Would you be "ok" with your partner being a porn star?

  • ueoaoo

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    Jun 19, 2013 3:45 PM GMT
    Pretty sure this topic has been addressed before, but it popped into my head so I am now curious of guy's answers. Personally I think it's fine without the media attention, but then I am very relaxed about things like that. What about you?
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    Jun 19, 2013 3:48 PM GMT
    Is he a former porn star or a current one? Because if he's still doing it I would have a problem with it. How am I supposed to show him off to all my friends and family and brag about him if he's a sex worker?
  • rnch

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    Jun 19, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
    He already is.....in MY bed.

    The man foikes like a porn star!

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  • Fable

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    Jun 19, 2013 4:05 PM GMT
    probably not. IU don't share my toys.
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    Jun 19, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    no.. I am a mildly jealous guy.. not much, but enough to cause some issues which I would rather not go down that road.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 19, 2013 5:02 PM GMT
    It would be ok only if I was a porn star too ... otherwise NO, in which case X-porn star would be fine.
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    Jun 19, 2013 5:08 PM GMT
    Ex-porn star would be fine and hot. Current porn star - no. Unless I was a porn star too (like I could even qualify to be one).
  • Hothouse

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    Jun 19, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
    I'd have to know his annual income to answer.
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    Jun 19, 2013 6:26 PM GMT
    I dont share.
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    Jun 19, 2013 6:35 PM GMT
    i would say NO but then again, you never know. i might just run into the man of my dreams and he might just happen to be a porn star, male prostitute or whatever. love is strange like that.
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    Jun 19, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    No. But I am ok with someone else being ok that their partner is a porn star.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 19, 2013 8:11 PM GMT
    I'd probably end up in porn with him..... icon_lol.gif
  • ueoaoo

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    Jun 19, 2013 8:21 PM GMT
    Wow! Did not expect to see that it seems to bothers most guys. And the ex-porn being ok comments are surprising too icon_biggrin.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 19, 2013 8:25 PM GMT
    ueoaoo saidWow! Did not expect to see that it seems to bothers most guys. And the ex-porn being ok comments are surprising too icon_biggrin.gif


    Most guys watch porn, yet porn stars are reviled.

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    Jun 19, 2013 8:26 PM GMT
    Probably not. Sex is better for me if it means something more than just a physical act. It would be hard to me to feel like I had something special with someone if sex is so meaningless to them that they're willing to do it to make money.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 19, 2013 8:28 PM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidProbably not. Sex is better for me if it means something more than just a physical act. It would be hard to me to feel like I had something special with someone if sex is so meaningless to them that they're willing to do it to make money.


    What if he's gorgeous and sweet and begging you for a chance???
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    Jun 19, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidWhat if he's gorgeous and sweet and begging you for a chance???

    A chance at what? The question was whether I'd be OK with my partner being a porn star. It didn't ask whether I'd be OK with having sex with a porn star.
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    Jun 19, 2013 8:34 PM GMT
    No. It's not because I revile porn stars, it's because I'm far too private for that.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 19, 2013 8:34 PM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    HottJoe saidWhat if he's gorgeous and sweet and begging you for a chance???

    A chance at what? The question was whether I'd be OK with my partner being a porn star. It didn't ask whether I'd be OK with having sex with a porn star.


    A chance at a serious relationship... It's not like he'll be a porn star forever.
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    Jun 19, 2013 8:37 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidA chance at a serious relationship... It's not like he'll be a porn star forever.

    Like I said, I think it would be a problem for me. Sex wouldn't feel the same to me if I knew that sex didn't mean as much to him as it did to me. Sex is more than physical act to me. It's also about mental and emotional bonding.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 19, 2013 8:37 PM GMT
    showme saidNo. It's not because I revile porn stars, it's because I'm far too private for that.


    Oh, I didn't mean that not dating a porn star is the same as reviling them. I just meant that in general it's a very taboo job and a portion of society will shun anyone for it, male or female.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 19, 2013 9:00 PM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    HottJoe saidA chance at a serious relationship... It's not like he'll be a porn star forever.

    Like I said, I think it would be a problem for me. Sex wouldn't feel the same to me if I knew that sex didn't mean as much to him as it did to me. Sex is more than physical act to me. It's also about mental and emotional bonding.


    I agree. I've had meaningless sex, and I've had loving sex in a relationship, and I do prefer the latter. I would imagine porn stars still want to be loved and find relationships, but it must be difficult. I think Incendiary coined a term for that kind of careerism, but I can't remember what he called it.
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    Jun 19, 2013 9:09 PM GMT
    Yeah, I'd have a problem with that. I don't even worry about my husband socializing with our friends by himself, and when for some reason I can't attend a function I encourage him to go alone, have a good time, I'm not his chaperone or watchdog. My trust in him is complete.

    But seeing him stick his dick into some other guy in a porn movie, having sex, even if it was all staged, would be a bit much for me. His dick is my exclusive property, as mine is for him. Maybe it's all pretend for the camera, but I guess I'm not that sophisticated. No, I don't think I would handle that well at all. icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 19, 2013 9:12 PM GMT
    No problem whatsoever.
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    Jun 19, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI agree. I've had meaningless sex, and I've had loving sex in a relationship, and I do prefer the latter. I would imagine porn stars still want to be loved and find relationships, but it must be difficult. I think Incendiary coined a term for that kind of careerism, but I can't remember what he called it.

    I'm sure that some porn stars want loving sex too. I'm just not sure how you'd tell the difference. In their own minds, they can probably separate the two, but how would I know what's going on in their heads? I'd have to take their word for it, and I'm just not sure I could. If I was having sex with him, I couldn't help but wonder if it was just meaningless to him. If I knew he was having sex with other guys, I couldn't help wondering if maybe it was more than meaningless sex.