Love on the internet or RJ for that matter...is it possible?

  • motivated

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    Nov 04, 2008 1:08 AM GMT
    Poll time! How many of you guys out there think it is possible to find love online?

    I have met a good number of people of this site who say they have done it and I know some straight folks who have had luck with the internet game!

    Feel free to share any success stories that can maybe give some of the rest of us hope!

    I have only been on here a few weeks, but let me tell you....the "do you wanna cam?" question is getting a little old!
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    Nov 04, 2008 2:54 AM GMT
    It can happen. I have a couple of friends that have found their bf/gf's via online. I myself met my boyfriend online. So it can happen.

    And the "Do you wanna cam?" is annoying, you can put something in your profile about guys not saying it....but it probably will do nothing about the problem. A lot of guys dont bother reading profiles.
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    Nov 04, 2008 3:57 AM GMT
    Is it possible? Oh hell ya.

    In fact, love on the internet is so much easier than love in real life. Each of you on RJ are perfect little Adonises with charming personalities and great senses of humor. In reality everyone has their flaws, quirks, and other things which makes up a real personality.

    The internet should be a spring board for love, not the theater in which it plays out.
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    Nov 04, 2008 11:19 AM GMT
    Yes. And to MunchingZombie's comment, I try and get most of my quirks out in the open even on the internet, so nobody is surprised at how eccentric I can be. icon_cool.gif
  • Tyinstl

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    Nov 04, 2008 11:25 AM GMT
    My only lasting relationship I've ever had began on myspace. We were together about 13 months, and 6 of those months were long distance.

    As MunchingZombie said, though, it should only be a method of meeting him, not the whole thing. I always find it pathetic when people have online relationships in, like, an online RPG or something.
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    Nov 04, 2008 11:36 AM GMT
    My spouse and I "met" in an AOL chat room in 1998. We married in Massachusetts in 2004. Yes, it is possible.
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    Nov 04, 2008 11:57 AM GMT
    Def is possible. I met my guy on here. We have been going out for over a year and i couldn't be happier with him.
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    Nov 04, 2008 1:28 PM GMT
    Significant online moments:

    1994: Met my gay "mentor" on a local BBS, who helped bring me out (but no sex together).
    1995: Found my first BF on that same BBS.
    2000: Found my first partner through an AOL gay chat room (he died in 2004).
    2007: Found my second partner through an AOL gay chat room, still with him.

    Have also arranged lots of dates & tricks via online over the years, never had a bad experience. In fact, all the bad times were with guys I met in gay bars. I actually screen guys better online than I do during a bar pickup.

    Incidentally, I'm not on AOL anymore except for email, just got too boring, not the fun it was. Nor do I cam for thrills, just use it to IM with guys I know, never accept cam invites.
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    Nov 04, 2008 1:36 PM GMT
    MunchingHusseinZombie saidThe internet should be a spring board for love, not the theater in which it plays out.


    Your own quote? I like it.
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    Nov 04, 2008 1:50 PM GMT
    My BF and I are living proof that love can be found online. So yes, it can be done. Honesty has to be first and foremost.
  • EricLA

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    Nov 04, 2008 7:41 PM GMT
    I've met a couple of guys on here with potential. Both fizzled out quickly though, but it's not like that can't happen with guys met other ways.

    I'm open to it. It just doesn't seem like a lot of RJers are close enough.

    But I've got the "Welcome" sign out!
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    Nov 04, 2008 7:49 PM GMT
    im very skeptical!
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    Nov 04, 2008 7:52 PM GMT
    Since online is just another 'place', then why not.

    It isn't any different than meeting someone
    in the supermarket
    in the office
    at a fundraiser
    at a bar
    at an AA meeting
    on the street
    in an elevator
    at a wedding
    at a funeral
    at a bingo game
    at a dinner party
    etc.

