people that are annoying and dont know when to stop talking...

  • Import

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    Jun 20, 2013 2:33 PM GMT
    How do u get these types off the phone without being a complete cunt about it? What the fuck? This is super irritating..

    At work I was tasked to train one of the new hires who is based in Kansas City, Missouri. She works for the university I work at....regionally based in the middle of the US for recruiting purposes.

    She doesn't know when to shut her annoying mouth. She's a fucking motor mouth and is boring to talk to.

    How does one politely end a convo after like 15 mins instead of sitting on the phone for 2 hours?

    She's been with us now for about 6 months now, so I dont feel as if she should be calling my ass everyday. The first couple of months I genuinely didn't mind---as she was new and had a lot to learn...and I wanted to get to know her better, so whatever.

    However, now that she's kinda been trained and what not. She calls to bitch and complain vs ask me questions. She also goes on and on about her personal life (her acupunture, her cats, her boyfriend, her fucking green tea, and on and on) I could literally die when I see her number pop up on my phone.

    Advice? on how to get someone off the phone politely who doesn't know when to shut up?

    Thanks guys.
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    Jun 20, 2013 2:42 PM GMT
    "I've gotta take this other call?" or just be up front about it that she needs to do her work and not call everyday and discuss personal matters in the workplace.
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    Jun 20, 2013 2:59 PM GMT
    Every time she calls just always start with by saying your are in the middle of something and only have a moment, this way you have set your way out every time and can cut her off saying, sorry but I really need to finish what I was doing.

    Or start with how can I help you today? This will make her focus in on an issue.

    It sounds more like she is either a lonely person or she is trying to get information from you in a round about way of being personal, so that you will open up to her with business secrets, gossip, etc. Don't fall for it. She could be out to try to get your job.

    Cutting off people can be a bit of an art as sometimes as you say then just start spouting off random thoughts coming into their head.
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    Jun 20, 2013 3:14 PM GMT
    Just tell her you have work to do and that the NSA is listening.
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    Jun 20, 2013 3:34 PM GMT
    Just be direct and tell her you don't have time for personal chatter. You got TPS reports to file and shit.

    Or use the "I have a meeting to go to" excuse. Or just hit the ringer on your cell phone and tell her you have to take the call.
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    Jun 20, 2013 3:39 PM GMT
    All good advice above here.......and I have only one thing to add that works for me, and that is how to break in while the caller is mid-sentence (it works with long-winded bores in person at parties & meetings as well). Most of these people don't want to give you a chance to speak, so I just break in mid-sentence and say "LISTEN! It's been good talking with you! I've got a meeting (or I've got to speak to so & so across the room before he leaves) so I'll talk with you more later. Bye!"
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    Jun 20, 2013 4:08 PM GMT
    I don't like making small talk and I don't enjoy talking on the phone. I've masterminded a few ways to end conversations politely.
    Most importantly, if you get a phone call from a motor-mouth, put your good-bye into your hello:

    "Hi. I'm so glad you called. I was headed out the door to (insert appt her) so I can only talk five minutes."

    Mottormouth will ignore this but after a few minutes, you won't feel rude cutting them off and saying you have to go.

    I learned too late in life that motormouths are used to people interrupting them. You can say "Gosh. Gotta go" in the middle of one of their sentences and they won't think that's rude.
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    Jun 20, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
    Excellent advice here. You're being too nice. She's taking advantage of you by monopolizing your time. Don't forget that.
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    Jun 20, 2013 6:37 PM GMT
    Tell her you have to pee.
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    Jun 20, 2013 7:17 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidAll good advice above here.......and I have only one thing to add that works for me, and that is how to break in while the caller is mid-sentence (it works with long-winded bores in person at parties & meetings as well). Most of these people don't want to give you a chance to speak, so I just break in mid-sentence and say "LISTEN! It's been good talking with you! I've got a meeting (or I've got to speak to so & so across the room before he leaves) so I'll talk with you more later. Bye!"


    Yes, that's what she does-- she's long winded and it's hard to even get a word in. i literally have to be like "TRIISH!!!!" "jesus fucking christ bitch, shut your god damn hole before I come through the phone and ring ur fat neck.."

    Of course, I dont say that, but I would LOVE to.
    She goes on and on and on without pause or breaks.... I can literally say nothing. I always say "ive got this meeting i gotta get to" and "gotta make some other calls now"...or whatever but then she says shit like "ok, well great talking to you! I've got so much to do too! omg, I have to do X and Y and Z....." and then she starts going into it again. It's like she's crazy and doesn't see that I'm trying desperately to get off the phone with her. Like she lacks empathy or something? She doesn't realize when other people are trying to end conversations... Or she cant read tone inflections...or doesn't get verbal communication cues? I dunno... I used to think she was kind of nice and was just talkative. Now, I hate the bitch. I fucking loathe her and have not even met her in person. ugh
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    Jun 20, 2013 7:20 PM GMT
    Lumpynose saidExcellent advice here. You're being too nice. She's taking advantage of you by monopolizing your time. Don't forget that.


    Yes, she is. I feel as if I have to be nice cuz it's at work.
    I'm usually not nice, so I agree with you.
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    Jun 20, 2013 7:22 PM GMT
    Import said She calls to bitch and complain vs ask me questions. She also goes on and on about her personal life (her acupunture, her cats, her boyfriend, her fucking green tea, and on and on) I could literally die when I see her number pop up on my phone.


