I'm getting married!

  • cookingitswee...

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    Jun 17, 2013 9:42 PM GMT
    I am now oficcaily the happiest man on Earth. I asked the love of my life to mary me and he said yes! We have been together only 6 months, but it feels like we've known each other forever. I was wondering what married couples did to have a beautiful wedding, but without spending a lot. We plant to tie the knot next year. I am so happy. Pleas share your advice. Thank youicon_lol.gif
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    Jun 17, 2013 9:49 PM GMT
    cookingitsweet saidI am now oficcaily the happiest man on Earth. I asked the love of my life to mary me and he said yes! We have been together only 6 months, but it feels like we've known each other forever. I was wondering what married couples did to have a beautiful wedding, but without spending a lot. We plant to tie the knot next year. I am so happy. Pleas share your advice. Thank youicon_lol.gif


    Oh honey......

    No.
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    Jun 17, 2013 9:51 PM GMT
    EuphoricDanger said
    cookingitsweet saidI am now oficcaily the happiest man on Earth. I asked the love of my life to mary me and he said yes! We have been together only 6 months, but it feels like we've known each other forever. I was wondering what married couples did to have a beautiful wedding, but without spending a lot. We plant to tie the knot next year. I am so happy. Pleas share your advice. Thank youicon_lol.gif


    Oh honey......

    No.
    +1

    I guess it's true. Gay marriage is gonna end up being just like straight marriage...more work for divorce attorneys. icon_lol.gif
  • cookingitswee...

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    Jun 17, 2013 10:01 PM GMT
    I'll make you eat those words
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    Jun 17, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    EuphoricDanger said
    cookingitsweet saidI am now oficcaily the happiest man on Earth. I asked the love of my life to mary me and he said yes! We have been together only 6 months, but it feels like we've known each other forever. I was wondering what married couples did to have a beautiful wedding, but without spending a lot. We plant to tie the knot next year. I am so happy. Pleas share your advice. Thank youicon_lol.gif


    Oh honey......

    No.
    +1

    I guess it's true. Gay marriage is gonna end up being just like straight marriage...more work for divorce attorneys. icon_lol.gif


    You ain't lying. You just start to know whether you both like the same kind of toothpaste around six months of dating. Well maybe that's me but the point is that no one should be getting married that quickly. I wouldn't engaged to someone so quickly.
  • jackooh

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    Jun 17, 2013 10:07 PM GMT
    they're a-tie-in the knot next year plenty of time to fudge it up before then! n married after a year can be pretty standard, oh n CONGRATS,
    advice: try n stay happy! n dont ignore problems, n dont over-examine problems

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    Jun 17, 2013 10:19 PM GMT
    jackooh saidthey're a-tie-in the knot next year plenty of time to fudge it up before then! n married after a year can be pretty standard, oh n CONGRATS,
    advice: try n stay happy! n dont ignore problems, n dont over-examine problems



    It's their life but if you're seriously considering marrying someone after six months you're having a lapse in judgment. And if you are engaged after dating for a year that's standard which I also disagree with.
  • WApilot

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    Jun 17, 2013 10:25 PM GMT
    I am happy for you and I in no way am saying that six months, you can't fall in love and marry someone. My parents knew each other for eight months and have been married for 20 years...

    But, think long and hard about getting married. That's a BIG step. In six months, you're just getting to know each other, you're either still in or just about to end that all-too-well "honeymoon stage".

    Have you two moved-in together?
    Have you guys had a big argument that has tested your relationship?
    Have you both met each others families and friends?
    Have you spent time apart for a period of time and maintained communication and (if you're monogamous) fidelity?


    I'm not questioning your judgement to be a dick but seriously, think about this before you make it legal. Don't be a stupid biatch!
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  • Fable

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    Jun 18, 2013 12:18 AM GMT
    jackooh saidthey're a-tie-in the knot next year plenty of time to fudge it up before then! n married after a year can be pretty standard, oh n CONGRATS,
    advice: try n stay happy! n dont ignore problems, n dont over-examine problems




    Our high school taught you better English than that.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 18, 2013 12:27 AM GMT
    Are you sure you're not a lesbian?

    Only lesbians get married that quickly. That, and dumb teenagers in high school. Sorry.
  • Apparition

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    Jun 18, 2013 1:30 AM GMT
    my friend had a guy in a "hulk" tshirt preside over his wedding, which was on a boat, it was light, and fun.
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    Jun 18, 2013 8:18 AM GMT
    Congrats!
  • jackooh

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    Jun 18, 2013 10:04 AM GMT
    its secondary school theo we're not american ;p Me n Katrina used to get stoned before English n take great pleasure n ripping off the wallpaper... oh memories...
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    Jun 18, 2013 11:57 AM GMT
    Uhhh okay I'm just going to give you a different perspective since everyone here seems to be so against it.
    I know of 3 couples who knew each other for less than 1 year and got married and they are still together to this day 4 years after.
    I was at their weddings.

