Roommate, Grindr, and Me

  • ADL14

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    Jun 21, 2013 3:40 AM GMT
    So my roommate is a bit of a man whore. He tries to be tasteful, but he still has had sex with a million guys. And they never stay long. Anyway, there have been three or four guys that he brings home that I have tried to talk to or they have messaged me. Isn't that incredibly awkward?! He will introduce the guy and I'm thinking "Oh, nice to meet you jerk that ignored my message. I hope you enjoy this week of awesomeness before you are kicked to the curb."

    My roommate isn't necessarily twink-ish, but he is a bit of a prettyboy whereas I'm a decent looking black guy. He constantly has message notifications. I think race has something to do with it. And the fact that I won't hook up. Anyway...off topic.

    Has anyone else experienced this (seeing guys on Grindr with your good friend awkwardness)?
  • Fable

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    Jun 21, 2013 3:42 AM GMT
    I don't hook up + grindr = ??????
  • ADL14

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    Jun 21, 2013 4:01 AM GMT
    Being on Grindr doesn't automatically mean you want to hook up...
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 21, 2013 4:02 AM GMT
    I don't hook up either ... if you don't hook up, don't bother with grindr or any of the other apps, no one will give you the time of day ... don't believe me ... change your profile to indicate you are looking to hook up and check out how busy you suddenly get
  • ADL14

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    Jun 21, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    I have done things like put up a shirtless pic. And the messages do pick up a bit. It's just that I really wouldn't have any other way to possibly meet guys.
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    Jun 21, 2013 4:11 AM GMT
    Hm, I had two acquaintances invite me over for a party one time, and I was too hammered to go home so they told me I should stay over, one invited me to "sleep" in his bed (what was he thinking? I wasn't born yesterday) but I just asked if I could just sleep on their sofa.. anyway, I guess he was horny and got a guy to come over to replace me, I knew one used grindr to get that guy quick, but, yea it was really weird when both of the acquaintances were having sex, four guys moaning is difficult to sleep.

    I did meet both guys one left right after they had sex, and I met the other in the morning.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jun 21, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    ADL14 said And the fact that I won't hook up.


    Well mister I would say that this is your problem.

    A black guy can easily get laid ( I should know). But if you are on grindr it's almost expected that you are looking for a hookup

    On the rare occasion I dabble with that god forsaken app, I can't help but to chuckle when I come across profiles like yours. Sans-hookup
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    Jun 21, 2013 4:19 AM GMT
    Seems to me you're just making excuses. Of course there are other ways to meet guys. Join sports clubs, go to the gym, go to events around your town, go OUT with friends to the bar, movies, bowling. Seriously dude, saying that grindr is the only way to meet guys is like saying the library is the only place you'll find books. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 21, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    ADL14 said And the fact that I won't hook up.


    Well mister I would say that this is your problem.

    A black guy can easily get laid ( I should know). But if you are on grindr it's almost expected that you are looking for a hookup

    On the rare occasion I dabble with that god forsaken app, I can't help but to chuckle when I come across profiles like yours. Sans-hookup


    Are you saying your Black? Lol If you are mixed with black its not the same.... Mixed is looked upon as exotic lol BIG dif..

    In a way im technically mixed.. but when your mixed with Pure African and African-American.. people don't seem to care as much.. XD
  • ADL14

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    Jun 21, 2013 4:35 AM GMT
    squintz saidSeems to me you're just making excuses. Of course there are other ways to meet guys. Join sports clubs, go to the gym, go to events around your town, go OUT with friends to the bar, movies, bowling. Seriously dude, saying that grindr is the only way to meet guys is like saying the library is the only place you'll find books. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I guess you're right. I need to do more of that stuff. Does frequenting my local Starbucks count? icon_razz.gif

    Back to the topic...
  • ADL14

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    Jun 21, 2013 4:37 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    ADL14 said And the fact that I won't hook up.


    Well mister I would say that this is your problem.

    A black guy can easily get laid ( I should know). But if you are on grindr it's almost expected that you are looking for a hookup

    On the rare occasion I dabble with that god forsaken app, I can't help but to chuckle when I come across profiles like yours. Sans-hookup


    You may be black, but you don't look it. You could be Latino or Middle Eastern. My family joked that I may be left behind when we were in the Dominican Republic on vacation. But there's no doubt that I'm Black. icon_lol.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Jun 21, 2013 5:02 AM GMT
    ADL14 said
    TheBizMan said
    ADL14 said And the fact that I won't hook up.


    Well mister I would say that this is your problem.

    A black guy can easily get laid ( I should know). But if you are on grindr it's almost expected that you are looking for a hookup

    On the rare occasion I dabble with that god forsaken app, I can't help but to chuckle when I come across profiles like yours. Sans-hookup


    You may be black, but you don't look it. You could be Latino or Middle Eastern. My family joked that I may be left behind when we were in the Dominican Republic on vacation. But there's no doubt that I'm Black. icon_lol.gif

    It's interesting that you say I don't look black.