    Sounds like you just met yourself a new fag hag LOL
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    Jun 20, 2013 7:40 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    Import said She calls to bitch and complain vs ask me questions. She also goes on and on about her personal life (her acupunture, her cats, her boyfriend, her fucking green tea, and on and on) I could literally die when I see her number pop up on my phone.


    Sounds like you just met yourself a new fag hag LOL

    lmao, i know right?

    I get to meet her in August when she comes to campus I'm gonna be all fake and smile to her face while talking shit about her immediately as soon as she's gone. Can't wait. She deserves it.
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    Jun 20, 2013 7:48 PM GMT
    Import saidI get to meet her in August when she comes to campus I'm gonna be all fake and smile to her face while talking shit about her immediately as soon as she's gone. Can't wait. She deserves it.


    Never talk shit about fellow employees. No matter how fucked up they are. You never know how it may get back to you. She may transfer there at some point in the future and someone tells her what you said and she becomes good friends with your boss. Or she becomes your boss. Now you're fucked.
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    Jun 20, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    I agree with the above but it's pretty hard to resist.
    I phrase everything carefully - but of course it will always be exagggerated. I said someone was low class once and a day later, I was quoted as saying she was "white trash." I don't even use that expression!
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    Jun 20, 2013 7:57 PM GMT
    Lumpynose said
    Import saidI get to meet her in August when she comes to campus I'm gonna be all fake and smile to her face while talking shit about her immediately as soon as she's gone. Can't wait. She deserves it.


    Never talk shit about fellow employees. No matter how fucked up they are. You never know how it may get back to you. She may transfer there at some point in the future and someone tells her what you said and she becomes good friends with your boss. Or she becomes your boss. Now you're fucked.


    I know. I just have such a deep-seated disdain for her now.
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    Jun 20, 2013 8:01 PM GMT
    The situation I outlined above almost happened to me. The only thing that saved me is that I retired.

    I had a friend at work, J (I'll use their initials). We were made for each other, except I'm gay and she's not, and I told her that I'm gay because I didn't want her to be misled. I happened to mention to J that S was an air head bimbo. S was in my group; her boss was my boss. J was in a different group. S was a supervisor. I transferred to a different group in a different building a ways away, which was helpful because J was falling in love with me even though she knew I was gay; she was on Prozac which I suspect contributed to her over emotionalism. So we stopped hanging out together. J becomes friends or whatever with S, and tells S that I said she was a bimbo. One time I'm talking to S and she confronts me; "So, I hear you think I'm a bimbo." I was mortified. Not long after I retired she moved up the ladder and her group merged with mine and I'd probably have been in her group.
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    Jun 20, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    Lumpynose saidThe situation I outlined above almost happened to me. The only thing that saved me is that I retired.

    I had a friend at work, J (I'll use their initials). We were made for each other, except I'm gay and she's not, and I told her that I'm gay because I didn't want her to be misled. I happened to mention to J that S was an air head bimbo. S was in my group; her boss was my boss. J was in a different group. S was a supervisor. I transferred to a different group in a different building a ways away, which was helpful because J was falling in love with me even though she knew I was gay; she was on Prozac which I suspect contributed to her over emotionalism. So we stopped hanging out together. J becomes friends or whatever with S, and tells S that I said she was a bimbo. One time I'm talking to S and she confronts me; "So, I hear you think I'm a bimbo." I was mortified. Not long after I retired she moved up the ladder and I'd probably have been in her group.


    lol. Got called out. Damn, that's awkward.
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    Jun 20, 2013 8:38 PM GMT
    Anyway, I have to get back to work.
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    Jun 20, 2013 8:47 PM GMT
    I know someone who talks so much that I'm told I say SHUTUP in my sleep.
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    Jun 20, 2013 9:00 PM GMT
    My aunt has the habit of saying too much but it is not the talk that I find annoying. She starts blowing her own triumphant and talks a great deal about her life in Canada and how great it is to live there and how people here in India do not understand civility (yet she spends her summer in Canada and entire winter in India) I think most Indians know that Canada is a better country than India but you don't have rub it on our face. Then on the dinner table she would say in Canada we eat like this, that and what not. But the most annoying part is that she would come and start talking when I am busy watching my favourite show on television.
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    Jun 20, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    ricky1987 saidMy aunt has the habit of saying too much but it is not the talk that I find annoying. She starts blowing her own triumphant and talks a great deal about her life in Canada and how great it is to live there and how people here in India do not understand civility (yet she spends her summer in Canada and entire winter in India) I think most Indians know that Canada is a better country than India but you don't have rub it on our face. Then on the dinner table she would say in Canada we eat like this, that and what not. But the most annoying part is that she would come and start talking when I am busy watching my favourite show on television.


    Your auntie sounds like an annoying cunt. Is she fat?
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    Jun 20, 2013 9:49 PM GMT
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    ricky1987 saidMy aunt has the habit of saying too much but it is not the talk that I find annoying. She starts blowing her own triumphant and talks a great deal about her life in Canada and how great it is to live there and how people here in India do not understand civility (yet she spends her summer in Canada and entire winter in India) I think most Indians know that Canada is a better country than India but you don't have rub it on our face. Then on the dinner table she would say in Canada we eat like this, that and what not. But the most annoying part is that she would come and start talking when I am busy watching my favourite show on television.


    Your auntie sounds like an annoying cunt. Is she fat?


    Not really. She actually looks very cute. It is just that she enjoys looking down on people. She wears traditional Indian clothes in Canada but when in India she would wear a pair of jeans and sunglasses and flaunt her fluency in the English language esp. in front of my mother who can't speak English (This auntie is my father's cousin)