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Should I go to pride?

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    QUOTE Jun 20, 2013 8:03 PM GMT
    So the gay pride is in town this weekend. And I'm trying to decide if I should go or not.

    I've never been to a gay club or bar. So I'm not sure if this might be too much too soon lol.

    And I don't have any gay friends so I would have no one to go with.

    What do you guys think? Also what's there to do at pride besides the parade?
  • AMoonHawk Posts: 9916
    QUOTE Jun 20, 2013 8:15 PM GMT
    yes go ... you don't need anyone to go with ... no one will be judging you because you go alone and you will have a great time and get to see that you are not alone in the world ... there are many of us
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    QUOTE Jun 20, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    Just dive right in...or you'll spend forever waiting for a "comfortable" event to come along that won't.
  • HottJoe Posts: 15770
    QUOTE Jun 20, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
    Are you friends with any of your gay coworkers??? I thought they all took off for Pride.
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    QUOTE Jun 20, 2013 11:07 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidAre you friends with any of your gay coworkers??? I thought they all took off for Pride.


    I'm not actually. Like we'll say hi but I don't have any of their numbers or anything.
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    QUOTE Jun 20, 2013 11:08 PM GMT
    Would be nice if you run into them at Pride.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 3:18 AM GMT
    ricky1987 saidWould be nice if you run into them at Pride.


    Yeah it would be cause I never actually told any of them I'm gay. (To be fair they never asked. Just assumed I was straight.)
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 10:22 AM GMT
    You should certainly look into it, even if you are still in the closet. It shouldn't be difficult to come across families and heterosexual couples stopping by to watch the parade. It's interesting to see all the local organizations that support LGBT community, as well as the fancy costumes and what not. The atmosphere is more festive than not. It definitely does not hurt to spare an hour or two, or may be even less if your city has a smaller LGBT community.

    I find people to be friendlier than usual during the pride week, especially at the LGBT-oriented events. People are less reserved and more willing to chat with newcomers and what not.

    It's pretty common for the pride week to host at least one night of clubbing or bar event, so you should look into that. I remember waiting in line for over an hour to get into a club during pride in Toronto, and it was totally worth it. Everyone was in the party mood, no one got left out. Probably the best gay clubbing experience I've ever had.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 10:33 AM GMT
    What's stopping you? Not all of the spectators are going to be LGBT, in fact some of them are going to be taken by surprise when they see what's happening. After all, it's not like all the media are going to be reporting "traffic detours due to Gay Pride Parade" the night and morning before.

    If you're worried that you'll be seen and thereby outed, just be like, "This is really something, eh? Never saw anything like it." No one's going to go "Aha! Busted! Thought so!"

    IMHO you're way better off going to an event like that than to a club. During Pride days everybody's out to have a good time and is on their best behavior. So you'll see super-friendly faces instead of upturned noses. If you're lucky the weather will be conducive to lots of guys' going shirtless too. Even with all my involvement in "community" stuff there are still lots of people I don't know, naturally, and I've made new friends at Pride.

    There should be a Web site for Pride in your city that outlines everything scheduled to go on. Look it over and GO!
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 10:34 AM GMT
    stevee90 saidYou should certainly look into it, even if you are still in the closet. It shouldn't be difficult to come across families and heterosexual couples stopping by to watch the parade. It's interesting to see all the local organizations that support LGBT community, as well as the fancy costumes and what not. The atmosphere is more festive than not. It definitely does not hurt to spare an hour or two, or may be even less if your city has a smaller LGBT community.

    I find people to be friendlier than usual during the pride week, especially at the LGBT-oriented events. People are less reserved and more willing to chat with newcomers and what not.

    It's pretty common for the pride week to host at least one night of clubbing or bar event, so you should look into that. I remember waiting in line for over an hour to get into a club during pride in Toronto, and it was totally worth it. Everyone was in the party mood, no one got left out. Probably the best gay clubbing experience I've ever had.


    Yes, I remember Toronto pride Parade 2011. I had to wait for nearly an hour as well before I got entry into the woody's
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 10:40 AM GMT
    My first gay event was Gay Pride London 1997. I was 15. I went by myself. Was quickly chatted up by a French guy who invited me to do the march with him and his friends. He was the first guy I kissed.

    Next gay "event" was the Trade (London gay club) tent at a rave festival. This was my first gay clubbing event. I was 16. I danced my arse off.

    I hate gay events now. not sure how/if that's relevant.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 10:43 AM GMT
    midwesternman said
    ricky1987 saidWould be nice if you run into them at Pride.


    Yeah it would be cause I never actually told any of them I'm gay. (To be fair they never asked. Just assumed I was straight.)


