I don't see how a person can stay in 1 city, month after month after month and not travel or relocate.

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    Jun 26, 2013 3:55 AM GMT
    Edit: this was supposed to had been in travel section, I forgot to change the drop-down box.

    It's been 30 days almost since I've been out of town and I'm literally about to boil over. Only a few more days before my next trip. I'm so bored, tired of seeing the same fucking faces out every week and going online seeing the same guys that have been on the same pages of Jack'd and Grindr. Going to the gym seeing the same guys having the same thing happen, or better yet...not happen.

    I don't know what it is but I get so bored of routines and the same thing all the time. I don't mind consistency and familiar faces, but in this scene, familiarity only breeds contempt.

    I like how when I visit someplace, there always seems to be a replenished sense of being, new people, new opportunities. Staying in 1 place I just feel stagnant and like nothing is going on. Like I've already dated everyone, I already met all the people who it just didn't work out...and now I've got the urge to just got out and force something to happen because it's not happening.

    How do they do it? I have a friend who just wants to go out every weekend and he hasn't traveled anyplace in God knows how long and has lived here all his life. I'm just like, how can this town still be interesting? I'd be tired of going out already lol. Seeing all the Ex's, all your fuck buddies, all the fake ass people...it's irritating.

    I like to move every 2-3 years. I'm already on year 2, and it's a struggle even to wake up and make it thru the day, that's how tired of this place I am. I'm thankful because I know it could be worse, but it could also be better. Then again, I may be on a 'low' or 'withdrawal' stage right now because 2 weeks ago I went hiking in Rocky Mt. National Park and had Gay Pride in the same week. But those are the rare occasional good times I have.
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    Jun 26, 2013 4:04 AM GMT
    What do you do and how can I do it too? icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 26, 2013 4:06 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidWhat do you do and how can I do it too? icon_razz.gif


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    Jun 26, 2013 4:07 AM GMT
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    JumpMan_Josh saidWhat do you do and how can I do it too? icon_razz.gif


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    LOL. You beat me to it.
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    Jun 26, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    ihateyoutoo saidyou sound like you have MONEY and are always able to find employment. what is it that you do where you can't stay in ONE place for a certain amount of time? you a part of the cia or something?

    I've done a few different things that have been temporary. Data Entry, bookkeeping for small businesses (alot of Real Estate and Trust Banks have temporary positions this time of year), and chauffeur services. I'm trying to sign up now for answering phone calls at home. Some of the airlines offer it. And I'm getting my Landline internet back Thursday! Fuck Clearwire and Comcast!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 26, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    It's called a 'career'
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    Jun 26, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    are you a Sagittarius? I can see your frustration
  • Drift

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    Jun 26, 2013 7:36 AM GMT
    Haha I'm a nomad, so sometimes I get those same desires move, but not from a lack of desire to see the same, just desire to see more. Maybe it was growing up with classical music, and martial arts, but I find repetition a beautiful and necessary thing, to truly be able to delve deeply into the subtleties of whatever you're focusing on, and also discover more about yourself.

    What does it tell you about yourself, that seeing the same faces causes such frustration?
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    Jun 26, 2013 7:39 AM GMT
    Drift saidHaha I'm a nomad, so sometimes I get those same desires move, but not from a lack of desire to see the same, just desire to see more. Maybe it was growing up with classical music, and martial arts, but I find repetition a beautiful and necessary thing, to truly be able to delve deeply into the subtleties of whatever you're focusing on, and also discover more about yourself.

    What does it tell you about yourself, that seeing the same faces causes such frustration?

    Damn, I guess I don't need sunscreen. I didn't realize I was standing in shade.icon_lol.gif
  • drypin

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    Jun 26, 2013 7:44 AM GMT
    I don't know, fuzzy pec. Traveling is my passion, too, and I moved around my fair share as a young person, but by my twenties I landed in Chicago where I made amazing friends and still had the chance to encounter a lot of new faces over the years. I stayed there for nearly nine years (though in several different apartments and parts of the city).
    While traveling through Europe I met my future husband, and again, I've been in Frankfurt for 15 years now. It's much smaller than Chicago but it's still a metropolitan area by European standards, so plenty of new faces go through. In addition to being where something is 'happening', the key seems to be having very strong, meaningful friendships. They rejuvenate me and give me a sense of belonging. And perhaps my priorities changed as I got older.
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    Jun 26, 2013 7:47 AM GMT
    [size=20][size=14][size=10][color=red][b]HELL- AKA....(DENVER) Someone in washinton DC said they couldn't live here because is extremly isolated from other cites. 500 miles between kansas city or salt lake.. Soon as i relocate i will be on road trips every chance i get!!!
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    Jun 26, 2013 7:48 AM GMT
    Traveling is fun and I'm sure people would do more of it if they could. However some people have things that bind them to a particular area. Whether it be lack of money, work obligations, family, as well as other things.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jun 26, 2013 8:10 AM GMT
    Travleing is fun and I want and will do more of it!! I am already planning a few trips, well they are road trips but that's more fun that big plane trips. I love it but am always happy to return to a true home!!

    I know your feeling. Like you are sitting there and the world is passing you by and there are things happening in other places that you miss. I guess do it now when you can
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    Jun 26, 2013 8:24 AM GMT
    Drift said
    What does it tell you about yourself, that seeing the same faces causes such frustration?

    It's not really seeing the same faces. If we have a relationship or friendship, that's okay. But seeing the same faces of people who just stare at you and say nothing, or guys you've had relations with that didn't work out...is what frustrates me. It just creates negative energy in my mind. I see it in my friend. He sees an X he hasn't seen in years and gets all emotional. I tell him, why the fuck have you not moved? You been in the same gay scene for 8 years. Let's get out and go somewhere LOL.

