I don't know what the point of my life is.

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    Jun 27, 2013 12:16 AM GMT
    I am aimless.

    I don't know what to do with my life and I don't feel interested in any career.

    Furthermore, I haven't met any people in my life so far that are nice enough that will be my friends.

    I have no job, no educational desire, no friends.

    I honestly don't know what the point of my life is.

    I want friends but I haven't been lucky enough and I doubt I will ever get decent friends in my real life.

    I really don't see a boyfriend or want a boyfriend in my future either, to be conceited I doubt i'd meet a guy as deep spirited as me.

    I'm abit lonely, but not too lonely.

    Nor am I depressed, if anything I am happier without the hassle of other people.

    My life currently consists of the gym and videogames and cooking, my only social outlet is realjock, my roommate, and my sister who I call in to see.

    I don't even care really if you consider me a loser, I'd rather be a loser than be a nasty bastard like most of the public.

    I just feel, well like bored or resigned.

    Is there something wrong with me?
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    Jun 27, 2013 12:19 AM GMT
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  • HottJoe

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    Jun 27, 2013 12:19 AM GMT
    Sounds pretty normal to me!
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    Jun 27, 2013 12:22 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidSounds pretty normal to me!


    It actually does hahaha now that I have read over it.

    least I keep fit, the gym is my religion.
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    Jun 27, 2013 1:58 AM GMT
    IrishDarren said
    HottJoe saidSounds pretty normal to me!


    It actually does hahaha now that I have read over it.

    least I keep fit, the gym is my religion.



    An old friend of mine (We were in the same gay men's coming out support group decades ago when I was 28 and he was 32) refers to the gym as his "second job."

    But seriously, I hope you can get out of your slump and I wish you well. As for "purpose in life" -- I personally think that helping and connecting with others is a big part of life. But whatever makes you happy that's cool.

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    Jun 27, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    Even though you said you are not depressed, you actually sound kinda depressed, or at least deeply pessimistic.

    I can see why you would feel aimless, because it seems like you are kind of in a holding pattern - with no job, social life, not in school, etc, you don't really have anything moving you in any direction.

    You say that your current lifestyle doesn't bother you, but your post seems to indicate that you feel that something feels off. It might help to come up with some goals for the future. You don't necessarily have to have a big complicated career trajectory, but simply having something that you are working toward might help you feel less aimless.

  • HottJoe

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    Jun 27, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    dc0776 saidEven though you said you are not depressed, you actually sound kinda depressed, or at least deeply pessimistic.

    I can see why you would feel aimless, because it seems like you are kind of in a holding pattern - with no job, social life, not in school, etc, you don't really have anything moving you in any direction.

    You say that your current lifestyle doesn't bother you, but your post seems to indicate that you feel that something feels off. It might help to come up with some goals for the future. You don't necessarily have to have a big complicated career trajectory, but simply having something that you are working toward might help you feel less aimless.


    Now I'm depressed.icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 27, 2013 2:36 AM GMT
    think about something that makes you happiest, then go get it, and if it seems difficult try your best to get the closet thing to it
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    Jun 27, 2013 2:37 AM GMT
    You should revel in the fact that your independent and want to continue to be that way. That you don't need no man to make you happy. I do.

    I think the only problem is that your simply bored and need a new hobby to keep yourself entertained and happy and lively. Art, history, science...sometimes I can kill a Saturday afternoon trying to figure out how to make 3dsmax work.

    Oh and get a job: not for the sake of others but just so you can afford things and appreciate what you have.
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    Jun 27, 2013 3:01 AM GMT
    Judging by the number of Xanax prescriptions filled each day, gotta say, you're pretty normal.
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Jun 27, 2013 3:04 AM GMT
    I am aimless.

    Only because you don't seem to have aimed at anything at all.

    I don't know what to do with my life and I don't feel interested in any career.

    Get a job anyway. Doesn't matter what so long as you don't utterly despise it. Get out. Make peers. Meet people.

    Furthermore, I haven't met any people in my life so far that are nice enough that will be my friends.

    Not only is this pessimistic, it's quite pretentious. Not nice enough? So, what, nobody is up to your standards? Guy, if you're going to spend your life focusing on the most negative traits of people, you're never going to make friends. Sometimes you just have to force yourself to see the best in people. That's what I had to do. It's how I put up with my split friends group while they bicker about drama that happened over a year ago. This can also help you to identify and purge your own negative traits.


    I honestly don't know what the point of my life is.


    Well that falls within the purview of your personal conundrums of philosophy. Perhaps you could take some philosophy classes, or read some books. You could at least entertain several ideas in your spare time. It's all good fun. Just don't become a solipsist.

