Going to places alone? Is it weird to you?

  • BloodFlame

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    Jun 21, 2013 2:23 AM GMT
    Well, I admit I don't have friends to do things with. I've tried meeting new people but it never seems to work out. Due to this, I often go to places alone.

    Personally, I am not too bothered doing this. I go to the mall to window show by myself, go to libraries, walking around sight seeing, and stuff like that all by myself. I feel that I shouldn't let my lack of friends keep me from going out to get fresh air. I'm thinking about going to more concerts, possibly a club (but it's Goth oriented so I'm not too bothered lol), parks, and many other places even though I have no one to go with.

    My question is. What do you think of guys who do this because I know I'm not the only guy who does this. Would you do this yourself?
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    Jun 21, 2013 2:39 AM GMT
    Maybe you not me.... I don't stay home all day. I work, go to church etc....and spent more time with friend and family.
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    Jun 21, 2013 2:44 AM GMT
    Not weird at all.
    What's weird to me is the number of people that freak out saying:
    "OMG by yourself".
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    Jun 21, 2013 2:58 AM GMT
    I do it and think it is quite natural, particularly shopping and sightseeing. You mention libraries, I think it is odd to go with people to the library unless it's a study group.
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    Jun 21, 2013 3:00 AM GMT
    Don't feel bad.. one time when I was in high school I was supposed to meet two "friends" at the malls movies to see I believe fast and furious 5 and they never showed up... I was so embarrassed that I didn't want my family to know so I sat threw it by myself and quickly left when it was over.. I walked threw the mall alone and Thank God I found another group of "friends" to hang with before I got picked up...

    Anyways it didn't seem to matter because my snooping mom found out the movies time length and told me it was way too early for me to be getting picked up, she still probably believes I never saw it but I did its just the ticket guy sent me to the wrong theater and the movie was halfway threw but I didn't know I just figured I was late going in because I was waiting for the other people for so long..

    I can handle being alone its just like the other guys said.. I don't like what people say when they know our alone, because it turned out someone saw me alone and started telling everyone at school.. but I have an Amazing I don't care face so I just use that whenever someone says something about me or im alone and don't want the stares
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    Jun 21, 2013 3:04 AM GMT
    I do it all the time. The older you get, the more your friends get into their own groove. Some get into relationships, some find new hobbies/activities, etc.
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    Jun 21, 2013 3:08 AM GMT
    I do a lot of things by myself - sometimes it's actually quite nice to be on your own schedule and just do as you please. Certainly not weird, in fact, it's a sign of independence.

    The only thing I don't generally enjoy doing alone is going to bars/clubs. I get bored if I don't have someone to talk to.
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    Jun 21, 2013 11:56 AM GMT
    i do lots of stuff on my own: gym, shopping, biking, work. i prefer it, because its more efficient and i get stuff done!

    i have a problem with going to a movie on my own. dunno why. it just feels weird to me. same with going to a club/bar, unless i'm meeting people inside.

    when i joined sports teams (waterpolo, diving), i had to start by going on my own. eventually i made friends there. common interests i guess. we'd go out for dinner/drinks after practice, and over the space of a year, we have gotten really close. now they are the people i go see movies with, or meet inside of clubs/bars icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 21, 2013 12:08 PM GMT
    I went to see Man of Steel alone. No date, no friend, no family tag along. Just me a hot dog and a root bear soda sitting in a center seat. Last time I did that was when Terminator 3 came out. It felt a little odd but ultimately some things in life do not require company. I do prefer company over being alone in outings, but I'm not going to let it stop me from doing things I want to do.
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    Jun 21, 2013 12:52 PM GMT
    Hey man you aren't alone (how ironic haha) in doing this at all.
    I often do things alone like eat out to sushi alone, go shopping alone, sight see alone I guess although I don't really explore that much to sight see but if I did it would be alone.

    Funnily enough I've never gone to a concert alone, mostly because I don't music being too loud lol.
    Parks I suppose I wouldn't mind if the scenery was really nice.
    There's nothing wrong with being comfortable in your own company, that's absolutely fine icon_smile.gif

    Lately though I've also been hanging out with my relatives a lot which I also enjoy too.
    Your social circle of people to hangout with can extend to your relatives too, unless of course none of them live in the same state as you or you don't get along with them.

    Anyway, you're not the only one so don't worry too much about it icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 21, 2013 1:00 PM GMT
    No man, it's not at all weird.
    Many do that.

