Late Night Thoughts- Work/Life balance and the point of it all?

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    Jun 19, 2013 7:11 AM GMT
    This is mainly something I need to vent and get off my chest but it would be cool to see what other people think/feel.

    I'm 25, graduated from college a few years ago, and started working full time a little less than a year ago. I don't hate my job, it is rarely stressful, I work a standard 40 hour work week and if I ever have to go over that my boss allows me to comp the time (I make salary so no OT), I generally like the people that I work with, I'm not banking in but I make decent enough money for now. With that said, I find myself thinking more and more lately: I work 5 days a week to have 2 to myself to do the things I want to do. I know this is standard in our society but it really drains me a lot. I find myself enjoying the weekends less because they go by so fast and Monday is waiting right around the corner. I do work odd hours and mostly during evenings which could have something to do with it. I basically just don't see myself being able to keep this up for 40 years. I mean really, is that life? Work 5 days get 2 to yourself for 40 years then maybe retire IF you're lucky and I imagine that'll only be a bigger IF when I'm at that age. And when you think about it a 40 hour work week is more than 40 hours- one hour lunch break, plus the time you spend getting ready and commuting every day means most people are putting more like 10-12 hrs into work-related activities every day. Humans in their natural evolutionary state are not meant to work this much but it's the way our society is set up which is stupid. I also understand that humans would not have advanced as much as we have as a species if people hadn't been willing to put in time to come up with innovations and technology. But I don't feel like I'm doing anything that will change the world. I know some of you will say that I'm lazy, spoiled, need to suck it up, etc. but I cannot be the only person that feels this way. I guess I just don't want to spend so much of my life in a society/system that I don't feel like I'm cut out for, but at the same time don't really feel like I have a choice if I want to support myself, pay off student loans, etc. Part of me feels like there's supposed to be more to life than this. Thoughts? Thank you for reading if you got this far.

  • HottJoe

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    Jun 19, 2013 7:19 AM GMT
    You probably need romance in your life.
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    Jun 19, 2013 7:20 AM GMT
    "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."
    ~~Henry David Thoreau
  • Drift

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    Jun 19, 2013 12:05 PM GMT
    I imagine that everyone has similar struggles. There is no meaning other than that we grant, and therein lies the beauty.

    There is no moment like any other.
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    Jun 19, 2013 12:19 PM GMT
    I can sense a lot of things right now, skipping all of it...

    have some hobby or something else...
    Go out or read a book or do something, it makes you feel your weekends are not wasted & you have some meaning to your life.

    BTW, don't think about future...
    live in the present...let the future be with fate.

    & one knows the true value of life when they live to serve for others instead of themselves.
  • phonehome123

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    Jun 19, 2013 12:20 PM GMT
    I know exactly how you feel. I couldn't have articulated better if I tried myself.

    I've come to realize that with my personality I start to feel trapped and bored if I get stuck in a routine. Get up, breakfast, drive to work, lunch, more work, drive home, dinner - on loop for the rest of my life. Urgh. I can't think of anything worse.

    Life is supposed to be lived, not a monotonous routine that slowly kills you. I know there are jobs out there that are less 'routine' and could potentially give me the stimulation I need, but I'm incredibly jaded with the corporate world right now.

    When it comes down to it I just don't want what other people want. I couldn't care less about owning a car or saving for a house. I just want to keep traveling and experiencing everything I can. Some people say that's irresponsible - but I can tell they just don't get it.

    At the moment I'm engineering my life (slowly) so I can work for myself out of the laptop anywhere in the world. Pure freedom in my eyes.
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    Jun 19, 2013 12:25 PM GMT
    Before you can throw off the shackles of your dreary job you need some other plan for supporting yourself.
    Do you have any creative talent? Could you master some marketable craft?
    If not, then you'll have to learn how to find meaning and satisfaction in what you do -- just like most of the rest of us.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jun 19, 2013 12:25 PM GMT
    Buddy.
    Watch this video.
    Right now.



    Do you feel like this? =/

    2:20.
  • phonehome123

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    Jun 19, 2013 12:28 PM GMT
    haha my gym has that on loop constantly
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jun 19, 2013 12:29 PM GMT
    phonehome123 saidhaha my gym has that on loop constantly


    There's a reason to me, that video is amazing except for the last 5 seconds...

