Is this guy for real?

  • Musicman91

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    Jun 22, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    I messaged this guy on Scruff and we've been talking for about 2 weeks. He told me he was taking care of his uncle who was dying. I never asked if his uncle passed or not because I didn't want to upset him. I told him if he ever needed to talk he could always message me and he never brought it up again. I asked him on Monday if he wanted to hang out and he said he couldn't because he was broke. I told him we didn't have to go anywhere spectacular just go for a walk.

    So we set up to hang out Wednesday night. I text him that morning and he said he had to cancel because his dog had his jaw and lower teeth removed. So I told him it was ok and we made plans for Friday. Then Friday morning rolls around I text him and he cancelled again saying his cousin had commit suicide. We haven't rescheduled.

    I don't know if this guy is being serious or not. Maybe he really doesn't want to hang out with me? He seems like a cool guy and we've had some good chats. And he sent me a few pictures so he is most likely real...

    I just don't want him to be lying to me making up these horrible excuses. I'll reschedule with him one more time and if he cancels again I'm done. Sorry for the rant I needed to get it off my chest.
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    Jun 22, 2013 6:28 AM GMT
    Those are all the typical warning signs of a fake profile. If a guy's excuses sound like a soap opera, then he's fake or just being a dick to you rather than tell you he's not interested. Just block him and move on.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 22, 2013 6:54 AM GMT
    If he is for real, he's got a really big dark cloud hanging over him ..... I wouldn't want to be standing under it with him when lighting strikes
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    Jun 22, 2013 7:02 AM GMT
    xrichx saidThose are all the typical warning signs of a fake profile. If a guy's excuses sound like a soap opera, then he's fake or just being a dick to you rather than tell you he's not interested. Just block him and move on.
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    Jun 22, 2013 7:03 AM GMT
    When guys want to meet you, when they really, truly, honestly want to meet you and they are in your area, they will literally meet you that second, or the following day. I'm not kidding. They will say dude what you are up to ok let's do something now.

    If at any point, ANY point, a guy puts off meeting you, he doesn't want to meet you/is fake/etc.

    Seriously, that's how guys operate. It's this second or tomorrow or it's not happening. This coming WEEKEND at the ABSOLUTE latest.
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    Jun 22, 2013 7:11 AM GMT
    Also, don't meet guys that are more than a 15 minute drive away. If he flakes out or turns out to be a bogus, then at least you didn't waste too much time/gas.
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    Jun 22, 2013 4:48 PM GMT
    "...his dog had his jaw and lower teeth removed..."

    The hell?
    But I know what you mean. A guy that I'm supposed to meet exhibits many little signs of just wanting to play the field while saying he wants to settle down. There's no solution but to wait and not put your complete heart into it.

  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 22, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    Don't reschedule again. Something smells rotten here. You've already tried twice to reschedule. If he's truly interested, he'll make the next move.

    Desperation is the ultimate interest killer. Do not message him again.
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    Jun 22, 2013 5:06 PM GMT
    This is definitely the guy you should pursue!! icon_eek.gif
  • Import

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    Jun 22, 2013 5:09 PM GMT
    "so sorry, I have to cancel. I committed suicide last night" "let's reschedule"
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    Jun 22, 2013 5:40 PM GMT
    Let him make the next few moves....
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    Jun 22, 2013 7:08 PM GMT
    I think you have done your part. It is up to him now. The ball is in his court. Don't bother yourself too much over it, you don't deserve that.
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    Jun 22, 2013 7:11 PM GMT
    Reading these posts about sketchy guys I feel like people need to reacquaint themselves with the fine art of masturbation; it seems like there's too much desperation to hook up.
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    Jun 22, 2013 7:13 PM GMT
    Lumpynose saidReading these posts about sketchy guys I feel like people need to reacquaint themselves with the fine art of masturbation; it seems like there's too much desperation to hook up.


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  • unicoman1

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    Jun 22, 2013 7:14 PM GMT
    The question is... are you for real???? C'mon man.. use some common sense...
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    Jun 23, 2013 12:11 AM GMT
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    Jun 23, 2013 12:30 AM GMT
    I'd be cautious. All the warning signs are there.
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    Jun 23, 2013 12:31 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidsigh....when did we all get so jaded?.....


    I believe it was 1983 after the release of "Staying Alive".
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    Jun 23, 2013 12:31 AM GMT
    Ask him to send you a pic of his dog with its jaw removed.

    I am curious to see it!!!
  • omgazn

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    Jun 23, 2013 12:32 AM GMT
    Well it could be a flake but you never know if its true or not. He might just be nervous to meet someone new or go out in public with another guy.
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    Jun 23, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    I smell a player.
  • Musicman91

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    Jun 23, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    unicoman1 saidThe question is... are you for real???? C'mon man.. use some common sense...


    Sorry to disappoint you with my stupidity faceless man.

    Anyway I haven't messaged him back and I am not going to. If he wants to send me a message fine but I'm not going to initiate a conversation. Thanks for the replies guys!
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    Jun 23, 2013 5:03 AM GMT
    Musicman91 saidI messaged this guy on Scruff and we've been talking for about 2 weeks. He told me he was taking care of his uncle who was dying. I never asked if his uncle passed or not because I didn't want to upset him. I told him if he ever needed to talk he could always message me and he never brought it up again. I asked him on Monday if he wanted to hang out and he said he couldn't because he was broke. I told him we didn't have to go anywhere spectacular just go for a walk.

    So we set up to hang out Wednesday night. I text him that morning and he said he had to cancel because his dog had his jaw and lower teeth removed. So I told him it was ok and we made plans for Friday. Then Friday morning rolls around I text him and he cancelled again saying his cousin had commit suicide. We haven't rescheduled.

    I don't know if this guy is being serious or not. Maybe he really doesn't want to hang out with me? He seems like a cool guy and we've had some good chats. And he sent me a few pictures so he is most likely real...

    I just don't want him to be lying to me making up these horrible excuses. I'll reschedule with him one more time and if he cancels again I'm done. Sorry for the rant I needed to get it off my chest.


    0_0.......... Dude hes Chucking playing with you.. lol im sad to say it but the guy is a psychopath likely.. Mmmmhhhmm and that's forreal doe icon_confused.gif