    Like ANY relationship, even in marriage, it's still the same principles that are required to make it work.
    Equal give and take, equal contribution, good communication, willingness to sacrfice and/or compromise for each other, etc. etc. you name it, whatever.

    If both are determined to make it work, I don't see how it wouldn't. If anything, learning about each other is part of the journey and years and years down the line it will be that much more meaningful to them to have waded through the hard times together to then be able to come out the other end more grateful for one another, and at a place where they can enjoy the appreciation that they chose each other over the circumstance. I think that's what makes commitment special.

    Everyone is going to have their ups and downs, their good days and bad days, that's not a good enough reason to bail out solely on that alone or be too afraid to commit to someone just because you won't like their downs or bad days.
    It's inevitable, everyone has them.
    Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying to put up with extreme behaviours like violence nor am I saying that change is impossible, that's a different story.

    If you waited til the relationship was perfect before you decided to get married then you'll wait forever because no relationship is perfect. It just becomes more refined over time as both people work at it together and as the years go by you slowly find that what you have in each other and in the relationship/marriage is a diamond in the rough that just needed time, patience and perseverance to strip down the dirt and reveal it's true beauty.

    Okay so that last part is a tad bit of airy fairy talk, but you get my drift.
    The point is, you never know how much time it is you need before you know it's the right time. It's like asking someone how long is a piece of string. It can be any length, it really just depends on the people involved.
    It was a yes afterall so you never know, they might just be the 2 who are strong and determined enough to love and cherish the ups and the goods and to choose each other over the circumstance in the midst of the bads and the downs.

    People have done it, so it's not like it's impossible and anything worth doing is worth doing well.
    Ask any married couple who have been together for 20, 30, 40+ years and they'll tell you it's not just an easy ride.
    I'm sorry for yet another long winded post, total #TLDNR which is completely understandable and I will shutup now.
  • thatirishbast...

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    Jun 18, 2013 12:00 PM GMT
    ^
    Said it better than I could.
    Congrats on the big news!
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jun 18, 2013 12:08 PM GMT
    Why are people being dicks?

    We're suppose to be a supportive community.
    God, these are the rights that people fight for years and a lot of people are acting to pessimistic towards it.

    Congrats on you engagement by the way, just make sure you don't fuck anything up and then see you on the Cam2Cam forums.
    <3
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Jun 18, 2013 12:10 PM GMT
    cookingitsweet saidI am now oficcaily the happiest man on Earth. I asked the love of my life to mary me and he said yes! We have been together only 6 months, but it feels like we've known each other forever. I was wondering what married couples did to have a beautiful wedding, but without spending a lot. We plant to tie the knot next year. I am so happy. Pleas share your advice. Thank youicon_lol.gif


    Congratulations sweetie! As long as you two love each other, and have also given each other high marks within the stressful moments in your relationship, your tying the knot sounds like the appropriate thing to do!! aside from the fact that such step it is the ultimate expression of Love for one another, and if that is the case between you two, more power and my best wishes to you both! again congratulations!
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Jun 18, 2013 12:11 PM GMT
    NerdMonastery saidUhhh okay I'm just going to give you a different perspective since everyone here seems to be so against it.
    I know of 3 couples who knew each other for less than 1 year and got married and they are still together to this day 4 years after.
    I was at their weddings.

    Like ANY relationship, even in marriage, it's still the same principles that are required to make it work.
    Equal give and take, equal contribution, good communication, willingness to sacrfice and/or compromise for each other, etc. etc. you name it, whatever.

    If both are determined to make it work, I don't see how it wouldn't. If anything, learning about each other is part of the journey and years and years down the line it will be that much more meaningful to them to have waded through the hard times together to then be able to come out the other end more grateful for one another, and at a place where they can enjoy the appreciation that they chose each other over the circumstance. I think that's what makes commitment special.

    Everyone is going to have their ups and downs, their good days and bad days, that's not a good enough reason to bail out solely on that alone or be too afraid to commit to someone just because you won't like their downs or bad days.
    It's inevitable, everyone has them.
    Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying to put up with extreme behaviours like violence nor am I saying that change is impossible, that's a different story.

    If you waited til the relationship was perfect before you decided to get married then you'll wait forever because no relationship is perfect. It just becomes more refined over time as both people work at it together and as the years go by you slowly find that what you have in each other and in the relationship/marriage is a diamond in the rough that just needed time, patience and perseverance to strip down the dirt and reveal it's true beauty.

    Okay so that last part is a tad bit of airy fairy talk, but you get my drift.
    The point is, you never know how much time it is you need before you know it's the right time. It's like asking someone how long is a piece of string. It can be any length, it really just depends on the people involved.
    It was a yes afterall so you never know, they might just be the 2 who are strong and determined enough to love and cherish the ups and the goods and to choose each other over the circumstance in the midst of the bads and the downs.

