the guys picking up that you're gay without you even saying it and them letting you know unappreciation thread

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    Jun 17, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    icon_sad.gif was driving around with my mom through brownsville heading back to jersey and there was this muscular, built, bald guy wearing a wifebeater and skinny jeans that crossed the street at some red light heading towards the train station. he had this certain walk to him that screamed "gay". couldn't help but look @ dude for a second and him and me just locked eyes at each other down for about 4 seconds. next thing you know from the corner of my eye, he was staring @ me again. my mom noticed that he was staring @ each other where she thought that he was full of himself. icon_lol.gif but she didn't realize what was REALLY going on. icon_neutral.gif she knows that i'm gay BUT @ the same time, she isn't down with gay people or agree with homosexuality so she pretty much tries to avoid talking about it.

    sheit, i've had several incidents where other gay dudes have done that eye contact shit to me randomly and judging from their facial expressions and body language, they just go like icon_smile.gif, icon_twisted.gif, or icon_wink.gif like they're like "i know you're gay even though you're hiding it". WTF. i actually am still trying to work my way out the closet to other people and be comfortable with being gay people. i'm not trying to be outed like that by someone.
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    Jun 17, 2013 12:23 PM GMT
    Remain in the closet at your own risk!
    When you eyefuck guys, they can tell you're gay, but not that you are still working your way out of the closet.
    What is keeping you in there anyway?
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    Jun 17, 2013 1:42 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidRemain in the closet at your own risk!
    When you eyefuck guys, they can tell you're gay, but not that you are still working your way out of the closet.
    What is keeping you in there anyway?


    the people that i'm around and have to deal with. homophobia is the norm and gay is looked at as a negative thing. icon_sad.gif

    the thing with coming out is basically being rejected by both straight and gay people. straight people will reject you just because you're gay even if you're a cool person. they just won't treat you the same way as if you were straight. gay people on the other hand, i gotta say this because it really gets me heated, you would think folks would at least be supportive or understanding towards someone's situation where they're basically have a lot to lose by saying that they're gay. to have a gay person trying to give me a hard time over some bullshit because they don't like the way i look or don't want to date me because they're had attracted to me so they feel they have the right away to disrespect me as a human being really just turns me off where i want to do something incredibly fucked up to them to let them know how i feel or make them "smarten up".

    in fact, i would give the straight person more sympathy than the gay person though and that's simply because a gay person should be able to relate to that shit compared to a straight person. i would expect them to know where i'm coming from but to get flack over being in the closet, acting like it's so easy when you're surrounded by folks that don't get it because they're straight and then they wanna shit on me too on some personal disrespect shit. fuck that. that's why sometimes i really feel like choking out, knocking out or seriously hurting a gay dude that gets out of line and i wouldn't feel remorse or apologize to his ass either but i won't do that though despite being tempted.
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    Jun 17, 2013 1:45 PM GMT
    Maybe you'd have more luck making gay friends if you didn't imply that you'll kill anyone who isn't attracted to you....icon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 17, 2013 1:58 PM GMT
    lordofthebling said to have a gay person trying to give me a hard time over some bullshit because they don't like the way i look or don't want to date me because they're had attracted to me so they feel they have the right away to disrespect me as a human being really just turns me off where i want to do something incredibly fucked up to them to let them know how i feel or make them "smarten up".


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    Jun 17, 2013 2:03 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidMaybe you'd have more luck making gay friends if you didn't imply that you'll kill anyone who isn't attracted to you....icon_neutral.gif


    no, you misunderstood what i wrote.

    what i'm saying is that with straight folks, they just treat you like a regular person where they're willing to deal with you and just let things be. folks aren't looking @ you like "damn, he doesn't look good. i don't want to be friends with him." it's more of like if they think you're a cool guy to hang around, they'll deal with you even if you're weird. i have many straight friends where we just talk about whatever and don't care as long as i'm cool. it's really easy to spot out someone who's a dickhead or an asshole when they're straight. most people will despise them and treat them for who they are, straight up assholes. they might get their ass kicked and the whole nine and nobody will feel sorry for them because they got what they deserved.

    with gay folks on the other hand, it's like they pretty much shut any chance of socializing, being your friend and etc without even getting the chance to know you based off of petty shit. you'll have dudes looking @ if you're attractive, how in shape you are and all these stupid things that don't even matter before they even get to find out how you are as a person as in talk to you. then they pretty much will act nasty or rude to you on top of that too where they just basically are being an asshole as if they have the right to act as such if they don't like you and if they do, they'll act "too nice" to the point where it's NOT genuine. they think that it's okay to behave that way and that the person who gets offended by their attitude is in the wrong when it's just them. then when they have folks that treat them accordingly to how they act and give it back to them, they can't deal with them. that's why when i see how some gay dudes behave and carry themselves, i'm like wow, you must not really interact with people like that because i'm sure people wouldn't tolerate that mess.

    plus i notice that many gay guys don't value friendship like that anyway. i've tried to make gay friends offline as in random meetups off the street, spots and etc but they've made themselves really distant though. only time they seem really interested in being friends is when they have an ulterior motive which is they want some ass or want to date.

    i'm just not used to dealing with that. i'm used to dealing with straight people and there's a code associated with that.
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    Jun 17, 2013 2:05 PM GMT
    The older you get the harder it is to stay in the closet. Even when you're young, people will suspect you're gay if you don't have a history of girlfriends.
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    Jun 17, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
    I'm endlessly telling people I just broke up with my girlfriend.
    When I actually get a boyfriend, I'll probably start telling the truth. I have nothing to gain by coming out now.
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    Jun 17, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    lordofthebling said...i actually am still trying to work my way out the closet to other people and be comfortable with being gay people. i'm not trying to be outed like that by someone.


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    Jun 17, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    lordofthebling said...i actually am still trying to work my way out the closet to other people and be comfortable with being gay people. i'm not trying to be outed like that by someone.


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