    I really don't see a boyfriend or want a boyfriend in my future either, to be conceited I doubt i'd meet a guy as deep spirited as me.

    Deep? Not for nothing, but based on your post, you're so much the opposite that I could proverbially fall unconscious face first in your "spirit" and not drown.

    I'm abit lonely, but not too lonely....Nor am I depressed, if anything I am happier without the hassle of other people.

    I do know that feel. When you're alone, you want to be with people, but when you're with people, you want to be alone? Yeah. That's some hardcore cognitive dissonance. You must ask yourself what you actually want out of other people. You can't just want to be with people to not be alone. That is narcissistic and egotistical - to want to be with others simply to complete yourself. Find some way to do selfless good for another person, no matter how little, and nurse that inclination.

    I just feel, well like bored or resigned...Is there something wrong with me?

    You've answered your own question multiple times. You're bored because you're not picking anything up or trying anything.


    And if all else fails, join the military.
  • MikeW

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    Jun 27, 2013 3:14 AM GMT
    I've been around a long time. I'm certainly familiar with the feelings you're describing -- and they can happen regardless of job, education, friends or whatever.

    The way I see it, "the point of my life" is up to me -- not anyone or anything else. Sometimes it all feels totally stupid and purposeless. But not always though. Sometimes I find life, my life, interesting and fun.

    So... what makes the difference. How come sometimes I feel deeply connected with life, even with something spiritual (for lack of a better word), and other times it just seems so dull and boring?

    Is it just brain chemistry? Or is it something more than that?

    Bottom line: It is YOUR life and a life is a rare thing and a terrible thing to waste.
  • LJay

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    Jun 27, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    You are depressed. That is not insurmountable. Keep busy. Visit your doctor and talk about it. Do things.

    Be careful about asking a Presbyterian what the point of it may be. They know.
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    Jun 27, 2013 4:11 AM GMT
    Broseph saidI feel the same sometimes, although I have a great relationship, the rest of my life feels a bit aimless. I feel like I should be doing something positive... volunteering... something. The employment rat-race is not terribly appealing to me.

    I agree you do sound a bit depressed though.

    Aimless = Like a fart in the wind...


    "What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?"

    That's G Elliot and you know, I think she was onto something. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 27, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    "What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?"

    That's G Elliot and you know, I think she was onto something. icon_wink.gif

    Gee, would someone please tell that to the RJ Heathers?
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    Jun 27, 2013 4:16 AM GMT


    Before my shift, or after it if I'd pulled a 6am, I was a runner for Meals On Wheels.

    They always gave me a brown bag lunch for doing it, and I always gave it to any homeless person I found in the local park on the way home. A sandwich, an apple; cookies. Juice.

    That I was able in some small way to make a difference gave me a sense of purpose nothing else could diminish.

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    Jun 27, 2013 4:17 AM GMT
    MikeW said
    meninlove said
    "What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?"

    That's G Elliot and you know, I think she was onto something. icon_wink.gif

    Gee, would someone please tell that to the RJ Heathers?


    What are RJ Heathers? (Yes I'm that dumb, lol)

    x and o
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    Jun 27, 2013 4:19 AM GMT
    MikeW said
    meninlove said
    "What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?"

    That's G Elliot and you know, I think she was onto something. icon_wink.gif

    Gee, would someone please tell that to the RJ Heathers?


    Heathers! What a frickin awesome movie!!! lol

  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 27, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    We live to enjoy, create, live, breath out nitrogen so plants can breath, eat grow and complete the circle of life. What is the purpose of anything? What is the purpose of a rock, a rose, platypus, a mosquito, a cloud, a speck of dust? There is a purpose for everything and everyone. Sometimes its just not so easy to see when you are standing so close to it.
  • camfer

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    Jun 27, 2013 4:21 AM GMT
    It sounds like the start of a spiritual journey. You are just at the beginning.
  • Webster666

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    Jun 27, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    The boredom is probably your biggest problem, and causing most of the rest of your problems.
    There has to be something you would be interested in, career or education or recreation wise.
    You just have to find it.
    I know.
    Sounds simple.

    One thing I know is true.
    The less you do, the more bored you get, and the less you want to do.
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    Jun 27, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    MikeW said
    Gee, would someone please tell that to the RJ Heathers?


    I pick Shannen Doherty

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    Jun 27, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    I, luckily, figured out my Cosmic Mission early: I'm on this Planet to make things better.




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    Jun 27, 2013 4:25 AM GMT
    OK IrishDarren, come here.

    *hugs you*

    Look: "I honestly don't know what the point of my life is."

    The answer for me was to make my life have a point, and more than one. icon_wink.gif