I can live without sex, but

  • Eli_jah

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    Jun 14, 2013 12:37 AM GMT
    music. Oh god, music. I would die without it.
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    Jun 14, 2013 12:41 AM GMT
    If either one of those things transcends life, my money's on music so you may want to reconsider getting all the sex you can now.
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    Jun 14, 2013 1:03 AM GMT
    theantijock saidIf either one of those things transcends life, my money's on music so you may want to reconsider getting all the sex you can now.


    But I kind of made a celibacy pact with myself that has been going for about... 7 months now. How, oh how, do I break it? *goes to neighborhood gay sports bar*
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    Jun 14, 2013 1:07 AM GMT
    Ohhhhh. Sorry, no idea. Those are unchartered waters to me. I figure as I age life will be making those decisions for me, no reason to rush it. Hell, I've got an account saved up specifically earmarked to delay it.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 14, 2013 5:03 PM GMT
    I've been sexually active pretty much for as long as I can remember. I used to play "doctor" with a boy named Barry in pre school, and also with cousins on sleepovers. In fifth grade through eighth grade I had a best friend who I would have oral sex with every time we were together. He was surprisingly hung, and very cute, kinda fem. He was teased a lot in school. I came out in ninth grade as bi and tried sex with girls. The first person I French kissed was a girl, but I could not get it up for her. At 16, I had my first boyfriend out of the closet. Since then, I've rarely been single. There was a two and half year period in my 20s when I was single, and those were awesome times. I never understood why people complained so much about being single. Then again, I was still having sex. Now I'm about to celebrate my nine year anniversary with my bf. I'm grateful for him. I can't imagine ever giving up on love (or sex). I think you should keep looking. I see nothing to gain by celibacy. It can't possibly make you happy..... Can it?
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    Jun 14, 2013 5:05 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI've been sexually active pretty much for as long as I can remember. I used to play "doctor" with a boy named Barry in pre school, and also with cousins on sleepovers. In fifth grade through eighth grade I had a best friend who I would have oral sex with every time we were together. He was surprisingly hung, and very cute, kinda fem. He was teased a lot in school. I came out in ninth grade as bi and tried sex with girls. The first person I French kissed was a girl, but I could not get it up for her. At 16, I had my first boyfriend out of the closet. Since then, I've rarely been single. There was a two and half year period in my 20s when I was single, and those were awesome times. I never understood why people complained so much about being single. Then again, I was still having sex. Now I'm about to celebrate my nine year anniversary with my bf. I'm grateful for him. I can't imagine ever giving up on love (or sex). I think you should keep looking. I see nothing to gain by celibacy. It can't possibly make you happy..... Can it?


    Joe you are really amazing that you can keep the bf thing going for so long, and that you can open yourself up to bringing guys into your heart....props...
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    Jun 14, 2013 5:05 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI've been sexually active pretty much for as long as I can remember. I used to play "doctor" with a boy named Barry in pre school, and also with cousins on sleepovers. In fifth grade through eighth grade I had a best friend who I would have oral sex with every time we were together. He was surprisingly hung, and very cute, kinda fem. He was teased a lot in school. I came out in ninth grade as bi and tried sex with girls. The first person I French kissed was a girl, but I could not get it up for her. At 16, I had my first boyfriend out of the closet. Since then, I've rarely been single. There was a two and half year period in my 20s when I was single, and those were awesome times. I never understood why people complained so much about being single. Then again, I was still having sex. Now I'm about to celebrate my nine year anniversary with my bf. I'm grateful for him. I can't imagine ever giving up on love (or sex). I think you should keep looking. I see nothing to gain by celibacy. It can't possibly make you happy..... Can it?


    It can. Living proof.
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    Jun 14, 2013 5:12 PM GMT
    The day I can't get it up anymore is the day I make myself a Judy Garland cocktail and sit with the car running in the garage.

    If it makes the OP happy, I will have the car stereo running as I pass to the next dimension.
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    Jun 14, 2013 5:21 PM GMT
    NeutralObserver said
    theantijock saidIf either one of those things transcends life, my money's on music so you may want to reconsider getting all the sex you can now.


    But I kind of made a celibacy pact with myself that has been going for about... 7 months now. How, oh how, do I break it? *goes to neighborhood gay sports bar*


    7 months is nothing. Try almost 6 yrs.
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    Jun 14, 2013 6:30 PM GMT
    Music is more important to me than sex.
    I'd rather not live without either, but if I had to make a choice...

    (I can still wank, right?!)
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    Jun 14, 2013 6:35 PM GMT
    gayinterest saidMusic is more important to me than sex.
    I'd rather not live without either, but if I had to make a choice...

    (I can still wank, right?!)


    Only if you're humming.
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    Jun 14, 2013 6:54 PM GMT
    I would also die without music. Helps me through a lot of things. Sex is eh.. Longest I was celibate as an adult was 2 years and 2 months. I've done the hook up thing and it doesn't do anything for me. I just waited to get into a relationship or at least dating someone I like to have sex.
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    Jun 14, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI see nothing to gain by celibacy. It can't possibly make you happy..... Can it?


    I think it's great that you two have been together for so long.

