25, single and never dated.

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    Jun 14, 2013 1:20 AM GMT
    I feel like guys my age have dated at least 5-10 dudes already and I have none to account for...

    Sometimes I get fucking "bogged" down about it. Friends tell me I'm still young and I have plenty of time, but at the same time my luck has NEVER been on my side. WTF? I don't get it.
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    Jun 14, 2013 1:21 AM GMT
    I never went on a date until 4 months before my 25th birthday, and my second date didn't happen until like, 8 months after my 25th birthday.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 14, 2013 1:42 AM GMT
    Why is that? Are you asking guys out? Waiting to get asked out? Have you been turning guys down? You have to flirt and put yourself out there.
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    Jun 14, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    I didn't come out and start dating until I was 25 or 26. And I felt the same way.....like I was behind the power curve. But you learn things and will eventually find what works for you. Just remember its your life and only you have the power to change it.
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    Jun 14, 2013 1:54 AM GMT
    I'm completely sympathetic to guys looking for dates but I can't help notice that we have several "lonely" threads going at once. Why do people who are lonely start their own private threads instead of joining in on the others? Is this indicative of anything?
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:05 AM GMT
    JohnSpotter saidI'm completely sympathetic to guys looking for dates but I can't help notice that we have several "lonely" threads going at once. Why do people who are lonely start their own private threads instead of joining in on the others? Is this indicative of anything?


    They have infinite excuses for rejecting potential partners. The most common one is that they don't live in the same city.... But that wouldn't stop a true romantic.... Just saying.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    You better hurry the hell up, you are at your peak right now ... go up to the hottest guy you can find at the bar and say hi ... then ask him if he goes there often, then ask him if he has a favorite place to go to, then tell you think he is really hot and ask him if he would like to go out sometime. Now hurry up before you get all wrinkled and hunched over with man boobs. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Eli_jah

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:14 AM GMT
    youngRJ1 saidI feel like guys my age have dated at least 5-10 dudes already and I have none to account for...

    Sometimes I get fucking "bogged" down about it. Friends tell me I'm still young and I have plenty of time, but at the same time my luck has NEVER been on my side. WTF? I don't get it.


    Join the motherfucking club. Nearly 26 (well, in December actually) and never "dated" anyone or been in a relationship. Look how well I turned out icon_biggrin.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 14, 2013 2:15 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidYou better hurry the hell up, you are at your peak right now ... go up to the hottest guy you can find at the bar and say hi ... then ask him if he goes there often, then ask him if he has a favorite place to go to, then tell you think he is really hot and ask him if he would like to go out sometime. Now hurry up before you get all wrinkled and hunched over with man boobs. icon_biggrin.gif


    The sad fact is that men reach their sexual peak at 18..... On the plus side, you definitely stay horny until the day you die, lol.
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    Jun 14, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
    I didn't start dating until my mid 30s, so you're about a decade earlier than me! icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 16, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    Trust me boys, I have tried and tried. I have no idea what is wrong with these boys.

    Those who I'm interested are either taken or NOT interested, and I won't date ANYONE just to date. A boy has standards, like anyone else does.

    It just hasn't been my luck. I do put myself out there, but a guy can't chase another guy FOREVER.... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 16, 2013 10:43 PM GMT
    youngRJ1 saidTrust me boys, I have tried and tried. I have no idea what is wrong with these boys.

    Those who I'm interested are either taken or NOT interested, and I won't date ANYONE just to date. A boy has standards, like anyone else does.

    It just hasn't been my luck. I do put myself out there, but a guy can't chase another guy FOREVER.... icon_rolleyes.gif


    I think that is the issue there really.

    If you can't get dates, and keep rejecting people because of standards, then maybe you should relook your standards all together.

    There is nothing wrong with having them, but when it becomes the excuse to never date something might be wrong...
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    Jun 16, 2013 10:45 PM GMT
    I think that it is unhealthy to just date for the sake of dating. However, there is something to be said for getting a little dating experience. The reason you want to have a little bit of experience is so that when you meet Mr. right, you don't fuck it up because you don't know what to do.

    So I would say if you haven't found someone who is interesting to you, don't date. There's nothing more insensitive than dating someone that you have no feelings for. However, if you happen to meet or see someone that you are kind've attracted to and want to get to know more, then I would say you should definitely make a move and see if they want to get coffee or something.

    Make sure that you are making yourself available. Many people don't date until their lives are a little more settled, however, the problem with this can be that people get set in their ways and don't want to share their life with someone. Just some food for thought
  • pharmstudent

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    Jun 16, 2013 10:49 PM GMT
    It depends how you define dating? Now a days chatting on Skype is considered dating.
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    Jun 16, 2013 10:56 PM GMT
    I didn't start dating until I was 24. A lot of it had to do with my degree of comfort. I was the type of person that never wanted to feel uncomfortable in situations, always wanting to be in control. But I've slowly come to realize that you don't get anywhere in life if you stay in you comfort zone...

    take chances, take risks. sure your heart may get broken--- a million times over... but you will never really know until you try.