I'm worried about HIV

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    Jun 18, 2013 9:07 PM GMT
    So I had this neighbor that suddenly disappeared and I assumed he lost his home to foreclosure. So I asked my mom what happened to him and she told me he died of AIDS and he was gay, I had no idea. Now I'm all worried about HIV. I mean I haven't done anything in like 5 months and am probably not going to considering I deleted all my apps. But I see how some of you guys post about your exploits and I'm like icon_eek.gif

    Just be careful about who you meet. And no glove, no love.

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    Jun 18, 2013 9:13 PM GMT
    So apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.
  • Fable

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    Jun 18, 2013 9:13 PM GMT
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.



    u stupid.
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 18, 2013 9:15 PM GMT
    Fortunately, the available cocktails are bringing down virus blood count levels to undetectable ... but that is only for those that are on the cocktails and taking them religiously. Unfortunately, most of those are going to be the responsible ones that are not and going around having unprotected sex, but even if they do, I think there is a better chance that the disease will not spread from one person to another. This does not eliminate those that don't know their status and may unwittingly pass it on to others. So knowing your status really is important if there is going to be an end to this in the gay community.
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:15 PM GMT
    Whatevz said
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.


    Which is why I went celibate way back when the AIDS shit hit the fan. Being afraid all the time was a real drag, to put it mildly.
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:16 PM GMT
    Whatevz said
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.


    You aren't living in africa mate, and unless you are a HUGE slut who never goes for annual checkups with the doctor, it is unlikely that you are going to die of AIDS anytime soon.
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:17 PM GMT
    darren234 said
    Whatevz said
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.


    You aren't living in africa mate, and uless you are a HUGE slut who never goes for annual checkups with the doctor, it is unlikely that you are going to die of AIDS anytime soon.



    I hope this doesn't mean you don't use condoms...?
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:19 PM GMT
    darren234 said
    Whatevz said
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.


    You aren't living in africa mate, and unless you are a HUGE slut who never goes for annual checkups with the doctor, it is unlikely that you are going to die of AIDS anytime soon.


    Well Darren, one can only hope that you're lucky because that's what'll save you.
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:22 PM GMT
    fable said
    darren234 said
    Whatevz said
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.


    You aren't living in africa mate, and uless you are a HUGE slut who never goes for annual checkups with the doctor, it is unlikely that you are going to die of AIDS anytime soon.



    I hope this doesn't mean you don't use condoms...?


    Of course! I am not looking for the guinness book of world records title for most STDs inherited.
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:24 PM GMT
    Lumpynose said
    darren234 said
    Whatevz said
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.


    You aren't living in africa mate, and unless you are a HUGE slut who never goes for annual checkups with the doctor, it is unlikely that you are going to die of AIDS anytime soon.


    Well Darren, one can only hope that you're lucky because that's what'll save you.


    Where did you guys get that I bareback from?

    I'm always safe and clean, only sluts bareback, that's what I meant by slut.
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:24 PM GMT
    darren234 said
    fable said
    darren234 said
    Whatevz said
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.


    You aren't living in africa mate, and uless you are a HUGE slut who never goes for annual checkups with the doctor, it is unlikely that you are going to die of AIDS anytime soon.



    I hope this doesn't mean you don't use condoms...?


    Of course! I am not looking for the guinness book of world records title for most STDs inherited.


    good boy.
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:34 PM GMT
    fable said
    darren234 said
    fable said
    darren234 said
    Whatevz said
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.


    You aren't living in africa mate, and uless you are a HUGE slut who never goes for annual checkups with the doctor, it is unlikely that you are going to die of AIDS anytime soon.



    I hope this doesn't mean you don't use condoms...?


    Of course! I am not looking for the guinness book of world records title for most STDs inherited.


    good boy.


    I don't need your approval or consent, patronizing englishboy.

    (I am very anglophobic, no personal offense intended)
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:46 PM GMT
    darren234 said
    fable said
    darren234 said
    fable said
    darren234 said
    Whatevz said
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.


    You aren't living in africa mate, and uless you are a HUGE slut who never goes for annual checkups with the doctor, it is unlikely that you are going to die of AIDS anytime soon.



