Damned if u do, damned if u don't---Catch 22

  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
    Do u ever feel like whatever u do, it doesn't matter, others will still receive it indifferently? It's like knowing that even though u try to do ur best, others will put u down or have already dismissed ur efforts? Like u've been passed over, u don't count, ur opinion null & void? It could involve any situation---ever meet people who think they are better than u & treat u like ur below their level? They know nothing about u, they're not interested in getting to know anything about u, but they've already formulated an opinion about u based on hearsay & what they preconceived about u?.....
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 26, 2013 5:51 AM GMT
    Yes, I often feel that way about my writing.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 6:03 AM GMT
    Wonder how many would say, "Welcome to my life story."
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 26, 2013 6:03 AM GMT
    Better to be noticed .. then not a all
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 26, 2013 6:06 AM GMT
    Lol, did you change the first post?

    Anyway, it's easy to get hung up on people who have rejected you, but you just have to ignore them, otherwise you'll let them have power over you.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 6:07 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidBetter to be noticed .. then not a all


    There are those who feel invisible. Goes back to my Do U Feel Invisible? thread.....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 6:09 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidLol, did you change the first post?

    Anyway, it's easy to get hung up on people who have rejected you, but you just have to ignore them, otherwise you'll let them have power over you.


    I added to it. I was still formulating my thoughts icon_smile.gif

    I agree. Guess a lot of us let others' opinions of us validate or invalidate who we are. And if ur not strong inside, u let it easily affect u.....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 6:27 AM GMT
    All part of being human---wanting everyone to love u & accept u & who u are. Ideally we should easily accept those who are kind & nice. But people are shallow & base their likes on superficial values like looks or wealth. "He's good-looking so he'll make me look good to be around him." It's a cliquish high school mentality that we never escape.....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 6:35 AM GMT
    What kind of friends do u surround urself with? Are u all-inclusive & tolerant of all types & have a diverse group of friends? Or are u very exclusive & only make friends with those who look a certain way or are on a higher class or are on the same league as u & walk around like ur entitled?
  • killercliche

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    Jun 26, 2013 8:10 AM GMT
    spgem saidDo u ever feel like whatever u do, it doesn't matter, others will still receive it indifferently? It's like knowing that even though u try to do ur best, others will put u down or have already dismissed ur efforts?


    Step one is to not "feel" that way, but rather "accept" that that is simply the way things are.

    Step two is to not care.

  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 11:31 AM GMT
    killercliche said
    spgem saidDo u ever feel like whatever u do, it doesn't matter, others will still receive it indifferently? It's like knowing that even though u try to do ur best, others will put u down or have already dismissed ur efforts?


    Step one is to not "feel" that way, but rather "accept" that that is simply the way things are.

    Step two is to not care.



    Think one should acknowledge it & be aware of it, but never accept it. We're all sentient beings, we care too much. But sometimes, most times, u just have to say, "Fuck it, I'm gona do what makes me happy no matter what anyone thinks!"
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 12:42 PM GMT
    Ever feel some are just born lucky, just the right everything to make it easily thru life? Besides trust-fund babies, ever feel some just get handed things to them without much effort just because they look the part, they look right, they fit in? While others have to struggle & strive to make ends meet, to be recognized & appreciated?
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jun 26, 2013 12:49 PM GMT
    spgem saidEver feel some are just born lucky, just the right everything to make it easily thru life? Besides trust-fund babies, ever feel some just get handed things to them without much effort just because they look the part, they look right, they fit in? While others have to struggle & strive to make ends meet, to be recognized & appreciated?


    Yup.
    But...

    I pity them. I'm thankful for my suffering, it has given me character, it has made me who I am... something people that get shit handed down lack.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 1:04 PM GMT
    Rene_Aensland said
    spgem saidEver feel some are just born lucky, just the right everything to make it easily thru life? Besides trust-fund babies, ever feel some just get handed things to them without much effort just because they look the part, they look right, they fit in? While others have to struggle & strive to make ends meet, to be recognized & appreciated?


    Yup.
    But...

    I pity them. I'm thankful for my suffering, it has given me character, it has made me who I am... something people that get shit handed down lack.


    That's the case with the sons of the owner where my friend works. They're trust-fund babies & all they do is get high & party. They've both been to rehab multiple times. They have a lump of hundred dollar bills in their wallet all the time. The older one lost his license from too many DUIs, so he has a chauffer drive him around in his Maserati.....Man if I was loaded like them, I'd be like Albert Barnes, traveling the world, enjoying all the beauty the world has to offer, amassing a great collection of art, something to leave behind.....
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jun 26, 2013 1:06 PM GMT
    spgem said
    Rene_Aensland said
    spgem saidEver feel some are just born lucky, just the right everything to make it easily thru life? Besides trust-fund babies, ever feel some just get handed things to them without much effort just because they look the part, they look right, they fit in? While others have to struggle & strive to make ends meet, to be recognized & appreciated?


    Yup.
    But...

    I pity them. I'm thankful for my suffering, it has given me character, it has made me who I am... something people that get shit handed down lack.


