"Hotlisting" A Guy And He Doesn't AT LEAST Say Thanks

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    Jun 15, 2013 9:17 PM GMT
    Should I be bothered by this? I've hot-listed many guys and they later look at my page...and that's it...

    I don't get a thank you, a hot list back...geee...buddy list me or something...

    Is this the norm? Am I over-reacting? Maybe I'm too nice?

    Thoughts guys?
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    Jun 15, 2013 9:21 PM GMT
    discowriter saidShould I be bothered by this? I've hot-listed many guys and they later look at my page...and that's it...

    I don't get a thank you, a hot list back...geee...buddy list me or something...

    Is this the norm? Am I over-reacting? Maybe I'm too nice?

    Thoughts guys?


    it's no big deal. some people will say thanks. others will just go like "oh" and keep it moving. it is what it is.
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    Jun 15, 2013 9:21 PM GMT
    It's all for fun. I don't Hotlist guys to fish for compliments, or to start flirting. Nor do I expect the guy to reciprocate. It's just a quick, easy, and non-sexual way to compliment someone. If they say thanks, then that's cool. If not, then no big deal.
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    Jun 15, 2013 9:24 PM GMT
    Don't get me wrong, I'm not fishing for compliments, I just would like some common courtesy. Maybe that's too much to ask.

    A lot of guys do say thanks and such, but not the "majority."
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    Jun 15, 2013 9:30 PM GMT
    "you are visually pleasing and make me want to touch myself."

    That merits no thanks. Send a message if you want a conversation.


    Hotlisting is nothing more than noticing a hot guy when you walk down the street. icon_razz.gif


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    Jun 15, 2013 9:32 PM GMT
    lol Cute intro haha

    But no, that's not exactly what I'm thinking.

    :pppp

    right? O-o
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    Jun 15, 2013 9:35 PM GMT
    Well, if you compliment someone in person and they don't acknowledge you, do you shrug it off and keep on moving? Or do you chase them down and lecture them about courtesy?

    Fact is, everyone has different perceptions about social interaction. You can't get mad or bothered about it.
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    Jun 15, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    I like how you capitalize 'AT LEAST' as in you're expecting him to PayPal you a $20 or take you out to dinner for it.

    Hot listing is unsolicited. Unsolicited actions require absolutely no reciprocation and moreover have NO consequence to the hotlisted person for not reciprocating.
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    Jun 15, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    I actually give them the f*** you look if they don't acknowledge my compliment in person lol
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    Jun 15, 2013 9:53 PM GMT
    Seeing as I can hotlist with one click I personally don't expect them to spend 20 times that amount of time composing a thank you message.
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    Jun 15, 2013 9:54 PM GMT
    Upper_Cdn said"you are visually pleasing and make me want to touch myself."

    That merits no thanks. Send a message if you want a conversation.


    Hotlisting is nothing more than noticing a hot guy when you guy down the street. icon_razz.gif




    Ha! Finally, somebody puts this confusing "hot list" thing into words for me. Brilliant. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Jun 15, 2013 9:56 PM GMT
    Store proprietors generally don't thank people for window shopping. I believe the same standards hold here icon_lol.gif
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 15, 2013 10:05 PM GMT
    No one owes a 'Thank You' because of a hotlist. If you really want to engage, send a personalized message. It's a token of appreciation that should be given without expecting reciprocation. If you're taking the thanklessness as rejection, grow a thicker skin.
  • Webster666

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    Jun 15, 2013 10:35 PM GMT
    It seems to me that a "Hot List" consists of pics collected for one's own enjoyment.
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    Jun 15, 2013 10:39 PM GMT
    Rhi_Bran saidStore proprietors generally don't thank people for window shopping. I believe the same standards hold here icon_lol.gif

    Ha! All brilliant bon mots but Bran is always good.
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    Jun 15, 2013 11:19 PM GMT
    :-(
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    Jun 15, 2013 11:20 PM GMT
    If someone doesn't thank you they are basically saying:

    "I'm not attracted to you."
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    Jun 15, 2013 11:24 PM GMT
    Thanks.










    Oh wait...








    Nevermind.
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    Jun 15, 2013 11:39 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidIf someone doesn't thank you they are basically saying:


    "I'm not attracted to you."


    Now that's just rude. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 15, 2013 11:43 PM GMT
    You mentioned getting hotlisted back as well. I can't think of anything worse than a pity hotlist! I am sure you will get on plenty of hotlists of your own once you have been here a while.
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    Jun 16, 2013 12:26 AM GMT
    Bottom line:
    Thanking you is not gonna happen.
    And most people here don't want it to happen.
    I hot list people who don't write in the forums because I want to take a look at them now and then. That's all. Don't thank me.
    If I comment your photo with SEXY don't thank me.
    If write something clever, you can thank me.
    If I write to you personally, it would be nice if you responded.
    As I've written before, I only get pissed off if someone puts in his profile

    IM A REAL FRIENDLY GUY
    WHO WANTS TO MAKE
    LOTS OF FRIENDS HERE
    SO BE SURE TO WRITE TO
    ME AND ILL BE SURE TO
    WRITE BACK

    And he doesn't.

    Well bite me twice Mr Pick and Chose!

    (Quest, you can bite me twice too... The good way.)
  • Fable

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    Jun 16, 2013 12:29 AM GMT
    UGH GET OVER YOURSELF!!!!
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    Jun 16, 2013 12:37 AM GMT
    if it bothers you that a guy wont thank you for "hot" listing him...you're going to have a bad time.
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    Jun 16, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    Matiz saidI like how you capitalize 'AT LEAST' ...

    My brain can't let this go.
    Since you wrote that, what would be more they could do?
    Or were you just hyperboling?

    While we're on the subject, someone here hotlisted me, I said "thanks," and I did not get a "You're welcome."

    I think this person knows who he is and I hope he rots in hell.
  • NeuralShock

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    Jun 16, 2013 3:35 AM GMT
    Then don't hotlist the damn guy.

    You taking an action and expecting someone to give any sort of response is a bit pompous.