    I hope this doesn't mean you don't use condoms...?


    Of course! I am not looking for the guinness book of world records title for most STDs inherited.


    good boy.


    I don't need your approval or consent, patronizing englishboy.

    (I am very anglophobic, no personal offense intended)



    No you're right you don't need my consent... but If you didn't I would bi:


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    whatever mick. go choke on a nailbomb
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:48 PM GMT
    fable said
    darren234 said
    fable said
    darren234 said
    fable said
    darren234 said
    Whatevz said
    Lumpynose saidSo apparently people have to die before some people realize HIV is no joke. Hrm.

    Well I mean it was always on my mind but now more than ever.


    You aren't living in africa mate, and uless you are a HUGE slut who never goes for annual checkups with the doctor, it is unlikely that you are going to die of AIDS anytime soon.



    I hope this doesn't mean you don't use condoms...?


    Of course! I am not looking for the guinness book of world records title for most STDs inherited.


    good boy.


    I don't need your approval or consent, patronizing englishboy.

    (I am very anglophobic, no personal offense intended)



    No you're right you don't need my consent... but If you didn't I would bi:


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    whatever mick. go choke on a nailbomb


    go kiss your Queen's feet.
  • Fable

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    Jun 18, 2013 9:50 PM GMT
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    Jun 18, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
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    I'm glad.
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    Jun 18, 2013 10:43 PM GMT
    I had an HIV scare once due to a bit of infidelity in a relationship, about a year ago. Tested a month back or so, still negative. Thank heavens. I'm not having unprotected sex with anyone unless I've been with them at least six months and we've both been tested twice in that time.

    Youthful naivety can sometimes be an awful thing.
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    Jun 18, 2013 11:15 PM GMT
    Rhi_Bran saidI had an HIV scare once due to a bit of infidelity in a relationship, about a year ago. Tested a month back or so, still negative. Thank heavens. I'm not having unprotected sex with anyone unless I've been with them at least six months and we've both been tested twice in that time.

    Youthful naivety can sometimes be an awful thing.

    You have the formula for safe sex correct - testing for at least 6 months for HIV, during which you have safe sex, or no sex. Of course, there are other STIs, as well, and you should have a full blood panel done, too.

    Problem is, all unprotected sex ASSUMES your partner is as monogamous as you are. If he strays, and gets infected with HIV, you may die along with him.

    That happened to my first partner. His partner cheated, became poz, and then infected my future partner. Both of them died of AIDS.

    My current partner also lost a partner to cheating. Fortunately, he confessed to my partner, who was never infected by him. Both of us are negative today.

    I'll have unprotected sex with him because I trust him with my life, believe he would never lie to me. Nor would I cheat on him. But if either of us did, our lives are on the line.

    So think a lot about unprotected sex. That other guy holds your life in his hands. Other guys have taken that chance, been betrayed, and died for it. Do weigh the risks.
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    Jun 18, 2013 11:19 PM GMT
    Within the last 2 weeks I learned that by best friend contracted HIV . . So fucking annoyed with him when I heard the news, tho I didn't express the annoyance.

    I was annoyed because he used to lecture me on safe sex all the time. He would constantly make jokes about HIV and AIDS... things like "Oh, looks like he has a House In Vegas." (HIV = house in vegas)...or "ew, he looks like he has AIDS face" about someone who may have looked a little rough around the edges, etc.... Now, his ass caught the HIV..... not laughing anymore.

    I was surprised that such a well-educated, seemingly "good head" on his shoulders type of person would be so careless with their own health as to contract HIV-- like wtf. Everyone knows that HIV is contracted through unprotected sex.... and other ways of course, but he got it through unprotected sex.

    Never have unprotected sex.... unless u just dont give a fuck then by all means have it.

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    Jun 18, 2013 11:32 PM GMT
    Import said
    Never have unprotected sex.... unless u just dont give a fuck then by all means have it.