    That's the case with the sons of the owner where my friend works. They're trust-fund babies & all they do is get high & party, they've both been to rehab, multiple times. They have a lump of hundred dollar bills in their wallet all the time. The older one lost his license from too many DUIs, so he has a chauffer drive him around in his Mazarati.....Man if I was loaded like them, I'd be like Albert Barnes, traveling the world, enjoying all the beauty the world has to offer, amassing a great collection of art, something to leave behind.....


    I know exactly what you mean buddy.
    London, New York and Amsterdam are my places to go.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 1:12 PM GMT
    Rene_Aensland said
    spgem said
    Rene_Aensland said
    spgem saidEver feel some are just born lucky, just the right everything to make it easily thru life? Besides trust-fund babies, ever feel some just get handed things to them without much effort just because they look the part, they look right, they fit in? While others have to struggle & strive to make ends meet, to be recognized & appreciated?


    Yup.
    But...

    I pity them. I'm thankful for my suffering, it has given me character, it has made me who I am... something people that get shit handed down lack.


    That's the case with the sons of the owner where my friend works. They're trust-fund babies & all they do is get high & party. They've both been to rehab multiple times. They have a lump of hundred dollar bills in their wallet all the time. The older one lost his license from too many DUIs, so he has a chauffer drive him around in his Maserati.....Man if I was loaded like them, I'd be like Albert Barnes, traveling the world, enjoying all the beauty the world has to offer, amassing a great collection of art, something to leave behind.....


    I know exactly what you mean buddy.
    London, New York and Amsterdam are my places to go.


    Some just don't know how lucky they have it. How easy life would be if they had their act together.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jun 26, 2013 1:16 PM GMT
    I stopped getting angry at it after some time, it's not worth it.
    They usually grow up to be very unhappy.

    It's pretty sad. =/
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 1:20 PM GMT
    Rene_Aensland saidI stopped getting angry at it after some time, it's not worth it.
    They usually grow up to be very unhappy.

    It's pretty sad. =/


    Imagine being Prince William or Harry? All that wealth, prestige, entitlement....
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jun 26, 2013 1:33 PM GMT
    spgem said
    Rene_Aensland saidI stopped getting angry at it after some time, it's not worth it.
    They usually grow up to be very unhappy.

    It's pretty sad. =/


    Imagine being Prince William or Harry? All that wealth, prestige, entitlement....


    They're not American.
    The thing is about America and its very sad at this moment in life...
    The young generation are told by social media to Live like its your last day.
    Or the "You only Live once," a positive message but a very misleading one.

    Am I making sense? lol
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 3:07 PM GMT
    Rene_Aensland said
    spgem said
    Rene_Aensland saidI stopped getting angry at it after some time, it's not worth it.
    They usually grow up to be very unhappy.

    It's pretty sad. =/


    Imagine being Prince William or Harry? All that wealth, prestige, entitlement....


    They're not American.
    The thing is about America and its very sad at this moment in life...
    The young generation are told by social media to Live like its your last day.
    Or the "You only Live once," a positive message but a very misleading one.

    Am I making sense? lol


    So it's like "Live for now." "It's all about me. I'm special & a unique individual."

    It should be "Live in the moment, u have every right to enjoy & feel special. But think about tomorrow too & future generations." Consumer consumed. Damned if u do, damed if u don't---Catch 22.....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 3:42 PM GMT
    spgem said
    Rene_Aensland said
    spgem said
    Rene_Aensland saidI stopped getting angry at it after some time, it's not worth it.
    They usually grow up to be very unhappy.

    It's pretty sad. =/


    Imagine being Prince William or Harry? All that wealth, prestige, entitlement....


    They're not American.
    The thing is about America and its very sad at this moment in life...
    The young generation are told by social media to Live like its your last day.
    Or the "You only Live once," a positive message but a very misleading one.

    Am I making sense? lol


    So it's like "Live for now." "It's all about me. I'm special & a unique individual."

    It should be "Live in the moment, u have every right to enjoy & feel special. But think about tomorrow too & future generations." Consumer consumed. Damned if u do, damed if u don't---Catch 22.....


    You can better ur future by helping better others....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    Do u feel entitled or do u feel u have to work hard for everything u get in life?.....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 4:58 PM GMT
    Do u feel ur not good enough & don't measure up to people's or potential lover's ideals so ur passed over?
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    Jun 26, 2013 4:58 PM GMT
    I have 2 songs for you.

    This one for when you're angry and bitter about when your efforts are wasted on unappreciative and stupid people.
    SONG http://grooveshark.com/s/It+s+Not+Safe/32nd5U?src=5
    LYRICS http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/aimeemann/itsnotsafe.html

    And this one for when you need comfort when surrounded by nonsense.
    SONG http://grooveshark.com/s/Never+Mind/2PEm2T?src=5
    LYRICS http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/j/jann_arden/nevermind.html
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jun 26, 2013 5:09 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidI have 2 songs for you.

    This one for when you're angry and bitter about when your efforts are wasted on unappreciative and stupid people.
    SONG http://grooveshark.com/s/It+s+Not+Safe/32nd5U?src=5
    LYRICS http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/aimeemann/itsnotsafe.html

    And this one for when you need comfort when surrounded by nonsense.
    SONG http://grooveshark.com/s/Never+Mind/2PEm2T?src=5
    LYRICS http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/j/jann_arden/nevermind.html


    Love Aimee Mann's lyrics icon_smile.gif