Bullied

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    Nov 02, 2008 7:34 AM GMT
    Were you one of the bullied kids in school?
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    Nov 02, 2008 1:43 PM GMT
    I was a victim of a bully a few times. Mostly because I've always been small for my age. But it never lasted too long, because I fought back when they didn't expect I would.
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    Nov 02, 2008 2:13 PM GMT
    Yes in the early grades (9 and 10). Then I went into one stream (advanced) and the bullies went into another so we rarely crossed paths again.
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    Nov 02, 2008 2:16 PM GMT
    Never bullied. I would never let anyone bully me for one...and two...my family was way too big. I had too many brothers and cousins. If you messed with one of us....you had to deal with all of us.
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    Nov 02, 2008 2:20 PM GMT
    I once read a study on bullying behavior in elementary schools, and they noted that among boys there were relatively few bullies and few victims. Most boys just tried to stay out of their way. I was one of those boys, I suppose. They also noted how unusual it was for boys to stand up to bullies and stop their aggressive behavior. Boys in this category were rare; in fact, girls would be more likely to engage in this behavior.
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    Nov 02, 2008 3:07 PM GMT
    Never had a problem with bullies. I was friendly with everyone. And everyone knew I had two older, very protective sisters.
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    Nov 02, 2008 3:40 PM GMT
    I was, and some of them still have the scars for their trouble.icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 02, 2008 4:06 PM GMT
    There was one inicident when I was in 7th grade, but it only lasted a week. Other than that, I was never actually bullied.
  • DCEric

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    Nov 02, 2008 4:12 PM GMT
    Yup, but looking back on it now it was never that bad. Nothing brutally physical (except once in elementary school).
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    Nov 02, 2008 4:36 PM GMT
    Bully story: I entered public high school in my Junior year, having hated the 2 previous private prep schools my parents made me attend, and deliberately trying to flunk out.

    But I lacked the skills for the more rough-and-tumble environment of a public HS, compared to those exclusive boys prep schools, and a bully soon latched onto me. He was especially annoying in the lunch room, and one day he started poking my ice cream cup with his dirty fork.

    A small offense, but I'd had enough of his constant persecution.

    "You wanna play with my ice cream? Here, lemme help you..." And I shoved the ice cream cup right into his face, to cheers from the other students at our cafeteria table.

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    He tried to punch me, but I dared him to step outside where I'd take him on. We went outside the ground-level cafeteria, where I pounded him real good. Other students were pressing against the windows and yelling, finally getting the attention of the teachers who were the lunch room monitors.

    We were both hauled off to the Principal's office. There I reverted to class, and calmly informed the Principal that if I was subjected to further bullying my parents would refer the matter to their attorneys. Mind you, this was 1965.

    The bully & I were both given a stern warning and sent back to our respective classes. Thereafter he showed me a lot more respect, actually grateful that I had possibly saved us both from a suspension. And he never bothered me again.
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    Nov 02, 2008 4:40 PM GMT
    yah, just once though, i was on grade 11th, the guy just wanned to kill his girlfriend, he was part of the Cuban Army and he stole an AKM(Russian) and started shooting everyone after he killed the girl, then he killed himself.
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    Nov 02, 2008 4:42 PM GMT
    charlitos saidyah, just once though, i was on grade 11th, the guy just wanned to kill his girlfriend, he was part of the Cuban Army and he stole an AKM(Russian) and started shooting everyone after he killed the girl, then he killed himself.


    Is that true??? OMG!!! Were you hurt yourself? Was this in the US or Cuba?
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    Nov 02, 2008 5:53 PM GMT
    Not really bullied, but I had one guy that got in my face one time because he thought I was coming on to his girlfriend! Oh, the irony.
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    Nov 02, 2008 5:57 PM GMT
    Yes... and the ironic thing was that I was the one who wound up in in-house suspension for trying to defend myself.
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    Nov 02, 2008 6:02 PM GMT
    Until I learned to fight and stand up for myself, I was bullied by a kid when I was a pale, skinny, 9 year old. I was hijacked to and from school - the kid wanting money. I'm ashamed to say that for about 3 weeks I paid up - too afraid to say anything to anyone. One day I ran dry of cash and the bully beat me up pretty badly. My own grandfather saw me limping home - bloody - barely able to walk. He was mortified shit like this could happen in Hillsborough, California (a pretty nice town). Right away, my grandfather got me boxing lessons and I learned to fight. When I was ready (by the time school started again) I kicked the bully's lilly white butt - publicly - and never felt better. The little girls thought I was so cool. (Little did they know that it was boys I preferred!) Lesson learned: A strong offense is the best defense.
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    Nov 02, 2008 6:20 PM GMT
    I've been, by a guy who thought I was gay (not a bad guesser, was he?) and he was a big time homophobic. It never got physical but it still hurts.

