if you are a virgin what are you waiting for?

  • Apparition

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    Jun 26, 2013 12:36 PM GMT
    So many hot guys on here have claimed to be virgins (as far as gay sex of any type goes). If you have had time to deal with coming out (and that is over with for the most part), and still not had any kind of sex - yet have a profile saying you would be up for it (ie. you are unhappy with celibacy):


    What would it take to get you some experience? Do people have to ask YOU? Are you shy? Do you need to be married or some such? I havent seen anyone on here too ugly to get some kind of action, so what does your handsome prince need to know/say/do to sweep you off your feet.

    Just curious.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 26, 2013 4:31 PM GMT
    ihateyoutoo saidi'm afraid of sex since it involves pleasuring myself and another person. i could live with topping someone even though i'm a bit scared of someone having a chocolate railroad that hasn't been washed properly winding up on my rubber when i pull out, getting head or kissing even due to diseases like hiv, stds or who knows what else but i dunno about bottoming though. i would LOVE to but i'm NOT @ that point where i'm ready to fuck yet. the irony of that is i know how to act out on my sexual urges towards myself where i pretty much jerk off every single day more than once. i just haven't gotten myself comfortable enough to move on towards practicing my sexual urges on another person let alone a guy. i've accepted that i'm gay and all BUT to actually act out on it where i'm actually making out with another guy and etc is like a HUGE LEAP. hell, i couldn't even bring myself to have sex with a female let alone date one as much as i tried to force myself to want to date or fuck a female. just wasn't attracted to them.

    i pretty much avoid the whole sex matter altogether and stick with masturbation since it's easier, i'm comfortable with doing it, no need for a second party and i can basically control everything unlike where sex, i have to worry about the next person. when i have it all figured out and am comfortable enough with myself, i'll have sex. i hope that i'm able to find a fuck buddy or a boyfriend to do it with though. not really trying to fuck random strangers though i don't know what lies in store for the future. as long as my right hand is fine and there's fleshlights, sex toys and other things to use for masturbation, i'm good. sex is NOT a concern right now as long as i'm masturbating.

    sorry for the long essay.

    It really doesn't have to be that complicated...
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    Jun 26, 2013 4:48 PM GMT
    Honestly I don't feel comfortable with just having random sex with some stranger that I don't even know. I actually have a conscious. I think that's the reason I wait, or am still a virgin. Oh, and I want my first to be with a guy I don't regret, and can look back and say, "I don't regret giving my first to him."
  • MikeW

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    Jun 26, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    I'm not a virgin but I feel like I am. I haven't had sex since 2001 so I joke about being a virgin again.

    For me, I don't know, the situation would have to be 'just right'. I don't do random hookups, so it would have to be someone I knew and at least 'liked' and felt 'safe' (emotionally) with. They would need to be attractive to me and that is a problem because I don't find many men who are 'age appropriate' attractive. Most that I do see appear to be straight and married. I'm also kind of shy, not apt to make the first move mostly because I assume at my age my advances wouldn't be appreciated.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 26, 2013 5:02 PM GMT
    Mesmer saidHonestly I don't feel comfortable with just having random sex with some stranger that I don't even know. I actually have a conscious. I think that's the reason I wait, or am still a virgin. Oh, and I want my first to be with a guy I don't regret, and can look back and say, "I don't regret giving my first to him."

    Current Total Number of Virgins on RJ = 1 age 24icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 26, 2013 5:07 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    Mesmer saidHonestly I don't feel comfortable with just having random sex with some stranger that I don't even know. I actually have a conscious. I think that's the reason I wait, or am still a virgin. Oh, and I want my first to be with a guy I don't regret, and can look back and say, "I don't regret giving my first to him."

    Current Total Number of Virgins on RJ = 1 age 24icon_eek.gif



    and this is why I stay a virgin, so I don't get the option to meet guys like you.
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    Jun 26, 2013 5:09 PM GMT
    I really wanted to meet someone I felt comfortable with and didn't want to degrade myself to a random hookup for the first time.