    1) if you appear straight then no one would ask lol
    2) even if you look gay, unless someone is close to you, they probably won't randomly ask you. I know plenty of guys who I personally think are gay, when in all honesty maybe 25% of them actually are. I would never go up to then and ask lol

    I went for the first time this year with some people I had just met and had a blast, I'm sure it wouldn't be too hard to meet people either, if I had no gay friends I'd go for a bit alone enjoy!
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 11:41 AM GMT
    go for it!

    once i was in a new city (summer student) and didn't know anyone, didn't know if i should go for their pride. it was going to be smaller than the big city where i came from.

    i went "just to check it out". turns out i ran into a bunch of my colleagues and a couple of professors there, and we had a great time together. i made new friends, and became closer to some who i only knew casually!
  • in_this_corne... Posts: 704
    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 12:02 PM GMT
    Just go. It's fine.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 12:06 PM GMT
    Personally, I'm not a fan of pride, but I think you should go. You don't have to immerse yourself in "the scene" like some do, but you need to get out and about every so often. You can't wait to get comfortable about being in gay settings. You just have to do it. You may decide that Pride and "the scene" aren't for you, but the only way to make that decision is by dipping your foot in the water.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 12:18 PM GMT
    redsoxfan791 saidPersonally, I'm not a fan of pride, but I think you should go. You don't have to immerse yourself in "the scene" like some do, but you need to get out and about every so often. You can't wait to get comfortable about being in gay settings. You just have to do it. You may decide that Pride and "the scene" aren't for you, but the only way to make that decision is by dipping your foot in the water.

    +1

    I happen to enjoy Pride, but it's no longer the big thrill it was the first few times. Now kinda routine for me, more an obligation.

    Still, those first times were great, something the OP shouldn't miss. It really DID make me feel proud, connected, and glad to know there are so many of "us", all happy, unashamed & unapologetic to be who we are. I'll be at Pride this weekend, staffing a booth as I have for 10 years now.

    Not sure I'll march in the parade, actually too many organizations I could march with. If I do one I insult the others, and I don't walk so well, anyway, nor am I float material. Better when I used to lead parades on my motorcycle. But yeah, the OP should attend.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 12:32 PM GMT
    Don't go. Go to the Shame Parade, with men where tacky shorts and have unattractive haircuts, but do not wear pink jockstraps and act outrageous just to give the local news crews idiotic video to prove what sick and twisted people those gay people are.
    The Shame Parade is never fun, hardly loud and excessively un-proud, but it does give well adjusted gays a chance to reinforce the little known fact that most gay men are not insecure sex hounds.
  • HndsmKansan Posts: 15565
    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 12:37 PM GMT
    I think you should consider going. Decide if you are comfortable going alone. Everybody is curious and going once (at least) makes sense. If you are concerned that you "might be seen" there, I wouldn't be too worried. Straights are curious too and show up.
    All you need to say is you were curious... and it's the truth.

    The bottom line is, you need to decide where you fit and what you like. This helps you move along with your comfort level with the whole "gay" thing. See what you think.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 12:49 PM GMT
    I'm not at all into the gay scene and I do not see the point of Gay Prides : maybe it was justified 30 years ago and still is in some parts of the world, to fight against discrimination, but now in American or European big cities, frankly, what's the use ? it even looks pretty ridiculous to me. But I guess it's good if you want to cruise... OK, I might go, then...
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 1:21 PM GMT
    marco92 saidI'm not at all into the gay scene and I do not see the point of Gay Prides : maybe it was justified 30 years ago and still is in some parts of the world, to fight against discrimination, but now in American or European big cities, frankly, what's the use ? it even looks pretty ridiculous to me. But I guess it's good if you want to cruise... OK, I might go, then...


    Yeah, because we COMPLETELY have equal rights and are fully respected members of society everywhere now.

    OP, it sounds like you want to go. If so, do it! There's no drawback, you might have a lot of fun. And at least you'll know what it is all about.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 3:10 PM GMT
    in_this_corner saidJust go. It's fine.


    Yeah I'm going to see my work schedule today and if I have Sunday off I might just go check it out.

    Won't hurt just to see what all the fuss is about right? Lol.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    I went to pride for the first time not too long ago. I met the perfect guy
  • willular Posts: 1245
    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 3:19 PM GMT
    do it. and enjoy your time out.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 3:26 PM GMT
    I volunteered at my first couple of prides since I didn't have anyone to go with. It was an okay experience. I walked around for a bit afterwards but got bored fairly quick. I think its a better experience if you're with a group of people, or you go out at night. I've yet to see a parade, but I think that will change this year.
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    QUOTE Jun 21, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    S34n05 saidI volunteered at my first couple of prides since I didn't have anyone to go with. It was an okay experience. I walked around for a bit afterwards but got bored fairly quick. I think its a better experience if you're with a group of people, or you go out at night. I've yet to see a parade, but I think that will change this year.


    Yeah I think it would be more fun to go with a gay friend but if I go who know's maybe I'll make friends who are gay lol.