How do you meet guys?

  • Youngrealtor

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    Jun 17, 2013 2:31 AM GMT
    Hello all! I am new here, and need some advice. I live in NC, and am pretty young (1icon_cool.gif. Although I am young, I am very mature. I really want a relationship, but can't seem to find a guy! Plenty of guys willing for a hookup but not dating. I want a guy who has a good future ahead of him, doesn't have to be beautiful but can't be ugly as I have to be attracted to him. I just find it so hard to find gay guys to date. I am not into the club seen, and most of my friends are straight so that really limits me. Any advice? icon_smile.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 17, 2013 3:03 AM GMT
    Tie yourself to train tracks and a get rescued by a cowboy. So romantic.icon_surprised.gif
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    Jun 17, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    Youngrealtor saidHello all! I am new here, and need some advice. I live in NC, and am pretty young (1icon_cool.gif. Although I am young, I am very mature. I really want a relationship, but can't seem to find a guy! Plenty of guys willing for a hookup but not dating. I want a guy who has a good future ahead of him, doesn't have to be beautiful but can't be ugly as I have to be attracted to him. I just find it so hard to find gay guys to date. I am not into the club seen, and most of my friends are straight so that really limits me. Any advice? icon_smile.gif
    You're asking for a lot from your peers. Most guys your age, gay or straight, just wanna fuck everything that moves. But don't give up. Your not too beautiful but not ugly guy is out there. icon_biggrin.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 17, 2013 3:10 AM GMT
    Well, the statistic is 1 in 10. That means that 10% of the population is gay, or about 1 in 10 people.

    Follow so far?

    Since women out number men about 2 to 1, that means that in 30 people, 2 will be lesbians and 1 will be a gay man.

    Since you count as one, that means you will have to make friends with 60 people in order to meet one other gay man.

    ..... or you could just go to the gay bar where they all hang out.
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    Jun 17, 2013 4:21 AM GMT
    my bf and I met on manhunt icon_smile.gif been together for almost 4 years now.

    there's plenty of good guys everywhere, you just have to have good judgement in who isn't a shady character.

    online places are a good start -- gives you an idea who may be in your neighborhood or area. social apps like grindr and scruff may also be a good point.

    shady as it may seem, there's always craigslist.
  • Youngrealtor

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    Jun 17, 2013 4:26 AM GMT
    I've met a few decent guys on gay apps. I guess my biggest problem is not wanting to go on "dates". I feel like I know a lot of gay guys, sadly most of them get around. A lot. Not into that.
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    Jun 17, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    simply just by going to gay bars, lgbt centers, the interwebs, and etc. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 17, 2013 4:38 AM GMT
    Youngrealtor saidI've met a few decent guys on gay apps. I guess my biggest problem is not wanting to go on "dates". I feel like I know a lot of gay guys, sadly most of them get around. A lot. Not into that.


    well if that's not your thing, then don't get into it -- stick to whatever you want and don't anything you'll regret later.
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    Jun 18, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    I have no idea how to meet guys other than the internet or gay bars.
  • NeuralShock

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    Jun 18, 2013 1:05 AM GMT
    I met my man a few steps outside of the washroom.... we talked for a while and then he went and blew up the toilet.

    Okay, jokes, he said hi to me religiously and now we're cuddling all the time <3

    But, yeah, we also did talk outside the toilet stalls in the lockerroom right before he went to unload like a machinegun.
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    Jun 18, 2013 1:06 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidTie yourself to train tracks and a get rescued by a cowboy. So romantic.icon_surprised.gif


    It always worked for Dudley Do Right
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    Jun 18, 2013 1:21 AM GMT
    Gay sports leagues. You will get dates.
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    Jun 18, 2013 1:25 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWell, the statistic is 1 in 10. That means that 10% of the population is gay, or about 1 in 10 people.

    Follow so far?

    Since women out number men about 2 to 1, that means that in 30 people, 2 will be lesbians and 1 will be a gay man.

    Since you count as one, that means you will have to make friends with 60 people in order to meet one other gay man.

    ..... or you could just go to the gay bar where they all hang out.

    Women outnumber men by 2 to 1? Are you sure about that?
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    Jun 18, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    I signed up for meetup.com. There are several LGBT groups that do outdoor activities, wine tasting, sports events, etc. My experience is that the people who attend range in age from 18-50. Everyone seems to be relaxed and normal. I have not met a BF yet, but the prospects are good. Also, they do not charge any membership fees, etc. It is just open-ended invites to social events.