    So yeah, met someone awesome, had my first sexual experience, and don't regret it at all. Virginity isn't a big deal as people make it out to be. Do what makes you comfortable above everything else :-)
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 26, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    Mesmer said
    AMoonHawk said
    Mesmer saidHonestly I don't feel comfortable with just having random sex with some stranger that I don't even know. I actually have a conscious. I think that's the reason I wait, or am still a virgin. Oh, and I want my first to be with a guy I don't regret, and can look back and say, "I don't regret giving my first to him."

    Current Total Number of Virgins on RJ = 1 age 24icon_eek.gif



    and this is why I stay a virgin, so I don't get the option to meet guys like you.

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  • HottJoe

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    Jun 26, 2013 5:16 PM GMT
    I decided to delete my first post. Although I was obviously joking, I don't want to offend anyone... There's nothing wrong with not having sex. It's better to wait than to be reckless with your body and mind.
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    Jun 26, 2013 5:19 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    Mesmer said
    AMoonHawk said
    Mesmer saidHonestly I don't feel comfortable with just having random sex with some stranger that I don't even know. I actually have a conscious. I think that's the reason I wait, or am still a virgin. Oh, and I want my first to be with a guy I don't regret, and can look back and say, "I don't regret giving my first to him."

    Current Total Number of Virgins on RJ = 1 age 24icon_eek.gif



    and this is why I stay a virgin, so I don't get the option to meet guys like you.

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    you talk like it was something to be ashamed of. Sorry but i'm not ashamed of it at all.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 26, 2013 5:21 PM GMT
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  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 26, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    Mesmer said
    AMoonHawk said
    Mesmer said
    AMoonHawk said
    Mesmer saidHonestly I don't feel comfortable with just having random sex with some stranger that I don't even know. I actually have a conscious. I think that's the reason I wait, or am still a virgin. Oh, and I want my first to be with a guy I don't regret, and can look back and say, "I don't regret giving my first to him."

    Current Total Number of Virgins on RJ = 1 age 24icon_eek.gif



    and this is why I stay a virgin, so I don't get the option to meet guys like you.

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    The count is still at 1 icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif



    you talk like it was something to be ashamed of. Sorry but i'm not ashamed of it at all.

    oh ... you shouldn't be ashamed ... it is cool ... I'm just giving you a hard time ... I'm sure the right guy will come along ... that and trying to find a virgin on RJ ... your about to become very desirable icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 26, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    I think I'd be more worried of MoonHawk DIDN'T pick on us icon_lol.gif!
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    Jun 26, 2013 5:26 PM GMT
    I can't help it, I was born this way...

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    Jun 27, 2013 12:33 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said your about to become very desirable icon_wink.gif


    That's pretty much an outdated myth. Sexually, virgins are clumsy, inactive and with a tendency to lay there like a cold fish. It's not their fault, though, sex is a very physical activity and requires practice to finesse, both in how to gauge the pleasure of your partner as well as activate your own.
  • Timbales

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    Jun 27, 2013 12:41 AM GMT
    for many people, sex is emotional and not just a poke in a hole
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 27, 2013 1:12 AM GMT
    Timbales saidfor many people, sex is emotional and not just a poke in a hole

    Emotions???? I'm straight-acting though...icon_neutral.gif







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    Jun 27, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    Sometimes I wish I were a virgin....
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 27, 2013 2:29 AM GMT
    Blakes7 saidSometimes I wish I were a virgin....

    Uh-oh, what have you done?icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 27, 2013 2:44 AM GMT
    Nothin....
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 27, 2013 3:22 AM GMT
    Blakes7 saidNothin....

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    Jun 27, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    Well the two guys I've been with didn't have condoms so... I couldn't.