    It isn't until you know the flaws that the infatuation can become love. So like online connections, until you are actuallyand physically with them (and not just the fantasy in your head,) it doesn't really matter how or where you met.
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    Nov 04, 2008 7:55 PM GMT
    why not?
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    Nov 04, 2008 7:55 PM GMT
    The question needs to be defined further. Is it possible to make an initial connection on the internet? Of course. Is it possible to fall head over heels crazy for somebody and carry on a meaningful relationship with a pile of pixels? Again, sure...if you live in Nonsenseville, need validation, or are just plain delusional. Is it possible to make an initial connection on the internet, meet in real life, and translate that online spark into a real one? Sure again. In fact, if you just use the internet as a relationship 'pre-screening,' it might put the odds in your favor.
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    Nov 04, 2008 7:59 PM GMT
    MunchingHusseinZombie said
    The internet should be a spring board for love, not the theater in which it plays out.

    This is really gonna sum up most things people are gonna have to say, I think. The net is just another place to meet, and like a bar or book club or whatever it's a good place to get things started, but shouldn't be where the relationship exists.
  • motivated

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    Nov 04, 2008 11:23 PM GMT
    A lot of positive stories so far....thanks to everyone who has shared!

    i guess you will probably have hits and misses like meeting people anywhere else, which leads me to bgcat57's quote....

    although it is a valid point I don't believe I have ever been asked "how big is your cock?" or "are you a top or a bottom?" while going through produce at the supermarket!! the things people will say from behind a computer screen...

    bgcat57 saidSince online is just another 'place', then why not.

    It isn't any different than meeting someone
    in the supermarket
    in the office
    at a fundraiser
    at a bar
    at an AA meeting
    on the street
    in an elevator
    at a wedding
    at a funeral
    at a bingo game
    at a dinner party
    etc.

    It isn't until you know the flaws that the infatuation can become love. So like online connections, until you are actuallyand physically with them (and not just the fantasy in your head,) it doesn't really matter how or where you met.
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    Nov 06, 2008 9:50 PM GMT
    I met my bf off of here

    m_davis09

    Although I don't think we're at the point to say the three infamous words "I love you" yet, I do believe you can find love online =)
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    Nov 06, 2008 9:54 PM GMT
    I thought I found the perfect guy on here twice, the first one stopped talking to me suddenly. The second one was fairly recent but we kinda stopped talking and all of a sudden he has a new bf... oh well, life happens I guess icon_razz.gif

    edit: sorry that wasn't meant to be an emo rant, basically I feel that we can find amazing people on here, but in the end they are just another guy on the internet and you have to be wary of their true intentions or feelings.
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    Nov 06, 2008 10:14 PM GMT
    I believe it is a mission impossible:

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    though some few may succeed.

  • swimbikerun

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    Nov 06, 2008 10:26 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    MunchingHusseinZombie saidThe internet should be a spring board for love, not the theater in which it plays out.


    Your own quote? I like it.

    I'm partial to MZ's "cum-covered monkeys" but that's just me...
  • Musclebucket

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    Nov 06, 2008 10:28 PM GMT
    Yes for some, no for others
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    Nov 06, 2008 10:30 PM GMT
    I met my partner online - by mistake - and we have been together for 10 years (well 9 years 8 months)
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    Nov 06, 2008 10:32 PM GMT
    No. It cant. And it sucks.
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    Nov 06, 2008 10:32 PM GMT
    I fall in love on RJ all the time.

    first it was Zdrew, and his awesome nipples...then he got a boyfriend...CURSES!!

    then it was Lawson...but he already had a boyfriend so I loved both of them.

    then it was Christiand, who I actually got virtually married to, but then his boyfriend found out and now he doesn't return my emails...I still have a lock of his hair however, so I'm working on a voodoo doll.

    then it was ASUPAS who I'm still madly in love with, but he deleted his profile cause he was spending too much time on here

    then it was vince_in_chicago...who I still have a fondness for...

    and I've gotta add JaseinOC, cause he's a naughty little devil who really wants what only I can give him (you know what I mean, Jase).

    there are probably others, but I'll come back and list them as they come up.