Open Gay Marriages:

  • ytOwen

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    Jun 24, 2013 9:50 AM GMT
    Hi! I recently met up with a guy in a Open Marriage.
    I find the drama ensuing ridiculous, and am thinking of making the following public announcement via a public Queer medium:

    This is a Public Service Announcement:

    Out Gay Men in Open Gay Marriages need to ensure good communication between all partners involved in their relationship. If you are in an Open Gay Marriage i.e.: You, or your Partner, play with one, or more, partners : either together, or privately, it needs to be with the mutual consent with all involved: either explicitly or implicitly. To do otherwise is to mislead, and/or cheat the other person(s).

    In that eventuality, it is for the persons involved in the Open Gay Marriage to re-negotiate the terms of their relationship, and make this clear to the third party involved. Passive aggression, and/or social rejection are inappropriate forms of social behaviour.

    Whitehorse has a small Gay Male Community. I hope this message reaches the Gay Men concerned, as well as their peers. I do not approve of your Slut Shaming.

    Please Be Good Ethical Sluts. Lets Fuck On!


    Any thoughts and/or comments Jocks?
  • Fable

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    Jun 24, 2013 10:06 AM GMT
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  • ytOwen

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    Jun 24, 2013 10:14 AM GMT
    Can't hear you fable! Please repost!
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    Jun 24, 2013 11:10 AM GMT
    Despite the eye rolling, this is actually really good advice. Maybe it won't reach the guys in Whitehorse (where is that anyway) but someone will listen.

    No one wants to get unwittingly sucked into someone else's drama.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 24, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    Can't argue with anything said here. Just seems a bit of an over-the-top message. Jealousy is a tricky thing. But a couples' issues really shouldn't be extended to the innocent third party. Unless the third party was actually trying to wedge the couple apart. Sometimes it's perspective.
  • great_scott

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    Jun 24, 2013 5:06 PM GMT
    Oooh same-sex marriage opponents would have a field day with this. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 24, 2013 5:14 PM GMT
    If you wanna ride, don't ride a Whitehorse.
  • Philip101

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    Jun 24, 2013 10:11 PM GMT
    ytOwen,

    Seems sensible advice to me.

    What exactly was the drama you faced? I'm interested to know what issue you faced here as the 3rd party.

    Thanks.
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    Jun 24, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
    great_scott saidOooh same-sex marriage opponents would have a field day with this. icon_lol.gif


    I was on their side with this one, I was hoping marriage equality would finally make you boys keep your willys in your knickers for just your husbands, go figure.
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    Jun 24, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    Iceblink saidIf you wanna ride, don't ride a Whitehorse.


    LMAO.. The song?
    Or..

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    Jun 24, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    Anocxu said
    Iceblink saidIf you wanna ride, don't ride a Whitehorse.


    LMAO.. The song?
    Or..

    12823047703063.jpg

    Not the song, men from the Yukon.
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    Jun 24, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Alrighty then !
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    Jun 24, 2013 10:35 PM GMT
    If one partner doesn't know the other is hooking up I don't think thats considered an open relationship - just cheating.
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    Jun 24, 2013 11:47 PM GMT
    great_scott saidOooh same-sex marriage opponents would have a field day with this. icon_lol.gif


    They're not doing too hot themselves so maybe,we can be a symbol of how a marriage can take on different shapes and survive. Men are sexual beasts. Things need to be adjusted.
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    Jun 24, 2013 11:49 PM GMT
    EuphoricDanger said Men are sexual beasts.


    Hehehe icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 24, 2013 11:59 PM GMT
    IrishDarren said
    EuphoricDanger said Men are sexual beasts.


    Hehehe icon_wink.gif


    Am I lying though? I'm not exactly available but my penis still gets hard whenever the wind blows.
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    Jun 25, 2013 12:12 AM GMT
    I really wish I had to privilege of having this concern.
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    Jun 25, 2013 1:11 AM GMT
    Hello Owen --

    I think couples are free to set their own parameters for their relationships. But when you write:

    "it needs to be with the mutual consent with all involved: either explicitly or implicitly."

    My reaction was that "implicitly" is sure to lead to misunderstandings that someone like you (i.e, the single third party) will get sucked into (no pun intended!)

    Anyway, seeing your post prompted me to look at your profile and to click on the link to your professional website. They were both really cool!


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    Jun 25, 2013 1:41 AM GMT
    ytOwen saidHi! I recently met up with a guy in a Open Marriage.
    And it turns out it was only open on one side.

    Welcome to life.

    Enjoy your experience and hope the best for the couple.

    You're not guilty of anything if you were lied to.
  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Jun 25, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    Great advice OP. My husband and I have been in a successful open marriage for many years by following the guidelines you smartly refer to icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 25, 2013 1:48 AM GMT
    I never understood the whole open relationship concept to begin with. I guess I'm an old fashioned guy and wouldn't want to share my man with anyone else. But, I guess if it works for others and they're happy and safe, to each their own.
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    Jun 25, 2013 1:53 AM GMT
    "open" and "marriage" are opposites. This might be the dumbest thing I've ever heard of.
  • great_scott

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    Jun 25, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    IrishDarren said
    great_scott saidOooh same-sex marriage opponents would have a field day with this. icon_lol.gif


    I was on their side with this one, I was hoping marriage equality would finally make you boys keep your willys in your knickers for just your husbands, go figure.


    Some guys will do anything to avoid responsibility.
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    Jun 25, 2013 2:18 AM GMT
    great_scott said
    IrishDarren said
    great_scott saidOooh same-sex marriage opponents would have a field day with this. icon_lol.gif


    I was on their side with this one, I was hoping marriage equality would finally make you boys keep your willys in your knickers for just your husbands, go figure.


    Some guys will do anything to avoid responsibility.


    I knew this thread would devolve eventually. Yeah, 26 years together and we're avoiding responsibility. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 25, 2013 2:56 AM GMT
    uoft23 saidIf one partner doesn't know the other is hooking up I don't think thats considered an open relationship - just cheating.
    it's all cheating