    Then again, I'm no longer hooking up so I'm probably not gonna lose it for a while. I choose love!
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:48 PM GMT
    Apparition saidSo many hot guys on here have claimed to be virgins (as far as gay sex of any type goes). If you have had time to deal with coming out (and that is over with for the most part), and still not had any kind of sex - yet have a profile saying you would be up for it (ie. you are unhappy with celibacy):


    What would it take to get you some experience? Do people have to ask YOU? Are you shy? Do you need to be married or some such? I havent seen anyone on here too ugly to get some kind of action, so what does your handsome prince need to know/say/do to sweep you off your feet.

    Just curious.


    Perhaps this is a rare instance that I'll speak about myself, and I'll try to be as vague and brief as much as possible (perhaps I could write more about it though at a later point)...

    I've never been one to be shy despite the fact that I'm a recluse. In fact if I did find someone attractive, I don't mind voicing it to that person. If I wanted to be friends with a person too, I would also be open with that as well. One thing I've noticed about some of the shy people on Realjock, is that some are very reflexive (lack autonomy) and have admitted to agreeing to whatever sexual experience is offered to them, to the point they actually become sexually promiscuous. My lack of sexual activity then, actually reflects a strong independence of mind, which I find to be very masculine, liberating and affirming. I actively desire less and accept less, and it is something I actually want.

    And to sort of respond to another poster, perhaps to him and many others, good sex requires extensive experience, but one of the reasons why I don't have it as well, is that I could fully visualized it to completion, and thus what is realized in the mind never has to be actualized. I don't think I'll ever have a problem knowing what to do. I already know that I am a stud and I don't have to partake in sex to know that. And having had sex on my mind so frequently and so vividly in the past (to a degree that may out do many people here), I have come to realize how unnecessary it actually is and learned how to sublimate those desires into intellectual activity.

    So I could do without sex, and I could do without love. But understand that while I don't desire such things, I do have certain goals that I want accomplished. I think it was Plato that once stated that those who fully conquer themselves can conquer the world. So this lack of sexuality and the hundred of other things I detach and deprive myself from, reflects a mastery of self, a feat so rare that I believe it will lay the foundation for me to actualize very grandiose goals, as much as I would have other-wised actualized sexual ones.
  • The_Guruburu

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    Jun 29, 2013 8:54 PM GMT
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    Perhaps this is a rare instance that I'll speak about myself, and I'll try to be as vague and brief as much as possible (perhaps I could write more about it though at a later point)...

    I've never been one to be shy despite the fact that I'm a recluse. In fact if I did find someone attractive, I don't mind voicing it to that person. If I wanted to be friends with a person too, I would also be open with that as well. One thing I've noticed about some of the shy people on Realjock, is that some are very reflexive (lack autonomy) and have admitted to agreeing to whatever sexual experience is offered to them, to the point they actually become sexually promiscuous. My lack of sexual activity then, actually reflects a strong independence of mind, which I find to be very masculine, liberating and affirming. I actively desire less and accept less, and it is something I actually want.

    And to sort of respond to another poster, perhaps to him and many others, good sex requires extensive experience, but one of the reasons why I don't have it as well, is that I could fully visualized it to completion, and thus what is realized in the mind never has to be actualized. I don't think I'll ever have a problem knowing what to do. I already know that I am a stud and I don't have to partake in sex to know that. And having had sex on my mind so frequently and so vividly in the past (to a degree that may out do many people here), I have come to realize how unnecessary it actually is and learned how to sublimate those desires into intellectual activity.

    So I could do without love, and I could do without sex. But understand that while I don't desire such things, I do have certain goals that I want accomplished. I think it was Plato that once stated that those who fully conquer themselves can conquer the world. So this lack of sexuality and the hundred of other things I detach and deprive myself on, reflects a mastery of self, a feat so rare that I believe it will lay the foundation for me to actualize very grandiose goals, as much as I would have other-wised actualized sexual ones.

    Good luck with that.
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    Jun 29, 2013 8:59 PM GMT
    As someone who doesn't even remember his first encounter. I should be the last person posting here.