    Thanks for that story. We are human, after all, with weaknesses & temptations. We hear the warnings, but feel the urge. Or maybe our judgment is impaired, from alcohol or other things. A story I've told before:

    I was bottoming with a guy, using a condom as we always did. We spent most of the night fucking, me topping him, as well, both of us versatile. At dawn we both went into his shower before I drove home.

    Suddenly he bent me over, and started to enter me under the shower spray. I asked if he had a condom, and he said no, there was none in his bathroom, and he didn't want to go dripping wet into his bedroom to get one. He said he was negative, not to worry.

    I was SO in lust, and as he entered me it felt SO good. But suddenly a voice in my head screamed at me: "What the HELL are you doing???"

    I pulled away from him, and he got mad. But I was mad, too. I knew he was a player, with a virtual revolving door to his apartment, but he always assured me he never had unsafe sex.

    Well, this was unsafe sex he wanted with me. And if he would do this with me, what was he doing with other guys? I could no longer trust him.

    We remained friends, but I never had sex with him again, never got into his bed with him again. Those are called survival skills, and I have them in abundance. I hope others here do, too.
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    Jun 18, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    Import saidWithin the last 2 weeks I learned that by best friend contracted HIV . . So fucking annoyed with him when I heard the news, tho I didn't express the annoyance.

    I was annoyed because he used to lecture me on safe sex all the time. He would constantly make jokes about HIV and AIDS... things like "Oh, looks like he has a House In Vegas." (HIV = house in vegas)...or "ew, he looks like he has AIDS face" about someone who may have looked a little rough around the edges, etc.... Now, his ass caught the HIV..... not laughing anymore.

    I was surprised that such a well-educated, seemingly "good head" on his shoulders type of person would be so careless with their own health as to contract HIV-- like wtf. Everyone knows that HIV is contracted through unprotected sex.... and other ways of course, but he got it through unprotected sex.

    Never have unprotected sex.... unless u just dont give a fuck then by all means have it.


    Does one really know they are having unprotected sex when they have been roofied? (however you spell that)
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    Jun 18, 2013 11:49 PM GMT
    well, you better be worried. icon_exclaim.gif

    sheit, hiv is NO joke as well as the whole alphabet of venereal diseases. hell, i'm scared to have sex with folks period. even kissing them in the mouth. there's many folks that freely have oral sex and kiss whoever not realizing that they could get stds and hiv from that too. sheit, i would rather die a virgin than to risk getting that shit. hell, i'm so paranoid that if i DO decide to have sex with somebody, i want them to walk into a clinic and get themselves tested in front of me . i don't trust someone saying that they're negative when they got tested back last year or two years back. got me all scared and shit.
  • dfrourke

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    Jun 25, 2013 9:59 PM GMT
    I love the responses on here (insert sarcastic tone)...

    Information/Knowledge usually does not translate to appropriate behaviors folks... Behavioral Psych 101 (for those majors out there)...

    Humans do things they know they shouldn't do all the time...touch the hot iron? (ouch)...break the speed limit because we're late? (damn I got caught)...save for college? (crud I have loans)...save for retirement?(fewer than 50% of Americans have more than $25,000 saved and we know social security wont be enough)...my point:

    We don't always do what we know we should. That is how this disease has continued and progressed. We take chances/risks thinking it wont happen to us. Then it happens to someone we know and things get REAL.

    When it gets real and we internalize the concern, THAT is the time most likely for change. Some of us are HIV+ out sheer bad luck, others are HIV- out of sheer dumb luck. Some of us have learned the hard way or things got real too darn quick.

    Fear, anger, disappointment is fine to express but not real productive in the end. I support keeping an open dialogue like the OP did so we can work out the information into a personal and community plan.

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    Jun 25, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    Honestly there's always a risk to anything we do. In all aspects of life there's always a negative risk. If all we do is sit and worry about these risks it stops us from living. The best that we can do is take necessary precautions to ensure that we minimize the risk as much as we possibly can. With HIV it is extremely easy to minimize a large amount of the risk through use of condoms. True even with a condom it still can be contracted because let's face it condoms break. But still at least in that instance you did everything that you can to ensure that you were being as safe as possible. Don't fret my friend. Continue to be as safe as possible, but don't let risks prevent you from living your life.