so guys, I'm interviewing for a new position at my job tomorrow.

  • Import

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    Jun 24, 2013 1:39 AM GMT
    As some of u may recall (why would u tho? who cares, right?)
    Almost 2 years ago I moved from Florida to California for a job. This job has worked out great so far. I like it a lot. I also really enjoy living in California, it's such a amazing, beautiful place to live. I love being smug about it too, especially when I go back home to FL for holidays and stuff like that. lolz

    But this job that I'm interviewing for tomorrow would basically require my moving back to south Florida. I would still be with the same organization I am with now (based in San Diego)....However, I would be working remotely (from home) for them.

    This position requires me to do a lot of travel up and down the east coast of the US... Specifically Miami, Tampa, Orlando, Atlanta, DC, Bmore, NYC, Boston, .....oh and philly icon_confused.gif

    My incentive is a pretty sweet pay increase for me ($11k more than what im making now)
    While, that is pretty nice, I'm a bit torn as to whether that would be enough to leave. I mean, I love it here in SD. I hate FL. It's so podunky and ghetto for the most part. Granted, there are nice areas of FL, but generally speaking it's kind of trashy (Yes, I'm a FL native, so whatever).... But, I hate the whole mentality of south FL. It's so ugh.... tacky and gross.

    But I wouldn't mind an extra $11k in my pocket. Needless to say, my family is all from south FL.... so I would essentially also be moving back to in and around them, which would be great!

    So, anyone ever move away from where they're from? And then turn around and move back? I feel like if I go back I will have been so spoiled by southern Cal...that I will find it hard to even take Florida. I feel like there's no diversity there. If you're not some guido or some latin samba dancer or some stupid shit like that....than there's nothing for you there. It's so all about rappers, cars with rims, old New Yorkers with money (and gold chains) and like.... white trash from Ocala who say things like "git r' done" and Latin Americans visiting miami to shop in their shitty south beach boutiques who wear Ed Hardy clothes and D&G sunglasses

    So, is money enough to make one move from where they love? I'm interviewing for the position tomorrow. My mind keeps going back and forth.... pros: be around fam and more money. Cons: living in South FL again.

    Granted, I may not even get the position, but they approached me to apply for it, so I feel as if my chances are at the very least...decent.

    Any Floridians who are offended by what i've said about FL- please get over it and dont take it personally, I'm a native Floridian, so I can speak bad about it if I want. I'm using sweeping generalizations and I know it, but in a lot of areas it's true. Don't even get me started in the folk who live in the keys.

    Dear God,
    Please let south FL not be such a piece of shit if I return.

    Thanks,
    Import

    Has anyone done this?
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jun 24, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    San Diego is my home, it is where I want to live when I'm well off especially Hillcrest.

    Personally I wouldn't take the position if it meant moving back, but that's just me.
    If I were in your position, I'd stay in San Diego forever.


    It's a tough decision. =/
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    Jun 24, 2013 1:55 AM GMT
    If this is a remote position, why move? Just use your parents' address in FL or rent a mailbox. So on paper, you're living in FL. But in reality, you're still living in CA.

    Tax dodgers do that shit all the time. That's why you see so many cars in So Cal with NV, WA, and OR plates.
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    Jun 24, 2013 1:55 AM GMT
    Ultimately it's your decision. But for me, I wouldn't leave California for Florida. I would (and did) leave San Diego for the San Francisco bay area; that was definitely a good move.

    If nothing else, the interview could be a good experience and practice for the next interview, whenever that comes along.
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    Jun 24, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    Moving around for a company can lead to moving up in a company.
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    Jun 24, 2013 2:36 AM GMT
    I live in Miami.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 24, 2013 2:42 AM GMT
    Do it.
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    Jun 24, 2013 2:53 AM GMT
    IDK
    doesn't sound like enough money, if your going to be traveling so much.
    Even when the say they'll pay for everything, it get costly, especially if you're maintaining a home you are never in.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Jun 24, 2013 2:56 AM GMT
    You have two very important traits to make it in South Florida my dear Import!! you are a not a fake nor superficial! I too lived in the Miami area for a few years, and I know how stuck up and superficial most (not all)Floridians can be! there is this urgency and tendency of competitiveness among South Floridians you will have to deal with, and get use to! but knowing you I will be hard pressed if you ever going to give in to it!! good luck, all the best!!
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    Jun 24, 2013 3:01 AM GMT
    Where I live is vitally important to me. I'm hearing you loud and clear when you describe what you think of your new home vs. your old state. I've read you make similar comments for a couple of years, so that tells me that you truly feel that way - this isn't just some passing thought you've suddenly come to realize. You seem to truly like S.D. and you might be very unhappy (going backward) in FL again.