    People have done it, so it's not like it's impossible and anything worth doing is worth doing well.
    Ask any married couple who have been together for 20, 30, 40+ years and they'll tell you it's not just an easy ride.
    I'm sorry for yet another long winded post, total #TLDNR which is completely understandable and I will shutup now.


    Always love your posts! I couldn't have said it better myself!
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    Jun 18, 2013 12:53 PM GMT
    Yay! Congratulations!

    Don't worry, I know a couple who married in a very short period after their first meet.
    Just remember that, if you're truly in love, nothing can separate you...you may go half way around the world from the other but still, your hearts are connected if your love is true.
  • Fable

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    Jun 18, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
    jackooh saidits secondary school theo we're not american ;p Me n Katrina used to get stoned before English n take great pleasure n ripping off the wallpaper... oh memories...



    obviously I used a word yanks would be familiar with. and stoned? disgusting behaviour.
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    Jun 18, 2013 2:40 PM GMT
    NerdMonastery saidUhhh okay I'm just going to give you a different perspective since everyone here seems to be so against it.
    I know of 3 couples who knew each other for less than 1 year and got married and they are still together to this day 4 years after.
    I was at their weddings.

    Like ANY relationship, even in marriage, it's still the same principles that are required to make it work.
    Equal give and take, equal contribution, good communication, willingness to sacrfice and/or compromise for each other, etc. etc. you name it, whatever.

    If both are determined to make it work, I don't see how it wouldn't. If anything, learning about each other is part of the journey and years and years down the line it will be that much more meaningful to them to have waded through the hard times together to then be able to come out the other end more grateful for one another, and at a place where they can enjoy the appreciation that they chose each other over the circumstance. I think that's what makes commitment special.

    Everyone is going to have their ups and downs, their good days and bad days, that's not a good enough reason to bail out solely on that alone or be too afraid to commit to someone just because you won't like their downs or bad days.
    It's inevitable, everyone has them.
    Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying to put up with extreme behaviours like violence nor am I saying that change is impossible, that's a different story.

    If you waited til the relationship was perfect before you decided to get married then you'll wait forever because no relationship is perfect. It just becomes more refined over time as both people work at it together and as the years go by you slowly find that what you have in each other and in the relationship/marriage is a diamond in the rough that just needed time, patience and perseverance to strip down the dirt and reveal it's true beauty.

    Okay so that last part is a tad bit of airy fairy talk, but you get my drift.
    The point is, you never know how much time it is you need before you know it's the right time. It's like asking someone how long is a piece of string. It can be any length, it really just depends on the people involved.
    It was a yes afterall so you never know, they might just be the 2 who are strong and determined enough to love and cherish the ups and the goods and to choose each other over the circumstance in the midst of the bads and the downs.

    People have done it, so it's not like it's impossible and anything worth doing is worth doing well.
    Ask any married couple who have been together for 20, 30, 40+ years and they'll tell you it's not just an easy ride.
    I'm sorry for yet another long winded post, total #TLDNR which is completely understandable and I will shutup now.


    I LOVE this post!!
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    Jun 18, 2013 2:48 PM GMT

    Congratulations, cookingitsweet, I've followed your posts over the last year or so, and you deserve something great and wonderful.

    We're an example of what nerdmonastery was talking about. We met on Nov 18 '89. On Dec 13 '89 we exchanged personal wishes and vows down on the beach with Willis the dog as witness. We exchanged silver rings we'd bought at the local farmer's market (we very very poor then.)I keep them in a box on the dresser.

    Fast forward 20 years and we were married here in the backyard in June 2009. lol, that's one long engagement, so to speak.

    When we married we used the services of a marriage commissionaire. An RJ member once asked us what the vows were that we gave each other when we married, so we put them on our profile page.

    -Doug
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    Jun 18, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
    Congratulations!!
    =D

    I wish you a wonderful wedding (the key to keeping it cheap is not inviting tons of guests) and I hope that you fully enjoy your moments of happyness together and are also wise enough to overcome the bumps along the road!

    Cheers
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    Jun 18, 2013 2:56 PM GMT
    All I will contribute to the discourse is have a prenup drawn up.

    Nothing worse than having to reliquish half the shit you've worked for to someone who didn't even make a third of what you brought to the relationship when it goes south.

    I would state in the prenup that only in the event of one of the partner's death does the surviving partner get the deceased belongings (unless the deceased has children); otherwise the marriage must survive at least 50 years before the prenup is void.

    I was married before and when you are "in love" you never anticipate your love going sour. The odds are against you. Don't be foolish with all you have worked for.

    I will never marry again (male or female) without a prenuptual agreement.

    I wish someone would have given me this advice before I married the first time.
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    Jun 18, 2013 3:01 PM GMT
    meninlove saidAn RJ member once asked us what the vows were that we gave each other when we married, so we put them on our profile page.

    -Doug


    "...I pronounce you Partners in Life.
    Congratulations, you may embrace"

    Why no traditional kiss? I find that curious.