Right to the point: I want to bottom

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    Jun 21, 2013 2:51 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and i have been together 3+ years and up until last September, I was bottom. I've been a bottom my whole life and i'm sure fellow bottoms will agree, it feels amazing. But for some reason our roles have reversed and i now am always top. I will admit that being on top also feels great..... but damn it, I really miss being fucked. My BF has tried a few times but always says it hurts blaming it on him being uncut. Also he can't keep it up long enough. I have gained alot of muscle since we first met and he says im not a twink anymore so maybe its a subconscious thing that the bigger one should be on top. idk. What should I do? Every time I watch porn, I imagine myself being the bottom, and since we are long distance, i watch alot of porn...lol. Dildos are great and all, but im sure we all will agree, there's nothing like having a real cock pounding
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    Jun 21, 2013 3:14 PM GMT
    Why would you be in a long distance monogamous relationship??? If you're going to be monogamous, you should live together. I get the sense that this is about more than just sex.

    In a monogamous relationship, you give up some of your independence but in return gain someone's total commitment to you. It's great when you're in love and living together. But in your case I don't see what's so great about it, if you're living alone and using dildos and watching porn.icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 21, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    I have friends who are in long-distance monogamous relationships. They get on just fine with the arrangement. It's mostly down to professional/educational commitments.

    re: top/bottom. I totally have the hots for bigger beefy men, but get just as turned on by the idea of topping them. And i don't think that's particularly unusual, either.

    I'm uncut, and never experienced soreness as a result of topping. Maybe he just needs to adjust his choice of lube, condom, or rim you more before pounding the crap out of you.
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    Jun 22, 2013 11:28 PM GMT
    Reason for the long distance relationship is my work. We used to live together but I got a job out of state and had to take it. He stayed behind, but I go back every 2 weeks.
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    Jun 23, 2013 4:11 AM GMT
    I think you need to explore why your bf told you that you're not a twink anymore. You said that you don't know if it's a subconscious thing and that perhaps bigger guys should top. You need to find a concrete answer to this. Also, pain from being a top because of an uncut dick doesn't make sense. He needs to explain this further to you.