should i find a dude who's more cool about getting fucked?

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    Jun 15, 2013 5:12 PM GMT
    i try to tell him to relax, i know exactly where my dick is going: into an asshole. when i'm really horned up, a little poop on my dick is not at all a problem. icon_surprised.gif

    but how can i make him feel more comfortable about it? i try to ignore and keep going but he always gets really uncomfortable and that turns me off.

  • HottJoe

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    Jun 15, 2013 5:21 PM GMT
    He doesn't know what he's doing if he's shitting on you... He probably needs to figure out his body a little better, how to relax, etc. If you want to make it work, you're going to have to have patience, but he's going to have to be less afraid, too.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 15, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    Get him an anal douche. They're cheap; about 20 bucks at any sex store. And if he's a bottom, he should get in the habit of douching before sex.
  • Apparition

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    Jun 15, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
    Is it just the messiness ? Turn out the lights, blindfold him, or fuck in the shower.

    If he doesnt like bottoming dump him.
  • Webster666

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    Jun 15, 2013 10:43 PM GMT
    Make a list of the qualities that you LIKE about this guy.
    How many other guys can you find with those qualities ?
    How many other guys can you find who want to get fucked ?
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    Jun 22, 2013 4:57 AM GMT
    if it's that bad of a problem maybe i should give my ass to u so u can go to town on it(:
  • my8kitso

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    Jun 28, 2013 4:27 PM GMT
    I totally agree, if you're dealing with the ass, you have to expect a little dirt sometimes, it's not nice, but it's not a deal breaker to me.
    If my boyfriend refused to bottom, that WOULD be a deal breaker, I just love fucking ass too much to give that up.
    I'd have a sit down with him and discuss things, maybe there's something else going on.
    If you don't get it at home, eventually you're going to look for it somewhere else, if you have an open relationship that can work to satisfy your needs, but if you're boyfriend wants a monogamous relationship, I think it's unrealistic if you love topping.
    Good luck!
  • rnch

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    Jun 28, 2013 6:10 PM GMT
    Move (or at least visit) to New Orleans!

    I'll introduce you to several Better Bttms that will happy to accommodate you.
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    Jun 28, 2013 6:19 PM GMT
    relaxing and being comfortable with your partner are key. So is a good cleaning, but 'shit happens'... lol.
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    Sep 27, 2013 7:15 AM GMT
    Train him to bottom properly for you. Take your time be gentle. He'll soon be the best ass you ever fucked.