    More promotions and opportunities will come your way. I'd sit tight and work hard. You have exposure now, with top executives in your company noticing your style, and what your contributions / strengths are. I'd hate to see you working remotely and not being right in the center of things - where you can be noticed (you mentioned your company has S.D. as its headquarters).

    Lastly - I was living in the S.F. Bay Area until I moved to a less desirable place (Scottsdale, AZ). Not that Scottsdale was "bad" but it wasn't S.F. I learned to enjoy myself, and made a lot of friends / had fun, etc. But I was always homesick somewhat - and took many trips back to S.F. Finally I moved back to S.F. (where I liked everything so much). I'd hate to see you leave S.D. and be regretting it, and it sounds like you would regret this move. I'd say "no thanks" and wait for another opportunity where you can stay in the city (state) you like best. There'll be many more opportunities down the road.

    Good luck whatever you decide!
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    Jun 24, 2013 3:22 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidYo dawg if you come back here we can like totally hang, ya know? We can chillax and be masc chill bros.
    It's a trap!
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    Jun 24, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    Stay here in California.

    Cuz I'd never meet you if you went back to Florida! icon_smile.gif

    But really, I was in a similar boat a while back. Was contemplating a position in my OK-not-great hometown that would remove me from the Golden State. I suspect the interview panel could tell I was feigning my enthusiasm because I didn't get the job. Dodged a bullet, really, as not much later I got a better offer here in SF.

    Draw pictures of what your ideal life would look like in five years (I don't care if you can't draw for shit) and take steps to make it happen. Regarding the money, in general you will make more money in California than in Florida. Maybe not for this particular opportunity, but sometime down the road.
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    Jun 24, 2013 7:09 AM GMT
    xrichx said
    Aristoshark saidYo dawg if you come back here we can like totally hang, ya know? We can chillax and be masc chill bros.
    It's a trap!


    good thing I wasn't drinking anything because I would have blew across the room reading this icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 24, 2013 11:21 AM GMT
    xrichx saidIf this is a remote position, why move? Just use your parents' address in FL or rent a mailbox. So on paper, you're living in FL. But in reality, you're still living in CA.

    Tax dodgers do that shit all the time. That's why you see so many cars in So Cal with NV, WA, and OR plates.


    My guess it's his travel requirements since he has to cover most of the Eastern seaboard.

    Import - I hear what you are saying. I'm from Charleston SC and if I was offered a higher paying job there, I wouldn't move. The only advantages to living there are my family and the beaches. Otherwise, there's nothing there for me. After living in Orlando, NYC and Charlotte NC, I couldn't move back home. The bigger cities offer so much more multicultural exposure and I would miss that a lot!
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    Jun 24, 2013 12:04 PM GMT
    Ive gotten offers for up to 30k higher than my current salary and i havent taken them. I love where I am at the moment and Im learning much more than at any other place at worked at in the past. You need te be happy with what you are doing and no amount of money will give you that.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 24, 2013 12:29 PM GMT
    It's really a personal decision based on what you value.
    What I or others think may not help you since it is a question on your value system. Only you can decide if you want to move back to FL with a 11K raise or enjoy your life in CA. There isn't a "right or wrong" answer necessarily except what ultimately you decide and your evaluation of it years from now.

    My only thought is... you need to be happy in life. You might be able to get a 11K raise with another job in CA, but you'll never make up the time you lose if you move away from a "now home" in CA. Think carefully.
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    Jun 24, 2013 4:04 PM GMT
    happiness, that is where your focus should be

    i could easily get work in a state called Mississippi, but do I want to make a culture shock change living in SoCal then to the south? Hell to the No, there is no amount of incentive, for me at least, that could get me to move, live and work in certain parts of the country that I didn't feel were right for me, depends on the location of FL, if its Jacksonville, I would say na, but if its close to Ft Lauderdale or Miami, give it a try

    most of us gay men are concentrated in large cultural hub cities, I did a contract job once in a place called Jamestown North Dakota, 1.5hr drive west of Fargo, where only one gay bar (I-Beam) and one adult bookstore existed, the employer wanted to hire me...although the work was ok and people were really nice, not much to do and lacking a gay community and any real culture, so I passed, moved on.

    i am struggling with a decision to do that much travel also, the older you get the harder is going to be, like must be difficult finding friends and relationships when your a flight attendant. living out of a suitcase, communicating from laptop and hooking up at your hotel room may sound glamorous to some, but it gets tiring fast...jet lag..argg, no time to stop and smell the roses, what do you want, fast or slow pace...whatever makes you happy
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    Jun 24, 2013 4:13 PM GMT
    I can only say what I would do.

    I wouldn't move back to Dallas (where I'm from) for anywhere near $11,000. $500,000, maybe, and only just maybe.