    I was very sexually active when the AIDS shit hit the fan back in the 80s or whenever it was. There was no concept of safe sex before AIDS. It was several years before they had a test. Guys were dying in droves. I was scared shitless and living a life of dread. Going celibate saved my sanity. Accidents happen, condoms break, etc. and I never want to live with that fear again.
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    Jun 14, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    theantijock saidIf either one of those things transcends life, my money's on music so you may want to reconsider getting all the sex you can now.


    +1.

    I'd love to be some freaky ghost music genius in the afterlife. icon_biggrin.gif

    But I should probably learn before I die. icon_neutral.gif
  • Eli_jah

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    Jun 15, 2013 1:51 AM GMT
    MRod said
    NeutralObserver said
    theantijock saidIf either one of those things transcends life, my money's on music so you may want to reconsider getting all the sex you can now.


    But I kind of made a celibacy pact with myself that has been going for about... 7 months now. How, oh how, do I break it? *goes to neighborhood gay sports bar*


    7 months is nothing. Try almost 6 yrs.


    Yeah, me too. I 'wasted' 18 to 23 having no sex. I think I am developmentally challenged in some way (when it comes to sex and intimacy).
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    Jun 15, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    you could beat a stick on a rock for 'a beat'. Sex, I DONT THINK SO!!!! ahahahah
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    Jun 15, 2013 1:53 AM GMT
    NeutralObserver saidmusic. Oh god, music. I would die without it.


    SAME!!!
    I can spend hours just chilling out listening to my favourite music!
    I love music, can't live without it.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jun 15, 2013 1:54 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidI've been sexually active pretty much for as long as I can remember. I used to play "doctor" with a boy named Barry in pre school, and also with cousins on sleepovers. In fifth grade through eighth grade I had a best friend who I would have oral sex with every time we were together. He was surprisingly hung, and very cute, kinda fem. He was teased a lot in school. I came out in ninth grade as bi and tried sex with girls. The first person I French kissed was a girl, but I could not get it up for her. At 16, I had my first boyfriend out of the closet. Since then, I've rarely been single. There was a two and half year period in my 20s when I was single, and those were awesome times. I never understood why people complained so much about being single. Then again, I was still having sex. Now I'm about to celebrate my nine year anniversary with my bf. I'm grateful for him. I can't imagine ever giving up on love (or sex). I think you should keep looking. I see nothing to gain by celibacy. It can't possibly make you happy..... Can it?


    It can be liberating in a way (think about all the energy you exert looking for sex, thinking about sex, etc) but I don't know if it makes you happy. I'd imagine a solid and healthy emotional and sexual relationship with another human being would do it though.

    Nobody wants to be celibate it's just a choice that you make at some point.
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    Jun 15, 2013 2:15 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidI've been sexually active pretty much for as long as I can remember. I used to play "doctor" with a boy named Barry in pre school, and also with cousins on sleepovers. In fifth grade through eighth grade I had a best friend who I would have oral sex with every time we were together. He was surprisingly hung, and very cute, kinda fem. He was teased a lot in school. I came out in ninth grade as bi and tried sex with girls. The first person I French kissed was a girl, but I could not get it up for her. At 16, I had my first boyfriend out of the closet. Since then, I've rarely been single. There was a two and half year period in my 20s when I was single, and those were awesome times. I never understood why people complained so much about being single. Then again, I was still having sex. Now I'm about to celebrate my nine year anniversary with my bf. I'm grateful for him. I can't imagine ever giving up on love (or sex). I think you should keep looking. I see nothing to gain by celibacy. It can't possibly make you happy..... Can it?


    You probably have a very convenient taste in men.
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    Jun 15, 2013 2:20 AM GMT
    I can live without hugs, kisses, sex, intimacy. My libido adapts and I become a true asexual robot. Now, without music, that would really derail my life and happiness. Music is one of those simple little things that really makes me happy and influences my mood anytime.
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    Jun 15, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    preach

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    Jun 15, 2013 2:23 AM GMT
    I was celibate for 14 years... Most of my marriage... LOL.
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    Jun 15, 2013 2:38 AM GMT
    hairyandym saidI was celibate for 14 years... Most of my marriage... LOL.


    +1 Voluntarily...icon_confused.gif
    Music, on the other hand, might be required to keep breathing.
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    Jun 15, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
    Let's also remember that it's different for everyone.
    I choose celibacy partly because of my own beliefs but also because of the convenience for me to choose that option.
    I mean that in the sense that I have been a virgin my entire life and so choosing to then be celibate was not such a difficult decision because, well to put it bluntly it's not hard to 'give up' something you've yet to experience.

    Who knows, maybe if I had been sexually active as a teenager I might not be saying this, but this is how it's turned out for me, and for a lot of people these decisions are made circumstantially.
    I speak for myself only of course but I can say that I don't feel unhappy with the decision I've made.

    Not that I'm saying it's the be all and end all, some people who say the opposite and put sex as the number one or at least a high priority will feel they couldn't live without sex at all.
    That's fine and that's how they feel, their life is obviously different and they search for happiness a different way.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jun 15, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
    I actually kind of miss the "boom box days" when people would listen to music together. Now everyone is plugged in and zoned out.