Is this a low social IQ or what?

  • meezo

    Posts: 117

    Jun 19, 2013 7:16 PM GMT
    hey all,
    excuse me if my English is bad"not my mother tongue"
    I don,t know how to describe this, but when some curious people(the type of people who keep asking private questions about you and keep comparing between you and him and sometimes wish that u never be better of him)
    ask me private questions ? no matter how I tried not to answer and to hide the answer and to be diplomatic, I finally found myself saying what he wants to know..and I know deep inside myself that I shouldn,t tell him that info especially sometimes this person don,t wish the best for me.
    I am sure you all have faced similar situations
    what are your advices?, how can I solve the problem?
    I just don,t want to say to that person that is none of your business coz I don,t want to be rude and some time those people are relatives.
  • Karl

    Posts: 5787

    Jun 19, 2013 7:25 PM GMT
    that's why people say : "watch your mouth".... icon_biggrin.gif
    I used to be like that , stop thinking that "don't tell him don't tell him..."
    Just tell him directly "I don't want to talk about this" icon_smile.gif
  • meezo

    Posts: 117

    Jun 19, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    Karl saidthat's why people say : "watch your mouth".... icon_biggrin.gif
    I used to be like that , stop thinking that "don't tell him don't tell him..."
    Just tell him directly "I don't want to talk about this" icon_smile.gif

    thank u for your reply
    sometimes I can,t tell him don,t want to talk about this because it will be interpreted as if I don,t trust him,especially if he is a relative or close friend.
  • AMoonHawk

    Posts: 11406

    Jun 19, 2013 7:38 PM GMT
    You answer a question with a question.

    Why are you asking that? Is there something that you are trying to get off your chest or something you want me to know?
  • meezo

    Posts: 117

    Jun 19, 2013 7:45 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidYou answer a question with a question.

    Why are you asking that? Is there something that you are trying to get off your chest or something you want me to know?

    thank you for your reply
    I am asking that coz I just want to keep some info private and I can,t keep some things private , it is easy to make me tell all my private things !!! ,and yes I am trying to get off curious people off my chest,but I also don,t want to hurt their feelings by answering inappropriate answers like:this is some thing private especially when they are close friends or relative and they consider that they are allowed to know some of my secrets coz they are very close to me.
  • AMoonHawk

    Posts: 11406

    Jun 19, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    meezo said
    AMoonHawk saidYou answer a question with a question.

    Why are you asking that? Is there something that you are trying to get off your chest or something you want me to know?

    thank you for your reply
    I am asking that coz I just want to keep some info private and I can,t keep some things private , it is easy to make me tell all my private things !!! ,and yes I am trying to get off curious people off my chest,but I also don,t want to hurt their feelings by answering inappropriate answers like:this is some thing private especially when they are close friends or relative and they consider that they are allowed to know some of my secrets coz they are very close to me.

    People that ask you personal questions that are none of their business, do not always have your best interests in mind
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    Jun 19, 2013 8:07 PM GMT
    Sometimes people are trying to bait you into giving personal information to use against you at a later time. There are a couple on here who are notorious for doing that.

    Never ever feel bad about not wanting to share everything with people.

    some things that I do is just ignore the question, even if they ask it over and over .. and then finally if they push me to the point that I can no longer ignore it, I will tell them that I would rather not say. and if they got issues, send them on their way because they obviously are not respecting me and that ain't cool.
  • meezo

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    Jun 19, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    dudewithabeard saidSometimes people are trying to bait you into giving personal information to use against you at a later time. There are a couple on here who are notorious for doing that.

    Never ever feel bad about not wanting to share everything with people.

    some things that I do is just ignore the question, even if they ask it over and over .. and then finally if they push me to the point that I can no longer ignore it, I will tell them that I would rather not say. and if they got issues, send them on their way because they obviously are not respecting me and that ain't cool.

    you know that is true, I think I will begin to act this way,but the problem I am very sensitive person and I will regret it when I do it.
    thank you.
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    Jun 19, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
    meezo said
    dudewithabeard saidSometimes people are trying to bait you into giving personal information to use against you at a later time. There are a couple on here who are notorious for doing that.

    Never ever feel bad about not wanting to share everything with people.

    some things that I do is just ignore the question, even if they ask it over and over .. and then finally if they push me to the point that I can no longer ignore it, I will tell them that I would rather not say. and if they got issues, send them on their way because they obviously are not respecting me and that ain't cool.

    you know that is true, I think I will begin to act this way,but the problem I am very sensitive person and I will regret it when I do it.
    thank you.


    I can sympathise with that. But you shouldn't let people manipulate you.