    Sometimes you just have to FUCK IT, and do something for yourself every now and then. =/

    Sometimes its the pain of
    Income>Passion.

    Or Passion>Income. =/
  • phonehome123

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    Jun 19, 2013 12:39 PM GMT
    Rene_Aensland said
    phonehome123 saidhaha my gym has that on loop constantly


    There's a reason to me, that video is amazing except for the last 5 seconds...

    Sometimes you just have to FUCK IT, and do something for yourself every now and then. =/

    Sometimes its the pain of
    Income>Passion.

    Or Passion>Income. =/


    Well said...

    Also OP you're young (my age icon_smile.gif) so if you are truly discontent now would be the time to take some risks and see if they pay off. I'm not saying go do a bunch of stupid stuff that may ruin your life, but if you ever wanted to change direction in your life now would be the time. I think it would be much harder down the road. That's how I see it anyway.
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    Jun 19, 2013 1:30 PM GMT
    I work full time too. I made two mistakes when i first started.

    1. Do nothing on the weekends and then regret it Monday morning.
    2. Only allow myself to enjoy the weekends when i could've had fun during the workweek

    I think avoiding these mistakes will help you make the most of the work life balance. Its all about time management from there. Take or MAKE some time to catch up with friends and family. In school it was easier to hang cuz we were around them. Now we have to make more effort.

    Also keep it simple. school was more or less the same as work. Five days a week. Plus home assignmenta. The only difference is that we subconsciously put more pressure on work because different responsibilities like rent and bills.

    Anywhos message me if you want to talk about it
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    Jun 19, 2013 8:32 PM GMT
    You MUST be the master of your own life. Here's my suggestions:

    1. Realize that you can make choices to improve your life.
    2. Find meaning in your work by either appreciating what you already do or switching jobs.
    3. Get rid of all unnecessaries in your life that are eating up time. Do you hang out with stupid people who bore you? Do you do any activities that you really don't care about? Do you spend too much time on facebook or RJ or other sites?
    4. Set some kind of meaningful goal for yourself that you look forward to completing. Fitness challenge? Creative project?
    5. Ask your boss if there are other projects you could do instead that draw on your strengths.
    6. Ask your boss if you can work 4 10-hour days instead of 5 8-hour days.
    7. Are you getting enough sleep and eating well. This can have a HUGE impact on how much time you feel you have.

    Just some ideas.
  • MikeW

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    Jun 20, 2013 2:11 AM GMT
    I agree, working full-time totally sucks unless you truly love what you are doing. After working full-time most of my 20s and hating it, by my 30s I began to arrange my life so I could only work 4 days a week and have a 3 day weekend. It took a while to get there but it made a tremendous difference. The down side was a loss of income but it was totally worth it to me. Now (except as needed on occasion) I only work 3 days a week. Not every job allows that kind of flexibility but some do.
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    Jun 20, 2013 2:20 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidYou probably need romance in your life.
    Or a puppy.
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Jun 20, 2013 2:30 AM GMT
    Start doing volunteer stuff on the weekends - animal shelters, homeless centers, primary school tutoring, etc. Makes you feel a hell of a lot better.
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    Jun 20, 2013 2:37 AM GMT
    Take up a costly and destructive drug addiction. Then you can look back and be like damn my life was perfect!
  • tidus11

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    Jun 20, 2013 3:02 AM GMT
    First of all, life is what you make of it. If you're not satisfied, you should change things to get to where you want to be. However, I would also say the real world (after graduating college), is a lot less fun than we like to admit and there is definitely a boring aspect to it. That's life. But, there are a lot of things you can do to alleviate that boredom - which many of the previous posters gave great examples of.

    Lastly, the main thing I wanted to add was that, to me, there seem to be two main paths that folks take. One, work an ok job, but live for your holidays, breaks, and weekends. Or two, work a job that you love/strongly care about so that you can enjoy both your breaks and your work. I love my job and I enjoy both the time I spend working on it and my free time outside of it.

    Good luck and know that you're not alone in this struggle!
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    Jun 20, 2013 3:35 AM GMT