friends. What you're describing is kind of like dating, in a way....you're trying people on to see who fits. After a while, you know who's going to fit into your life and who isn't.


    Well, I'm going on junior year now. Going to have my third set of roommates(I get assigned randoms each semester). First two roommate experiences have been far from pleasant. I have hope that maybe these roommates will be more of a match this time(one can hope, right?). I guess I'll meet some new ppl this semester but its getting tougher as things are closing down and many ppl have already found their group of friends who they usually will stick with til at least graduation. Or maybe that's just what it's like to go to a state school in Connecticut. After this past spring semester, I feel burnt out. I prob give it too much thought though, but I just want some lasting, meaningful friendships in my life. I failed to have any of that in high school, and since I moved around a little, I don't really have many childhood friends either(and we're only in contact a little). This semester I aim to focus less on the ppl I hang out with and more on the experiences and fun.
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    Jun 15, 2013 6:40 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    That's very odd. Where did you go to college?


    University of San Diego.
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    Jun 15, 2013 6:47 AM GMT
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    Aristoshark said
    That's very odd. Where did you go to college?


    University of San Diego.

    Oh that's it. They were all stoned-out surfers.


    They were the strangest breed. They dressed homeless but had trust funds, were always getting high but were academic overachievers. "Awesome bud let's light up, just let me finish printing the final draft of my honors program research paper I made on post-existentialist experimental criminal psychology."
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    Jun 15, 2013 6:53 AM GMT
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    Matiz said
    They were the strangest breed. They dressed homeless but had trust funds, were always getting high but were academic overachievers. "Awesome bud let's light up, just let me finish printing the final draft of my honors program research paper I made on post-existentialist experimental criminal psychology."

    I never trust an existentialist who doesn't wear a beret and smoke Gitanes. Just sayin'.


    They smoked Parliaments. Or rather he did. And then by extension I did as well for that time. I never got the appeal, this thing I put to my mouth and sucked to burn just to have the queerest taste in my mouth. And then asked for another (because he always carried them). But it's what I did, because he did and only because he did it.
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    Jun 15, 2013 6:58 AM GMT
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    Matiz saidThey smoked Parliaments. Or rather he did. And then by extension I did as well for that time. I never got the appeal, this thing I put to my mouth and sucked to burn just to have the queerest taste in my mouth. And then asked for another (because he always carried them). But it's what I did, because he did and only because he did it.

    Oh my. You were in love.


    Is that what it was? At the time it just felt like drowning in liquid ice, sucked into a despair at the temperature of absolute zero, a squall beneath the surface of my darkest mental lagoons.

    ...they should put that on a Hallmark.
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    Jun 15, 2013 2:35 PM GMT
    easterndude69 saidI've made some good friends in college, some that will prob last me a while, if not sticking around for my life. One of them is in my field of study, and it's good to have a friend like that who actually can relate to what I'm talking about.icon_wink.gif I'm studying computer science.

    As for friends, they come and go. Try not to grow too attached to your friends unless you're sure you can trust them to stick around. It seems like each semester though that I'm surrounded by a new group of people who I spend my time with. Be open and you'll have alot of good experiences. Do what you love regardless of what anyone else thinks or does. Some ppl thought I was too small to play rugby, but that didn't stop me from joining the school's rugby team, and now I've proven most of them wrong. Remember to be yourself as well.


    Definitely man. I feel like I have a good grasp on who I can connect with and the type of things I look for in a friend.

    It's great that you have proven them wrong! I love doing that!
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    Jun 15, 2013 3:53 PM GMT
    sonicpower19 said
    easterndude69 saidI've made some good friends in college, some that will prob last me a while, if not sticking around for my life. One of them is in my field of study, and it's good to have a friend like that who actually can relate to what I'm talking about.icon_wink.gif I'm studying computer science.

    As for friends, they come and go. Try not to grow too attached to your friends unless you're sure you can trust them to stick around. It seems like each semester though that I'm surrounded by a new group of people who I spend my time with. Be open and you'll have alot of good experiences. Do what you love regardless of what anyone else thinks or does. Some ppl thought I was too small to play rugby, but that didn't stop me from joining the school's rugby team, and now I've proven most of them wrong. Remember to be yourself as well.


    Definitely man. I feel like I have a good grasp on who I can connect with and the type of things I look for in a friend.

    It's great that you have proven them wrong! I love doing that!


    The funny thing is one of my friends(not a great friend and I keep my distance from him now even tho we still touch base every now and then) was trying to discourage me from playing rugby because he thought I would get hurt being up against 250+ lb guys. The worst injury I got so far was pulling my groin lol. Plus theres smaller guys than me on the team.
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    Jun 15, 2013 6:30 PM GMT
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    easterndude69 saidI've made some good friends in college, some that will prob last me a while, if not sticking around for my life. One of them is in my field of study, and it's good to have a friend like that who actually can relate to what I'm talking about.icon_wink.gif I'm studying computer science.

    As for friends, they come and go. Try not to grow too attached to your friends unless you're sure you can trust them to stick around. It seems like each semester though that I'm surrounded by a new group of people who I spend my time with. Be open and you'll have alot of good experiences. Do what you love regardless of what anyone else thinks or does. Some ppl thought I was too small to play rugby, but that didn't stop me from joining the school's rugby team, and now I've proven most of them wrong. Remember to be yourself as well.


    Definitely man. I feel like I have a good grasp on who I can connect with and the type of things I look for in a friend.

    It's great that you have proven them wrong! I love doing that!


    The funny thing is one of my friends(not a great friend and I keep my distance from him now even tho we still touch base every now and then) was trying to discourage me from playing rugby because he thought I would get hurt being up against 250+ lb guys. The worst injury I got so far was pulling my groin lol. Plus theres smaller guys than me on the team.


    Small guys have a great advantage when it comes to agility. Keep that in mind icon_wink.gif