IrishDarren saidI think each couple sets their own rules; there's no universal, one-size-fits-all solution
But is sharing each other's art and wanking to each other a line crossed?
. Some of our friends do 3-ways and group scenes, even sex parties, been happily married (and a few legally now) for many years. Others are totally monogamous. I'm sure wanking to porn, whether a known face or not, fits into the same scheme.
My late partner didn't like me looking at any porn once we moved in together. I think he was insecure, but needn't have been with me. Nevertheless I deleted all the gay porn I had on my computer, and promised not to use porn sites. He didn't mind that I still visited gay social sites. I complied because I loved him too much to risk losing him over such a minor issue, and I wanted to please him in every way I could.
Now my current partner doesn't mind if I look at "eye candy" and he does it, too. Doesn't concern me in the least, and I've told him he can keep all his friends on Silver Daddies
, too. I don't feel threatened in the least. And I bring him to this screen to read some RJ posts, even got him his own account, but he never uses it. Nothing here he can't see, nothing in my life he can't know.