Do you ever feel...

  • Fable

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    Jun 20, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    like a plastic bag?


    Nah, kidding. Do you ever feel like a lot of your gay friendships are slightly transient. I've found that while my best friend has stayed the same, others drift in and out of my social sphere quite often.



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    Jun 20, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    All my true friends are straight. They're busy with the kids and shit. I only see them on holidays. My gay friends are mostly acquaintances I've met at the gym.

    #LoneWolf
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    Jun 20, 2013 5:45 AM GMT
    Yup. All except for one, and I trust him with my life. As a matter of fact, he's my only true friend.
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    Jun 20, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
    I'm starting to feel like that. It is what it is though
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    Jun 20, 2013 5:52 AM GMT
    sadly, yes. icon_sad.gif strange enough, i've made gay friends on web forums and those friendships have lasted WAY LONGER than the gay people that i've befriended in person. icon_sad.gif the ones i've befriended in person have distanced themselves away from me and if they were interested in being close friends, they seemed like they wanted something more than that. icon_sad.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 20, 2013 6:03 AM GMT
    Gay or straight, they all have drifted in and out, and so have l ... Everyone has their own live's to live.
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    Jun 20, 2013 6:03 AM GMT
    Maybe they outgrew you
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    Jun 20, 2013 9:17 AM GMT
    Friends come and go. Sexuality needn't be a relevant factor when considering this phenomenon.
  • Fable

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    Jun 20, 2013 9:26 AM GMT
    Macaque saidMaybe they outgrew you



    Philosoraptor says I outgrew them.
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    Jun 20, 2013 10:39 AM GMT
    Yes
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    Jun 20, 2013 10:50 AM GMT
    fable saidlike a plastic bag?


    Nah, kidding. Do you ever feel like a lot of your gay friendships are slightly transient. I've found that while my best friend has stayed the same, others drift in and out of my social sphere quite often.



    Discuss.


    I don't really think the issue is exclusive to gay friendships. All friendships can be temporary unless both parties put in the time and effort alongside having a need for one another.
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    Jun 20, 2013 11:49 AM GMT
    My gay and straight friends come and go. We hang out, work out, hug, and call each other brother for a while and then they disappear, never to be seen again.
    Some people still have friends they made all the way back in childhhood. I can't imagine how wonderful that must be.
  • selim

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    Jun 20, 2013 12:44 PM GMT
    well, i would say that they are not friends, just some people you know, it has nothing to do with their sexual orientation.

    actually, we don´t need a lot of friends, instead, it´s OK to have few friends as long as they´re very good confidants.icon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 20, 2013 1:04 PM GMT
    Sometimes I feel empty with nothing inside it's as if the most gentlest breeze can carry me away.
    Then sometimes I feel so full like I am loaded with so many things that I just pull apart and lose my handle.
    I get used everyday but I'm treated like trash when people are done with me.
    Such is the life of a plastic bag lol!

    Jokes aside, I suppose everybody has their different levels of friendships. Sometimes you can just have only a few really close friends, then you can have some good friends who you know well but aren't fully in your life.
    The rest could be just social friends that you see whenever you bump into each other.
    It might also depend on where you're finding your friends or particular lifestyles.

    Lately I have gotten really close to my cousins and have been spending a lot of time with them that I've hardly spent much time with my friends. I don't know if it's a seasonal thing, or if it's got something to do with sticking to a routine so that you somehow see the same people often.

    This is a good question actually.
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    Jun 20, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    xrichx saidAll my true friends are straight. They're busy with the kids and shit. I only see them on holidays. My gay friends are mostly acquaintances I've met at the gym.

    #LoneWolf


    huhu same...except that mine are more noble girls and mothers.

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    Jun 20, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
    Don't worry about the flakes. You know what a good guy you are. It's their loss not yours.
  • Hothouse

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    Jun 20, 2013 6:24 PM GMT
    Yup, just what you said - when I was your age.

    Now that I'm older the circle of friends is smaller, but consistant. I think over time you "settle" into your friendships and they last longer.
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    Jun 20, 2013 6:29 PM GMT
    Most people confuse friends and acquaintances

    I have people in my life that I've known for years and don't see very often, but when we do see ach other it's as if we had just seen each other yesterday. We have a history and would be there for each other in good times and bad. These are friends.

    Everyone else is an acquaintance.

    Much of life is about keeping things in perspective.
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    Jun 20, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    That's how it works.

    Gain five (bad) pounds and nobody wants to hang out with you anymore.
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    Jun 20, 2013 9:23 PM GMT
    7Famark saidThat's how it works.

    Gain five (bad) pounds and nobody wants to hang out with you anymore.


    This is why we all have go to gay church (the gym) daily.

    Also, long time no see on here. You missed a shit-ton.
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    Jun 20, 2013 9:23 PM GMT
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    7Famark saidThat's how it works.

    Gain five (bad) pounds and nobody wants to hang out with you anymore.


    This is why we all have go to gay church (the gym) daily.


    Except so many don't...dey worshippin' at KFC instead
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    Jun 20, 2013 9:24 PM GMT
    Incendiary said
    7Famark saidThat's how it works.

    Gain five (bad) pounds and nobody wants to hang out with you anymore.


    This is why we all have go to gay church (the gym) daily.

    Also, long time no see on here. You missed a shit-ton.


    Until we get old and married and then we can let ourselves go.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 20, 2013 9:25 PM GMT
    showme said
    Incendiary said
    7Famark saidThat's how it works.

    Gain five (bad) pounds and nobody wants to hang out with you anymore.


    This is why we all have go to gay church (the gym) daily.

    Also, long time no see on here. You missed a shit-ton.


    Until we get old and married and then we can let ourselves go.


    If only! Lol
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    Jun 20, 2013 9:26 PM GMT
    7Famark said
    Incendiary said
    7Famark saidThat's how it works.

    Gain five (bad) pounds and nobody wants to hang out with you anymore.


    This is why we all have go to gay church (the gym) daily.


    Except so many don't...dey worshippin' at KFC instead


    You should see some of the ones in the forums now... many obv don't give 2 shits about workin on their fitness
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    HottJoe said
    showme said
    Incendiary said
    7Famark saidThat's how it works.

    Gain five (bad) pounds and nobody wants to hang out with you anymore.


    This is why we all have go to gay church (the gym) daily.

    Also, long time no see on here. You missed a shit-ton.


    Until we get old and married and then we can let ourselves go.


    If only! Lol


    I didn't say how old "old" is, I'm thinking 62.