    Now, I just feel sorry for him. I hope one day he can find peace and stop hating people.
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    Nov 02, 2008 6:27 PM GMT
    Yep, I recall one in 3rd grade. Dad taught me to throw a punch, and when that kid provoked me again I clocked him hard. He had no idea it was coming.

    I'm not a huge proponent of physical violence - but when warranted, it can certainly be effective.
  • GQjock

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    Nov 02, 2008 6:35 PM GMT
    In grade school I was a pudgy little kid and sometimes I got picked on
    An then in HS I started working out and playing sports and that all stopped soon
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    Nov 02, 2008 6:39 PM GMT
    I was bullied all the time but the girls loved me and stood up for me icon_smile.gif
    One of the bullies would give me candies and gave me piggy back. I think he was secretly in love with me.
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    Nov 02, 2008 6:46 PM GMT
    Red_Hussein_Vespa said
    charlitos saidyah, just once though, i was on grade 11th, the guy just wanned to kill his girlfriend, he was part of the Cuban Army and he stole an AKM(Russian) and started shooting everyone after he killed the girl, then he killed himself.


    Is that true??? OMG!!! Were you hurt yourself? Was this in the US or Cuba?


    Yah it was true... unfortunately. It happened in Cuba, the school name was "Republic of Venezuela". It was the first time in the country something like that happened since in Cuba no one is allowed to buy guns and shit. Thanks god the guy didn't get to kill any one else, but he wounded 2 professors and other 2 girls(students). Me and my class happened to be on the football field when it happened and the guy saw us running and he started shooting but none of the shots reached any of us.

    Was kinda traumatic but well, it was a long time ago(4 years ago)
  • Sparkycat

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    Nov 02, 2008 7:02 PM GMT
    Yes, bullied constantly. In earlier grades (7.8.9) it was because I was quiet and really bad at sports. In high school it morphed into constant gay bashing. I was pushed, punched, spat on, teased and tormented constantly. I remember very clearly teachers watching what was happening and doing nothing. It also didn't help that my father hated me because I was gay, so I could not turn to my family for support. When I was a freshman at university and could see a shrink at Student Health without my parents knowing I did so because I was seriously thinking about killing myself. His opinion was that I showed all the signs of post traumatic stress disorder. I still have trouble dealing with people. Don't know if I'll ever find a life partner. That's all I really want.

    I was in high school int he 1970's. At least I had disco.

    Cameron
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    Nov 02, 2008 7:57 PM GMT
    Cameron - I had a similar experience. I was bullied constantly for being a 'sissy' and left pretty traumatized by it. I was a gentle, highly sensitive, painfully introverted boy who loved animals. It also didn't help that I was lousy at sports but came first in my class academically. I had no one to protect me and no one to teach me how to fight back. It's taken a lot of work to try and build up my self-esteem - a task I'm still working on. Letting someone close and trusting him is something I struggle with to this day. And I still have the default mode where I'm sure no one I meet could possibly like me. Now as an adult I've retained my personality characteristics and see them as positive but I'm still really bad at asserting myself - sometimes not even recognising when I'm being taken advantage of or not considered.

    Like you though, disco was a lifesaver!icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 02, 2008 8:04 PM GMT
    I was harassed in high school so much for being gay that I was put into a community college in the 11th grade full time. Can't complain with 2 years of free college education and an AA degree along with a HS diploma as retribution for being harassed. ;)
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Nov 02, 2008 11:02 PM GMT
    All my school years I was bullied, and yes it leaves scars.
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    Nov 02, 2008 11:15 PM GMT
    One good thing that came out of all the recent hate crime
    foofarrah against us is that we're now living in my old home town.

    HA. HA. HA.

    When I left 36 years ago I stood 6 ft 1 inch and weighed 128 lbs. Now I've returned at 185 lbs, nicely filled out and the bullies?
    Arthritic, alchoholic, bent, using canes some of 'em and still single with broken marriages and/or delinquent juveniles for kids. It takes them a full 30 secs to recognize me.

    I've been killing them with open arms and a cornucopia of kindness. This state of compassion is so sweet I may become a type 2 diabetic.

    Some of the girls that knew me back then have said quietly,
    "How can you? They beat you up." I say revenge is fine, but forgiveness divine. heh