    From my experience, It's usually only black people or those who've grown up in an ethnically diverse community that notice I am mixed with something. Most white people I talk to automatically assume I'm black.

    Anyway, my point is that anyone can get laid on grindr. And once again, from my experience, if you are on grindr you are looking for a lay no matter how much you sugar coat it.

  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 21, 2013 5:05 AM GMT
    ADL14 said
    TheBizMan said
    ADL14 said And the fact that I won't hook up.


    Well mister I would say that this is your problem.

    A black guy can easily get laid ( I should know). But if you are on grindr it's almost expected that you are looking for a hookup

    On the rare occasion I dabble with that god forsaken app, I can't help but to chuckle when I come across profiles like yours. Sans-hookup


    You may be black, but you don't look it. You could be Latino or Middle Eastern. My family joked that I may be left behind when we were in the Dominican Republic on vacation. But there's no doubt that I'm Black. icon_lol.gif

    So are you saying that there are no other black guys that want to meet other black guys either?
  • TheBizMan

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    Jun 21, 2013 5:10 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    ADL14 said
    TheBizMan said
    ADL14 said And the fact that I won't hook up.


    Well mister I would say that this is your problem.

    A black guy can easily get laid ( I should know). But if you are on grindr it's almost expected that you are looking for a hookup

    On the rare occasion I dabble with that god forsaken app, I can't help but to chuckle when I come across profiles like yours. Sans-hookup


    You may be black, but you don't look it. You could be Latino or Middle Eastern. My family joked that I may be left behind when we were in the Dominican Republic on vacation. But there's no doubt that I'm Black. icon_lol.gif

    So are you saying that there are no other black guys that want to meet other black guys either?

    It's less common, but there are a few.
  • highforthis

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    Jun 21, 2013 5:11 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidWell mister I would say that this is your problem.

    A black guy can easily get laid ( I should know). But if you are on grindr it's almost expected that you are looking for a hookup

    On the rare occasion I dabble with that god forsaken app, I can't help but to chuckle when I come across profiles like yours. Sans-hookup


    LOL. Infers that he is hot enough to get sex "despite" being black... Identifies as mixed race on his dating profile.

    OP is a classic case of horny guys trying to cast a wider net by pretending to be wholesome, but "settling" for sex 9 times out of 10. It's not like you've never heard of OKcupid, Jack'd, POF, etc...
  • killercliche

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    Jun 21, 2013 5:12 AM GMT
    Race thread. Go!
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    Jun 21, 2013 5:20 AM GMT
    I dunno it shouldn't really be that hard finding someone online to hook up with no matter your race, if your looking for a relationship on a hookup site that's dumb

    Yes it hurts seeing a guy with super hot pics then in his description he says no blacks or lol even worse when he thinks if he names every other race as a possible match for him Except black people.. XD ROFL, but then I just move on cause they aint worth mah time....

    I think chalking it up to you being black is because your too afraid to face other possible reasons guys may not be into you.. either that or your giving guys you shoudnt want Way too much of your heart before they would even give you the time of day.
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    Jun 21, 2013 5:21 AM GMT
    Also some guys have a Black Man Fetish... Okaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaabhvgtgcykbhvgcgvgvhbaaaaaaaaaaay! icon_wink.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Jun 21, 2013 5:21 AM GMT
    highforthis said
    TheBizMan saidWell mister I would say that this is your problem.

    A black guy can easily get laid ( I should know). But if you are on grindr it's almost expected that you are looking for a hookup

    On the rare occasion I dabble with that god forsaken app, I can't help but to chuckle when I come across profiles like yours. Sans-hookup


    LOL. Infers that he is hot enough to get sex "despite" being black... Identifies as mixed race on his dating profile.

    OP is a classic case of horny guys trying to cast a wider net by pretending to be wholesome, but "settling" for sex 9 times out of 10. It's not like you've never heard of OKcupid, Jack'd, POF, etc...


    LOL. Selectively reading!icon_rolleyes.gif

    My point is anyone can get laid on grindr no matter what your race is.

    Now if YOU have a point, I think now's the time to make it. As a matter of fact I am multi-racial. Got a problem? icon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 21, 2013 5:24 AM GMT
    0_0 Oooww Jack'd Is new to me.. is it a sex site? ( -_-)
  • TheBizMan

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    Jun 21, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    TheRece25 said0_0 Oooww Jack'd Is new to me.. is it a sex site? ( -_-)

    It is icon_biggrin.gif

    edit: another grindr spin off
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    Jun 21, 2013 5:44 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    TheRece25 said0_0 Oooww Jack'd Is new to me.. is it a sex site? ( -_-)

    It is icon_biggrin.gif

    edit: another grindr spin off


    I'll do what I Always do... say I will never use it.... Use it, then leave it the repeat in a vicious cycle like A4A.. and if you don't know what that is I wont tell you, It Will Ruin Your Life!!! icon_eek.gif ...... XD