a gentleman's card

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    Mar 18, 2007 7:24 PM GMT
    Maybe this is just silly but here goes:

    Last night I met an attractive guy and we had a good time together. We wanted to exchange some contact information, to keep open the possibility of future developments.

    However, we didn't trust our (slightly befuddled) memories with complex email addresses, nor did we have anything to write with or on.

    I ended up giving him one of my business cards, which seemed a little uncomfortable. It seemed like possibly too much information to give to a casual acquaintance. But really, my work email and phone numbers aren't appropriate contacts for cruising or dating.

    Does anybody carry an old-fashioned social calling card? I mean one with personal, rather than business information. Possibly even "cruising" information, rather than "home" information. What would you put on such a card? Your full name? Just a cell number or email? Even web profiles and screen names?

    Probably there is some way to make a phone squirt such a data burst to another phone, without such an archaic medium as paper. I remember that Mac laptops used to have such a capability, but I'm not sure if it ever caught on.

    The idea of having multiple calling cards, of course, goes along with the idea of having multiple identities. That vaguely smacks a bit of dishonesty. However, in some ways, most of us do have multiple identities or roles in life. I've come across some web sites that claim that it's a huge social gaffe to present a business card when you should be presenting a social card, and vice verse. (Yes, as a matter of fact, I AM procrastinating this morning.) I once worked for a large beltway-bandit company that gave me three cards with different company names. I was supposed to use different cards for different kinds of customers. Of course, I never could keep them straight.
  • Starboard

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    Mar 18, 2007 8:00 PM GMT
    Sounds kinda "money" to me. The pencils and cards provided by most gay bars make what might be more than just a one-night-stand always feel like a cheap-foregone conclusion. I think that a card in an elegant yet masculine font (think Cary Grant in North by Northwest) would be kinda cool (I think CG also carried matchbooks monogramed with his initials in that movie..."ROT"...very "money").
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    Mar 18, 2007 8:28 PM GMT
    I have two (legitimate) business cards. The one I have for being a professor at SFSU, and another for my private consulting company, run out of my home. It's the latter one that I hand out...even for social purposes (even, non-hookup ones). It has both my business and regular phone on it, as well as business and personal email addresses.

    I'd never give out my SFSU card, because that is an "employer" as opposed to my consulting card (read that, "self-employer"). So in handing that out, I don't feel I am violating any trust, confidence, or security information. After all, I don't toss these out of windows, am pretty judicious on who gets one, and I AM my own employer.

    John
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    Mar 18, 2007 9:06 PM GMT
    I don't have a personal card myself but I think it's a practical idea for networking and whatnot. I'd probably not bother with a customized hook-up card though; just a name and email would suffice.
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    Mar 18, 2007 10:40 PM GMT
    Mindgarden maybe we should go into business together, producing matingcallcards! What do you think? Great idea I think.

    I would never give a card for my work place.
  • MarkX

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    Mar 20, 2007 2:23 PM GMT
    Not too many years ago, I had the two cards: work and personal. It worked well for me while I was meeting new friends. I no longer sport a personal card, which is an indication of my having fallen out of practice networking socailly.

  • Mar 20, 2007 3:06 PM GMT
    Mindgarden,
    I just did exactly that, I ordered 200 personal cards--not that I will use them for sex. But, they are practical for many rasons--meeting new people such as friends of friends etc. Mine has my name, cell phone number and my email address. I find it annoying standing there and calling the other person and hanging up and spelling my name (which is complicated enough) etc. while they save my number in their cell phone and vice versa. Although, it puts the ownness on the other person for them to call you, if they don't have a similar card...ask for the other person's number.
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    Mar 20, 2007 4:24 PM GMT
    A few years ago when I was 'starting over' socially and moved into my own home I ordered 'business cards' from one of those direct-marketed address label companies... the kind that also sell personalized checks, etc.

    I still keep a few in my wallet at all times. What a great $10 investment! It's a simple and useful way to give new and old friends and family my complete contact info. I also insert them in gifts, greeting cards, etc. where I may only want to sign my first name but the recipient may not be able to read my handwriting - or remember my last name. LOL

    For me this is a matter of courtesy and convenience and NOT social breeding. But if good breeding happens... yeah for me.

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    Mar 30, 2007 2:04 PM GMT
    I just recently ended a LTR, and moved into my own apartment. Because I had to tell so many people that I was moving, I got personal cards made up (vistaprint.com, if you go with a standard style, it's free plus shipping.) I also have my business cards, and cards I use for private consulting (I'm a career counselor.) I find it works really well, and not just for special friends.
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Mar 30, 2007 5:10 PM GMT
    Generally,

    I think it is a good idea to have two cards available; if you are an independant person who needs to network bussiness-wise then that is one, and another with minimal contact information is ideal for freinds, social/sexual contacts, etc.
    For me it is a very easy thing to design and print these cards myself... no need to order them.
    Any office supply store or large Drugstore sell pre-scored really nice bussiness card stock and Avery has premade templates that you can download if you use windows boxes and for a Mac computer, virtually all graphics software comes with a card template. I use Adobe's InDesign and would be happy to share the design I made for 10 cards on a sheet with any other Mac users,


    --- Ron
  • hotversguy

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    Apr 30, 2007 7:44 AM GMT
    I do. Nice ones. Not the kind you print off the Web.
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    Jul 03, 2007 3:26 PM GMT
    I also have them. My card lists my name, email address and my cell number.

    I also include them on my luggage tags. They are very convenient when exchanging information.
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    Jul 03, 2007 3:46 PM GMT
    I've got two sets of cards as well, but the personal ones I create myself--ink and calligraphy pen (what can I say, I had a boring childhood). Usually list name, personal email, home office line, and website.