    If nothing else, you get to go out and do something with other people instead of going out by yourself. Good luck with your search.
  • trl_

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    Jun 18, 2013 1:53 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidTie yourself to train tracks and a get rescued by a cowboy. So romantic.icon_surprised.gif


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  • MrPapo317

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    Jun 18, 2013 2:13 AM GMT
    willular said
    Youngrealtor saidI've met a few decent guys on gay apps. I guess my biggest problem is not wanting to go on "dates". I feel like I know a lot of gay guys, sadly most of them get around. A lot. Not into that.


    well if that's not your thing, then don't get into it -- stick to whatever you want and don't anything you'll regret later.


    This.
    i used to get online and chat with guys all the time when we had the same intrest which was usually working out or music. meet with a few to run the canal.
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    Jun 18, 2013 2:33 AM GMT
    If no other option, Go to gay bars anyway...ignore all that push up on you with stupid conversation. And if one holds a good conversation, trade numbers but let him call you..talk some more. Hold off on date for a bit, keep convo going, then when you know he's really interested in you...hit that date and ball in your court...icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 18, 2013 2:42 AM GMT
    Broseph saidIt agree it's somewhat age-related.

    I think, since you want a relationship, that you would be better suited for the meetup or sports league things. You will meet people at bars and online, but you will have to work extra hard to filter out the hoes. It's just something we all have to deal with icon_confused.gif

    You might have to drive to Charlotte to get even near organized gayness though :/

    I went to a bar there once right before I moved there and it was ok but you're still not going to find too many relationship-types in a bar.

    I would say, overall: take your time and focus on looking for good friends. Be active, go places, meet people. You have sooooo much time to find Mr. Right. Don't settle for crap :p

    Also, +1 for the cowboy idea.


    What are you saying there are hoe's in RJ?!! icon_confused.gif
  • selim

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    Jun 18, 2013 2:42 AM GMT
    i too was new here 4 days ago!!icon_lol.gif

    it may depend on your feeling like to send a mail to someone that you´d like to know!!
  • calibro

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    Jun 18, 2013 3:10 AM GMT
    no offense, but mature people don't start threads about how mature they are
  • CityofDreams

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    Jun 18, 2013 3:12 AM GMT
    Broseph said
    Selim saidi too was new here 4 days ago!!icon_lol.gif

    it may depend on your feeling like to send a mail to someone that you´d like to know!!


    Barcelonaaaaa! I went to Sitges a few times. Nice place icon_smile.gif

    Whoops... thread-hijack...


    I love BCN!

    Anyway, back on topic. Either party it up, join a league, college group, or use a dating site.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jun 18, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidTie yourself to train tracks and a get rescued by a cowboy. So romantic.icon_surprised.gif


    Are you trying to be the next calibro?
    Answering posts firsts with some silly comment?
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    Jun 18, 2013 3:41 AM GMT
    Broseph saidIt agree it's somewhat age-related.

    I think, since you want a relationship, that you would be better suited for the meetup or sports league things. You will meet people at bars and online, but you will have to work extra hard to filter out the hoes. It's just something we all have to deal with icon_confused.gif

    You might have to drive to Charlotte to get even near organized gayness though :/

    I went to a bar there once right before I moved there and it was ok but you're still not going to find too many relationship-types in a bar.

    I would say, overall: take your time and focus on looking for good friends. Be active, go places, meet people. You have sooooo much time to find Mr. Right. Don't settle for crap :p

    Also, +1 for the cowboy idea.


    +1
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    Jun 18, 2013 4:45 AM GMT
    hang out in the produce department or cereal aisle in your supermarket.
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Jun 18, 2013 5:03 AM GMT
    I have met some guys on the Internet but be careful many are real fakes.

    I met my last b/f on Badoo after chatting for a few months getting to know and also chatting on messenger web cam (now awful skype) so I knew it felt right and it was. Also on Planet Romeo I have chatted some guys and a couple were ok. I live in Izmir Turkey and people are really friendly and say hello but of course they are not all Gay. I never did go to Gay Bars as I don't like them much as I think you are sometimes like a piece of meat waiting to be ate?

    Anyway you are still young and you will meet some good some no and you have you whole life ahead so don't rush let fate take its hold?