    If I have to go out, I only go out with my bf & much less frequent with friends & family.
    It's not important whether it is alone or with others accompanying your journey. What important is whether you enjoy it or not.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 21, 2013 1:02 PM GMT
    I guess you could use the term 'weird' in going out to restaurants (unless they have a counter,)theaters and concerts alone. More like a feeling of discomfort at seeing that everyone else there around you is with someone. I think maybe a sports games like baseball or football would be odd to. Sharing these events with others is what makes them entertaining and fun, so they just don't hold the same appeal doing them alone. That's probably why I rarely go out to the restaurants, theaters and concerts, but don't get me wrong I have done it. Once you get there, it is not big deal, it is just working up to doing it is the difficult part.
  • Hothouse

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    Jun 21, 2013 1:05 PM GMT
    I have, and do, a lot of things alone. Sometimes I prefer it - like shopping, I don't like when some one isn't into where I'm shopping - I feel like they're bored or just waiting for me to hurry up.
    One thing I don't like doing alone is eating at a restaurant. It's not something that happens often, but I've been away on business, and eating at a restaurant just feels, well, lonely.
    I've also noticed that when dining out with someone, I'm into our conversation, and don't pay any attention to others around us, but when I eat out alone I'm very aware of other's conversations and I feel like I'm eavesdropping.
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    Jun 21, 2013 1:09 PM GMT
    I rarely go out , but when i have i prefer to go by myself on my own schedule and no one rushing me or me having to wait for someone else.
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    Jun 21, 2013 1:10 PM GMT
    I need a lot of 'me time'. I have good friends, and I like hanging out with them. But equally, I like wandering around with my headphones on, occassionally stopping for coffee or whatever. I used to work in London near lots of museums and galleries, so I'd often go in alone at lunch and enjoy it by myself.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 21, 2013 1:12 PM GMT
    Hothouse said
    ...One thing I don't like doing alone is eating at a restaurant. It's not something that happens often, but I've been away on business, and eating at a restaurant just feels, well, lonely. ...

    This is why I prefer places with free wifi ... then I just take my tablet and entertain myself at the table, it is actually quite comfortable. Sort of the same as taking a book only better.
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    Jun 21, 2013 1:36 PM GMT
    I go mountain biking by myself all the time.

    But almost always end up meeting cool people to ride with once I'm there.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 21, 2013 1:42 PM GMT
    I go to places alone all the time. Go to the movies alone all the time, go shopping, go bar hopping, etc. Now that I'm finding myself starting from scratch with friendships/relationships in NYC, I'm planning to go to Pride next weekend by myself. I'm gonna make the effort and meet new, healthier people. The one friend I had in NYC that I was hanging out with turned out to be a complete asshole.. so I'm meeting new folks.
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    Jun 21, 2013 1:48 PM GMT
    When I go to restaurants as "Party of One", they think I'm the secret food critic in town so they'll treat me like a freakin' king. Helps if you take a picture of your food. icon_lol.gif
  • DanOmatic

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    Jun 21, 2013 1:49 PM GMT
    I think that if you're comfortable in your own skin and enjoy your own company, doing things alone is a non issue.

    I have a lot of friends, but our schedules don't always mesh, so if I feel like going out for dinner or seeing a movie by myself, I just do it. I also travel by myself frequently.

    I find when I do things by myself, I'm prone to meet new people.

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    Jun 21, 2013 1:51 PM GMT
    dayumm saidWhen I go to restaurants as "Party of One", they think I'm the secret food critic in town so they'll treat me like a freakin' king. Helps if you take a picture of your food. icon_lol.gif


    LOL haha that's a good one to do!!
    The only places I eat alone are usually sushi train kind of restaurants.
    I just might give this a go hehe.
    Just pull random faces whilst I eat as well hahaha.
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    Jun 21, 2013 2:05 PM GMT
    Look at it as going to the gym by yourself. Or shopping by yourself. Heck you go to coffee shops alone. Going to the movies and a restaurant alone ain't bad. Haha a date with ones self. Just don't talk about the movie with yourself at dinner after.
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    Jun 21, 2013 2:10 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    thecyclist89 saidJust don't talk about the movie with yourself at dinner after.

    But how else am I to know what I think?


    Just quietly use your thumbs. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 21, 2013 2:17 PM GMT
    I'm someone who definitely needs his alone time. Sometimes I just have to get away from everyone.
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    Jun 21, 2013 2:18 PM GMT
    They're never alone with their face in a phone.