"Try out" sex before getting into a relationship

  • JaxBriggs

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    Jun 22, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    I'd like your advice on this. I just recently connected with a guy I have known for almost 15 years. When we first met we kind of liked each other but nothing came of it. Then we both moved away. We're pretty much compatible in every way but never had sex. He proposed that we have sex and see if we are compatible before he considers getting into a relationship with me. Is it better to find out if you're compatible sexually w/ someone before you get into a relationship ?
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    Jun 22, 2013 2:24 AM GMT
    JaxBriggs said
    He proposed that we have sex and see if we are compatible before he considers getting into a relationship with me. Is it better to find out if you're compatible sexually w/ someone before you get into a relationship?

    Yes, but announcing that it's a sort of "test" is kinda unromantic. And a bit of a boner killer.
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    Jun 22, 2013 2:29 AM GMT
    Sometimes I taste a grape at the grocery store.
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    Jun 22, 2013 2:59 AM GMT
    Why?... why everyone(to be precise, many, not all) brings sex as an excuse to be or not to be in a relationship?
    when do some people realize that 'sex in not life' but it is only a small part of our life...?

    To OP..
    DO you mean that if you both are not compatible...then you both will be on your own paths?

    Sorry, if I unintentionally offend anyone!
    I just can't see people giving more important to sex over a partner.
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    Jun 22, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    JaxBriggs said
    He proposed that we have sex and see if we are compatible before he considers getting into a relationship with me. Is it better to find out if you're compatible sexually w/ someone before you get into a relationship?

    Yes, but announcing that it's a sort of "test" is kinda unromantic. And a bit of a boner killer.

    Maybe it's a fetish.
    You two might have sex in a room full of people in lab coats and latex gloves making notes on tablets.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 22, 2013 4:28 AM GMT
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    Jun 22, 2013 4:36 AM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    JaxBriggs said
    He proposed that we have sex and see if we are compatible before he considers getting into a relationship with me. Is it better to find out if you're compatible sexually w/ someone before you get into a relationship?

    Yes, but announcing that it's a sort of "test" is kinda unromantic. And a bit of a boner killer.


    No kidding. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 22, 2013 4:40 AM GMT
    Probably more useful for considering a closed relationship than for an open one but fun either way.

    To add the romance back you could start with a candle lit sampler plate dinner.
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    Jun 22, 2013 5:14 AM GMT
    Hmmm he sounds like a slut to me. If you're into someone on all levels, and more over fall in love, the sex will be great. Or at least, it should. Plus, there have been studies that say when u jump into the sac with someone before you are a couple, then it'll never become long term. All you need to know is which role you each prefer...that's how you'll know you're compatible. If there are strong feelings involved, the sex will be great anyway.
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    Jun 22, 2013 6:36 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidSometimes I taste a grape at the grocery store.


    This is more like squeezing a couple kumquats for firmness...
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 22, 2013 7:44 PM GMT
    hellass saidHmmm he sounds like a slut to me. If you're into someone on all levels, and more over fall in love, the sex will be great. Or at least, it should. Plus, there have been studies that say when u jump into the sac with someone before you are a couple, then it'll never become long term. All you need to know is which role you each prefer...that's how you'll know you're compatible. If there are strong feelings involved, the sex will be great anyway.

    Haha, no, it's not slutty to have sex with someone you're interested in having a relationship with. I agree with Art that it's not exactly romantic to be so blunt about it, but sex is important in a relationship. If it weren't important, we'd all be married to women by now.
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    Jun 23, 2013 12:03 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    hellass saidHmmm he sounds like a slut to me. If you're into someone on all levels, and more over fall in love, the sex will be great. Or at least, it should. Plus, there have been studies that say when u jump into the sac with someone before you are a couple, then it'll never become long term. All you need to know is which role you each prefer...that's how you'll know you're compatible. If there are strong feelings involved, the sex will be great anyway.

    Haha, no, it's not slutty to have sex with someone you're interested in having a relationship with. I agree with Art that it's not exactly romantic to be so blunt about it, but sex is important in a relationship. If it weren't important, we'd all be married to women by now.


    Well I know it's important. But to just throw it out there before u date...seems kinda douchey icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 23, 2013 12:17 AM GMT
    I wanna masturbate while groping the OP...if that's really his pic.
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    Jun 23, 2013 12:18 AM GMT
    I'm gonna guess he's been in a relationship where the sex was less then what he wanted and he wasted a lot of his life being unhappy.
    Hopefully he is open to talking about it.
  • rnch

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    Jun 23, 2013 12:21 AM GMT
    A kinda-sorta cold blooded way to go about it....but I guess at the OP's age awesome sex is just as important as any other intangible part of a potential relationship.