Im A Total Bottom And I Hate It. Can I Become Versatile?

  • FunkyJay45

    Posts: 31

    Jun 16, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    Ok so this is just a continuation of my last thread about my inability to enjoy anal sex.

    I want to top....

    Why? Because if bottoming doesn't work for me, I can always have a second option.

    This is the bad thing about being a total bottom.... when your anal hole gets sore and you aren't able to have anal sex, you have no other way to get off unless u jerk off or have oral sex

    I just want to know why is it so hard for me to top? I want to be more versatile but every time I try to top a guy my penis doesn't get hard enough to top him. If I find a guy attractive shouldn't I be able to penetrate him? I get hard when I see a guy with a nice butt but when it's time to have sex I go limp and cant get hard enough to penetrate him

    I have so many sexual issues. I feel hopeless! I feel like I will never truly be able to experience GOOD SEX. Will sex ever be enjoyable for me?
  • HottJoe

    Posts: 21366

    Jun 16, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    That's interesting. I feel like I was the opposite. As a former top, I just physically couldn't go through with bottoming. I had only tried it a handful of times before I was in my current relationship. Now it's all we want to do.... In retrospect I did have a sense of incompleteness before then. It's possible that you're actually more of a top but you need someone who you trust completely.
  • FunkyJay45

    Posts: 31

    Jun 16, 2013 2:23 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidThat's interesting. I feel like I was the opposite. As a former top, I just physically couldn't go through with bottoming. I had only tried it a handful of times before I was in my current relationship. Now it's all we want to do.... In retrospect I did have a sense of incompleteness before then. It's possible that you're actually more of a top but you need someone who you trust completely.


    I think it's psychological. Like a mental block stopping me from being able to top it's weird

    My penis gets hard any other time except when im trying to top
  • BryUSC88

    Posts: 198

    Jun 16, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    I say embrace what you like. I happen to be VERY thankful that most guys seem to be bottoms. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 16, 2013 8:23 PM GMT
    It's psychological. I get the same thing. I wanna top more than bottom these days, but because of inexperience I suffer from nerves which sometimes kills my hardon. Just a matter of becoming more confident through practice with understanding sexual partners.