I don't think guys like me :(

  • RangerJoshD

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    Jun 13, 2013 9:32 PM GMT
    When guys hit me up on here or A4A or BGCLive all they want to do is have sex. I don't want that at all...I wanna be in love. But it seems none of the guys out here want that from me. icon_sad.gif

    I know I'm young but it would be nice to have a nice guy be interested in me.

    What should I do?
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    Jun 13, 2013 9:45 PM GMT
    RangerJoshD saidWhen guys hit me up on here or A4A or BGCLive all they want to do is have sex. I don't want that at all...I wanna be in love. But it seems none of the guys out here want that from me. icon_sad.gif

    I know I'm young but it would be nice to have a nice guy be interested in me.

    What should I do?


    I think online is an awesome way of meeting people, but the majority of them really are just looking for hookups.

    You just keep looking, then you stop looking and improve yourself. Along the way join certain clubs, activities, bars (maybe), ect, ect. You really shouldn't rush it and just let it be (god, I love The Beatles).
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    Jun 13, 2013 9:46 PM GMT
    I know exactly how you feel. You just gotta hang in there. Men by and large our age aren't really looking for anything deep unless it's an anus.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 13, 2013 9:50 PM GMT
    RangerJoshD saidWhen guys hit me up on here or A4A or BGCLive all they want to do is have sex. I don't want that at all...I wanna be in love. But it seems none of the guys out here want that from me. icon_sad.gif

    I know I'm young but it would be nice to have a nice guy be interested in me.

    What should I do?


    A4A and the vast majority of online gay sites and apps aren't for dating. They're for hooking up. Sad, but true. If you want to date, I would advice putting a profile on a site like Gay.com.. either that, or you will have to state on your profile on any site that you're interested in dating only. You will get few contacts, but at least you're weeding them out from the outset.
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    Jun 13, 2013 9:57 PM GMT
    you'll live.

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    Jun 13, 2013 10:10 PM GMT
    Yeah, tell me about it.
    I can't figure it out either. Many gays have relationships, many are used only for flings with the first group. I think it's just location location location.
    Since I've joined this group, I've become closer to a few people here than real life gays who I was dating. I'd say keep posting here and never say you're unhappy. We're all struggling to be happy.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 13, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
    All men want is sex .. love is just a fantasy ... so go fuck and fantasize you are making love.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 13, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
    Just dance!
    It'll be okay.icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 13, 2013 10:15 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidJust dance!
    It'll be okay.icon_smile.gif


    I like what you did there. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 13, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    Be lucky you have even that. I don't get messages from anyone, period. (Except a few friends I've made)
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    Jun 13, 2013 11:02 PM GMT
    I could be wrong but I think a lot of people here who say they don't get attention (or whatever) are only playing up to certain guys instead of being a friend to the group on the whole.
    As Cassanova said, "Be the flame - not the moth."
    (Oh I'm so deep!)
  • Eli_jah

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    Jun 13, 2013 11:05 PM GMT
    RangerJoshD saidWhen guys hit me up on here or A4A or BGCLive all they want to do is have sex. I don't want that at all...I wanna be in love. But it seems none of the guys out here want that from me. icon_sad.gif

    I know I'm young but it would be nice to have a nice guy be interested in me.

    What should I do?


    There are good men out there, I've met a lot. You actually just have to disconnect and not view men as sexual objects any more (which I suspect you haven't done). As soon as you change how you view and treat men, men will sense a difference and approach you differently

    Also, you are on A4A, what do you expect?
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    Jun 14, 2013 12:58 AM GMT
    Every one of us feels that way, often. I don't know how we convince ourselves that we're the only one, and why there isn't a better support network for it.

    It sucks being lonely. It's not because there's anything wrong with you. It's not because you're gay. It's because you're a human being and we all spend a big part of our lives wanting out into infinity, yearning for something/one.

    Don't dwell on it. Sitting there obsessing over it does not produce the answer to your problem. You need to live your life, then someone will appear to fit into it. Don't spend too much time moping or worrying about it.
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    Jun 14, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    Just wait it out man. He'll show up one day.
    Shit I once waited over a year without sex or dated just because i didn't want to feel cheap by fucking for fuck sakes..
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    Jun 14, 2013 2:03 AM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidBe lucky you have even that. I don't get messages from anyone, period. (Except a few friends I've made)


    Really?
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    Jun 14, 2013 2:13 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidAll men want is sex .. love is just a fantasy ... so go fuck and fantasize you are making love.


    I can't believe you just wrote that.

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    Your just common.
  • Diplo

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:14 AM GMT
    Mesmer saidyou'll live.

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    Hahahahah!
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    Jun 14, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    Guys don't like me either.

    So?

    Learn to be okay with that.
  • Diplo

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:28 AM GMT
    IceBuckets said
    So?

    Learn to be okay with that.


    ALSO, go out there and meet them in person. its the only way to show your true personality. Guys almost never talk to me on apps like grindr. When I go out for a drink with friends I tend to see the same guys out and we hit it off as friends if anything. icon_smile.gif
  • O5vx

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:28 AM GMT
    Most guys think with their penis.
  • calibro

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:42 AM GMT
    i've only just come across you for ten seconds, and already i think you're annoying.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:45 AM GMT
    calibro saidi've only just come across you for ten seconds, and already i think you're annoying.


    Calibro, do you find anyone besides yourself tolerable? Didn't think so.
  • JohnDoe9688

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:47 AM GMT
    You just gotta not give up hope (I know that sounds really mushy haha, but its true) there are some young guys (eg me icon_razz.gif ) who are interested in more than just sex. we'll find the one. He's out there somewhere.
  • calibro

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:53 AM GMT
    NeutralObserver said
    calibro saidi've only just come across you for ten seconds, and already i think you're annoying.


    Calibro, do you find anyone besides yourself tolerable? Didn't think so.


    sorry, you're neither smart, attractive, nor rich enough for me to care what you have to say. but... just so that you don't go home boring and empty-handed...

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:57 AM GMT
    Lo5t5oul5 said
    WaytoDawn saidBe lucky you have even that. I don't get messages from anyone, period. (Except a few friends I've made)


    Really?


    I've had my current contacts for a few months to almost a year now. I never get messages from anybody else. And I try to be so friendly. icon_cry.gif

    But I consider myself lucky to have even them. icon_biggrin.gif