    I seen a guy at Pride earlier this month who, when I first moved here, he came up to me and gave me his number. He was hot, I thought for sure it was gonna turn into something. Turns out, the mother fucker was involved the whole time and shortly after moved to New York to be with the guy. It's discouraging. And seeing people like that again just reminds me all over again of the repeated failures I've had in this fucked up town. Never had so much issues in my life meeting honest people. And his friend who still lives here, very 2-faced Hispanic man, always feels the need to REMIND me of the deception by telling me how much that guy likes me, yet how he moved to New York with his Black boyfriend. I'm like shut the fuck up. I don't want to hear that bullshit.

    Shaudd saidSomeone in washinton DC said they couldn't live here because is extremly isolated from other cites. 500 miles between kansas city or salt lake.. Soon as i relocate i will be on road trips every chance i get!!!

    I tend to forget that important fact sometimes, although it's the nucleus of why it is the way it is. Denver feels like a big city at times, and it has potential and it gives the 'impression' of places like Chicago, LA and San Francisco. But you have people from Cali who are temporary transplants, and then people from the cornfields of Kansas/Nebraska and Iowa. Then you have people born and raised here who haven't adjusted to the changes.

    Guys here too are just so narrowed-minded when it comes down to things. Not on a large scale, but once you get to know them it all comes out. The things I've heard are just mind-blowing sometimes. I guess when you're 500 miles from everywhere you tend to think in a box.

  • Apparition

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    Jun 26, 2013 11:02 AM GMT
    It sounds like you need a hobby. If you get bored after a few weeks of doing "average" things most mortals do (without say scampering in the mountains or a full blown pride) are you really going to be not bored ANYWHERE? Similarly, you are going to very much hate being over 30 when people your age start shacking up and disappear til they break up in their mid forties. If you think grindr sucks now, wait til everyone is 10 years older or younger than you online. lol

    What do you do for fun? If you only go out to a few clubs, and only interact with snobby ripped gym bunnies, I can see why you run out of them pretty fast, and for the most part younger guys into that type of thing are mostly all the same as it wouldnt be cool for them to have any real interests.


    There is a whole big world out there of things that, although they dont give the immediate gratification you seem to like, can give an ongoing gratification of the anticipation of seeing something through to the end (say a long-term project like a fabulous garden that takes years to establish - obviously not for you but something more on that time scale). If you have several long term projects going you will always have something to do and the time will fly by and you wont be pacing the floor wishing you were somewhere else being bored doing the same thing with interchangably the same people who just happen to live in another place for you to get bored because really everywhere is the same for the most part.
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    Jun 26, 2013 11:42 AM GMT
    My office moved five minutes away from me last year. My gym is down the block. I haven't left my town in months and months. I really save on gas and, being a home body, I'm lovin' it.
  • bumblejacket

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    Jun 26, 2013 3:23 PM GMT
    Family. Friends. Loved ones. If you keep moving you gain more friends but it becomes more difficult to have that deeper friendships. You move to a new area and you have to start all over again. And you have to look for favorite places to eat, hangout, etc.

    It is fun to travel and move around but it also has its negatives.
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    Jun 26, 2013 3:49 PM GMT
    I enjoy seeing my friends often and don't see the appeal in always needing a new fresh hookup. Besides what happens when the tits sag and the hair goes grey. Still gonna be roaming with your age taken off grindr?
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    Jun 26, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
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  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 26, 2013 3:58 PM GMT
    If you are going to travel, what is the point of staying in the US ... basically the US is all the same people wise and culturally, so all you are really doing is looking for a new apartment view.
  • LJay

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    Jun 26, 2013 4:09 PM GMT
    Try it on social security income. And don't forget that even with insurance, I just had to shell out $300 for a single prescription. I did manage also to figure out how to pay to get the roof leak stopped.

    It would be great to travel. It would even be fun to be able to spend a day in the park with a fancy picnic.

  • kevmoran

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    Jun 26, 2013 4:20 PM GMT
    I think a lot of people feel that way, then they turn 22.
  • fitartistsf

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    Jun 26, 2013 7:26 PM GMT
    Some of us don't make enough money to be able to save to travel. And some of us don't have the looks, or the physical genetics to trade on, or sugar daddies to us along on trips.
    I work for the government, who because of the sequestration is about to begin a period of forced days off without pay, also I have a mortgage, which just went up 200 dollars a month. So, some of us aren't lucky enough to be able to travel any time we want....
    Last year, for the entire month of June, I got to stay in London. Stayed in London with my family when we rented a flat. But it was a family member who paid for the trip. Otherwise, I could never afford such a luxury.
    Just be grateful that in this period of your life, you have the ability to be able to travel. It won't always be that way. You may end up trapped in a city because of the job or relationship that won't allow you to travel, just be prepared for that someday. And enjoy when you can travel today.
  • tazzari

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    Jun 26, 2013 7:28 PM GMT
    "Boredom is in the mind of the boring."
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    Jun 26, 2013 7:29 PM GMT
    ihateyoutoo saidyou sound like you have MONEY and are always able to find employment. what is it that you do where you can't stay in ONE place for a certain amount of time? you a part of the cia or something?


    I'll second this. Alot of us just don't have the time or money to travel as much as we want. Hell, i want to see the world but I practically work myself to death just trying to pay my bills. The world is a harsh reality and it sounds to me like the OP has been insulated from it for a little too long.