Jun 21, 2013 1:41 PM GMT
^Nothing to do with the thread topic. I just wanted some traveling music.
To keep it simple (and a little stupid), our Anglified social norms differentiate a single woman from a married one, by the use of "Miss" and "Missus", respectively. Shouldn't we have a titular differentiation for male homo sapiens as well?
(TL/DR version) What title would you give the married man, to acknowledge social distinction in marriage status? Or, would you even bother with it at all?
Up until now, straight men who apparently created this structure didn't have to deal with the question. Straight women do, but many pretend they can tell simply by checking for hardware on the man's hand. Unmarried couples are acknowledged as "Mr. X" and "Ms. Y", while wedded ones are "Mr. and Mrs. X".
Now with gays and lesbians able to marry in larger volumes, lesbian couples can go by "Mrs. X and Mrs. Y" to make it clear to anyone they're hitched, ditching the "Ms." labels. But gay men don't have anything to go by, formally, to differentiate the married dude couples from the Oscar/Felix & Bert/Ernie roomates and the "shacking up" crowd.
As a logical extension from "Mister", "Misterus", for example, would need an abbreviation to be distinctive from "Mrs." Best I can come up with is "Mru." Assuming one doesn't take the name of the other, you'd have a "Mru. X and Mru. Y"
We have that chauvinist formality of referring to hetero wife Y as "Mrs. X" ("Mrs. Bill Clinton"), to make clear exactly who she's tethered to when there's no "Mr. Hillary Rodham" used in comparison. For gay and lesbian couples, I guess that wouldn't work, since the wedded participants would be using the same titles: Mru. X and Mru. Y can't be called Mru. Y and Mru. X, respectively, as it can easily cause confusion. Since it's based in sexist, possessive thinking, I'd rather leave that issue alone, but if you've got a workaround, that's fine.
I was at a WNBA game recently when a pageant contestant winner, "Mrs. Georgia" or somesuch, was tabbed to sing the national anthem. I presume the prerequisite for contest entry was a marriage certificate or something. A lesbian couple sitting nearby brought up a concept of a male married pageant winner being paraded around the state (the irony of why one probably doesn't exist), which jogged this question.
I'm sure plenty of people have thought this through before me, so if you know of a link to a similar discussion, inside or outside of RJ, lemme know. Thanks!