Courting ➡ Men

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    Jun 14, 2013 11:09 PM GMT
    i would like to know how one properly courts a man.

    i'm at it again.

    in this instance, it would be a man that one meets in person so "sup" and "looking?" are out of the question.. my friend suggested i make eye contact and make a hole in one hand with my thumb and index finger while i insert the index finger from my other hand into it repeatedly...

    i have a tendency to go for what catches my fancy and not think twice about it. this time, i'd like to have a game plan for after i break the ice.
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    Jun 14, 2013 11:13 PM GMT
    for example, should i tell him he's beautiful and invite him out for a drink? what would i discuss over that drink? should i have a few topics readily lined up? i know he's into sports.. he is in fact beautiful and has got to be bigger than me in terms of muscle mass and i love it.

    truthfully, i think i'm somewhat intimidated but i've got no time for it. it's a waste of time to feel that so i'm getting over it and staying course.

    i overheard him today. he likes basketball.. i know nothing about it.

    i broke the ice and said hi to him.. i got a "hi" back.

    i'm very commanding when it comes to getting things off the ground.. in the past, though, i'm sure i've let go of the reigns and expected them to do the rest. the ol' bait n switch. i'm growing out of it. i'm remaining alpha and would like tips on how i should whisk him off his feet given the fact that i know nearly nothing about him and sports not being a common interest.

    also, would i, as the initiator, automatically fill the role of the "top"? he is bigger than me though i am taller. is that ok? i don't know if i've got the strength yet to lift him and tossle him about.

    i imagine it being a lot like a greyhound trying to have it with a pitbull.

    i'm certain both of us want it. i would just like to meet and surpass all expectations.

    should i shower him with money and gifts? or should i do hip thrusts and pelvic rotations to assure that i impress him with my massive cock and seductive dance moves?
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    Jun 14, 2013 11:39 PM GMT
    I didn't read any of this...so I'll pick C) none of the above.
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    Jun 14, 2013 11:48 PM GMT
    GordHunter saidI didn't read any of this...so I'll pick C) none of the above.


    thanks for the help. it's why i post here. i know i'm in good hands.
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    Jun 15, 2013 12:02 AM GMT
    What's with the arrow? Just curious.
    I've dated many guys a few weeks but never had a steady boyfriend I really cared about . I'm courting someone in this group now. It's really hard to strike a balance and be interesting and complimentary without going too far or expressing expectations.
    None of us can write book here. Can you give a scenario?
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    Jun 15, 2013 12:03 AM GMT
    i don't know why i put myself through this.

    i think i'd feel a bit better about this once i release the expectations i have.

    perhaps i've met a wonderful man who only wants me to be myself and have his horizon broadened with varied interests and to love me for more than a lifetime.

    i'm an honest man. i'm loving, upstanding and respectful. when will i have it with this internal torture than i put myself through when i measure myself against expectations that have been created in me mirrored in part by what society believes a young man my age should be? well, i'll tell you when..

    that when is now.

    here, friends.. here is where i draw the line.

    i've got the money in my pocket and my heart to offer and quite an experimental outlook in the bedroom.

    perhaps my insecurities are all hogwash and they no longer serve a purpose. here and now i say "No More!" to those insecurities and say "YES!" to happiness and love.

    i believe this is it, friends. i've finally found my one true love and i can see it in his eyes that i am also his. i'm ready to build our life on the foundation that is happiness. i'm ready and i feel it in my heart that so is he. this is it.



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    Jun 15, 2013 12:12 AM GMT
    ...the hell?
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    Jun 15, 2013 12:23 AM GMT
    JohnSpotter said...the hell?


    i'm going to love and respect myself in the way that i'm worth and deserve. it's a way for me to recognize and receive the unconditional love and acceptance from others in return.

    there is only LOVE.

    I'm worth it.
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    Jun 15, 2013 12:42 AM GMT
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    then get real close to his face

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    works like a charm every time

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    Jun 15, 2013 12:51 AM GMT
    tigr3 said
    JohnSpotter said...the hell?


    i'm going to love and respect myself in the way that i'm worth and deserve. it's a way for me to recognize and receive the unconditional love and acceptance from others in return.

    there is only LOVE.

    I'm worth it.

    Yes, I get that but what has it to do with the opening question?
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    Jun 15, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    JohnSpotter said
    tigr3 said
    JohnSpotter said...the hell?


    i'm going to love and respect myself in the way that i'm worth and deserve. it's a way for me to recognize and receive the unconditional love and acceptance from others in return.

    there is only LOVE.

    I'm worth it.

    Yes, I get that but what has it to do with the opening question?


    everything, john. everything.

    it all has to do with a new me and i'm going to own it.

    it begins now.
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    Jun 15, 2013 12:57 AM GMT
    Just go for it. Let your intentions be know and use your personality to your advantage.
    If nothing else, you'll know you tried.

    On another note.. I think it's epically romantic you're trying to court this guy, i'm jealous of him already.
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    Jun 15, 2013 1:03 AM GMT
    shahzada saidJust go for it. Let your intentions be know and use your personality to your advantage.
    If nothing else, you'll know you tried.

    On another note.. I think it's epically romantic you're trying to court this guy, i'm jealous of him already.



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    Jun 15, 2013 3:54 AM GMT
    tigr3 said
    shahzada saidJust go for it. Let your intentions be know and use your personality to your advantage.
    If nothing else, you'll know you tried.

    On another note.. I think it's epically romantic you're trying to court this guy, i'm jealous of him already.



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    Keep us updated on how it goes!!
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    Jun 15, 2013 5:36 AM GMT
    Umm... your plan sounds incredibly "forward" . You could risk putting him off by calling him "beautiful" etc. I know I would definitely feel awkward in the face of such an aggressive advance.

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    Sep 02, 2013 12:21 AM GMT
    courting back from where i am from was a looong process.

    usually, a guy would invite a girl to go out on dates and when the right time comes, he would ask the girl "can i court you?"

    if the girl says yes, then they are sort of exclusively dating but it the girl says no, that means the guy is "basted" a filipino slang for "rejected"

    okay... so it could take days, weeks, months, sometimes years of going out and guy asking the girl "oh tayo na ba?". its like asking what the status of the relationship is. when the girl says yes, that mean they are officially a couple. haha

    thats how i view courtship. it involves a lot of things. romantic things.

    to some it may be awkward for a guy pursuing another guy but it is actually kind of cute. id rather go for a long process than a "sup" from grindr.
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    Sep 02, 2013 12:41 AM GMT
    OP, why are you courting other men? Your profile says you're in a monogamous relationship.

    If you hang around a barbershop long enough, you're gonna get a haircut. If you keep courting other men, you're going to start cheating on your husband and THAT is very, very bad for a monogamous relationship.
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    Sep 02, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidOP, why are you courting other men? Your profile says you're in a monogamous relationship.

    If you hang around a barbershop long enough, you're gonna get a haircut. If you keep courting other men, you're going to start cheating on your husband and THAT is very, very bad for a monogamous relationship.


    hahaha. PREACH!